How can I fix my mental state so I can go to school normally?

[Anonymous]

Right now I can't even get myself to school, I do deal with severe anxiety and depression, but that doesn't feel like the cause, I just no matter what do not want to go to school, and will do anything to avoid it. I am currently seeing a therapist and am on medication to try to help with my problems, but I haven't noticed or felt any differences from either of the things listed. At this point its likely i'll fail all my courses this semester, but I honestly don't really care about that, I just know I'm causing a lot of problems for everyone around me and I want to change that, but since I am very coincided in nature I have troubles focusing on it rather than just myself. are there anyways I can change my general attitude or something along those lines so that I can stop being such a burden on others?

[Lucylou1990]

Firstly, you are not responsible for having depression and anxiety anymore than a person is responsible for having a chest infection or broken leg. You are doing your best to help yourself (therapist and medication) and nobody can do more than their best (its literally impossible). Its nice to be considerate but ultimately this is about you and your mental health. Look after yourself and don't fret about others. If you need more motivation to do this, then know that by looking after yourself you will indirectly ease their worry and concern for you. You have to be single minded about doing the best and most healthy things for you right now. Definitely talk about this with your T, how frequent are your sessions? Try as much to be honest in T and don;t just say what you feel you should be saying - there isn;t much benefit in it otherwise. Its really tough when your trying to heal yourself but you still like you have to function for the external things too - school, etc. It can feel counterproductive (I promise I really get it!) If you dont make your healing a priority though there willl always be an external demand that gets in the way. You have to give yourself the time. If you feel up to it then you can try and take on little challenges. Often with anxiety there is a cycle of black/white thinking, all/nothing. Fcousing on smaller things and acomplishing them will give you more confidence to build on, instead of trying to fix yourself so you can take on everything at once. That is daunting for anyone. If school is your main concern, break things down by subject - then by topic. Talk to your school (and discuss this with your T). It may be possible to do a few exams this semester and postpone others til later? Are your course materials available to you at home? Can you study alone and then email your tutor if you are struggling with something in particular? Don't try and do this all alone. Involve other so that they can help with solutions to make this work for you.

[Lucylou1990]

One of the biggest things that helped me was changing my attitude towards exams. My anxiety was so bad that I literally couldn't do anything. I began to see my exams as an opprotunity and not a hurdle. I stopped thinking of it as my one offf chance. I knew I was capable but the enxiety was getting in the way. Exams can be taken again and postponed. You are young. There is no rush. Yes it would be nice to take them now and have them done, but you don't HAVE to. It's an opportunity. do what you feel able. You can always have a second bite at the cherry. Look after yourself - it's you that's the importnat thing in all this. Good luck. If you ever want to pm me, feel free.

[Lucylou1990]

There is more to life then qualifications. Eating and sleeping enough, calming music and light exercise (even just walking or muscle exercises which you can do at home) Therapy, journalling (if it's something you do) plan your day around these things. If you have enough time and feel able then study. Sometimes turning off the laptop/tv/phone for a couple of hours helps me. Sometimes you just need quiet time. Try and commit to it for a couple of days and see if you feel the difference.

[nyooonk]

Nah son the first thing that you need to realise is that depression is a disease that attacks you from within your mind and can quickly change your attitudes towards the things around you.
This affects your whole life, and you have to know that it's not your fault in any way. It's great that you try thinking of others and all, but it's okay to take a second and think of yourself. If the people around you are the ones who can help, then let them. Depression is an inconvenience for everyone - you're not. They don't see you as a burden.
With your anxiety, spend more time around the people that you are most comfortable around/can comfort you - if you don't know who they are and are confused, ask your therapist.
Things will get better, and please don't be afraid to ask for support. Know that there are people who love you and even if they don't understand what you're going through, they will help you.

[YazanAA]

You are a really good person dude, it's good that you are taking medication and seeing a therapist and this is basically the best you can do but remember the benefits of medication don't come in a day and a night you have to be patient. Stay strong best of luck.

[Curmudgeon]

Ideas, if your school district has them:
1. Home study programs
2. Testing out of high school earlier, if you have the smarts.
3. Enrolling in a different high school. Making a fresh start where bullying peers are not there.

[Anonymous]

You really need a torx screwdriver kit.