There is something mentally wrong with me, please help?

[Anonymous]

Okay, so it is the end of the school year. I have high expectations for myself, wanting at least 80% in all of my academic courses in grade 10. I have been acting strange lately, however. I can not focus on school work in class. I tried to focus in math once and was on the verge of screaming and running out (there were so many teard ib my eyes I tried to hide.)
Then today, I tried to do homework. I have my English essay due tomorrow, my history test tonorrow (which I didn't get at all and I was gone for a week. When I asked my friends they never sent me the review.) My math test is Wednesday and I barely get it. I had my essay almost fully typed yesterday, then I find out this morning my computer had a virus and deleted it. My friend promised to send me the review Thursday and ended up never doing it even hough I reminded them. They never even apologized and they have been obline all weekend. Everytime I looked at my work I started to feel pressure on my chest and I started crying. I cried for two hours straight. I took a break and cried again when I sae my work. I couldnt write a sentence all day. I was trying to work for ten hours but I was just incapable of doing it, and I actually tried to hard but I would scream instead. I know there is something wrong with me, I have never felt so on the verge of insanity in my life. Please help me find out what could be happening, I have never felt so terrible and irritable in my life. This can NOT possibly be hormones, I've been through that but this has gradually been happening for a few weeks.

[Saugagirl]

I think you're stressing yourself out too much that's causing you to kick your body in over drive mode and try to get all these things done at once. That's leading you to develop anxiety. there's no doubt that school is very important and the work habits you have now will come into play in the rest of your high school career. However, just try to take it one step at a time. Do your work, but make sure you are giving yourself time to relax. This can be done in many ways. Such as taking a break between studying, rewarding yourself with a movie at the end of the week. Over stressing gets you nowhere. You're just going to avoid your work, which you'll fall behind on and miss marks for. Also remember that yes, while grades do matter, when it comes to applying to college or university, schools look at your 11th and 12th grade marks. So if you mess up on an assignment or test, it's not the end of the world. In case you were worried about your 10th grade marks being evaluated by colleges.
Plan your tasks, try your best and give yourself some time to relax. If you give yourself the best of both worlds, you'll be fine. Good luck

[BellePepper]

It sounds like anxiety. Take the rest of tonight off and start fresh tomorrow. Talk to your teachers and ask if you can have an extended deadline since you were sick for so long.

Talk to your parents and see if they'd be willing to let you see a counselor of some kind.

[Asker]

I'll try to relax for now. I hope my teachers let me hand in my work later and let me do my test Thursday (I am going on trips Tuesday and Wednesday)
I don't know if I can have a counselor. We are well below the poverty level and can't really afford anything. Also, I have a lot of school work and music so I can't really fit it in

[BellePepper]

Okay I understand. I think you have a good plan. Just try to cut thing up into little chunks and it won't be as overwhelming. Sometimes people like lists because they put down everything and then don't have to think about it again until they get to it on the list.

No matter what you decide on I know you'll do the best things for you :)

[Asker]

Thank you so much for answering, it means the world to me

[BellePepper]

No worries. I'm right there with you when it comes to school work. It will get better :)

[Red_Arrow]

You are having anxiety about everything that has piled up and now it has become impossible to focus on one thing because so many other things are pressuring you.

I do not know where you are. In the US tomorrow is a holiday. If you are somewhere it is still early Sunday evening and tomorrow is not a holiday, I recommend you forget about the history test for now. Without the study materials you cannot do anything helpful. try to finish your English essay so you can turn it in tomorrow. First thing you do in the morning is see a counselor and explain what is happening, including not getting the review. Any hope you have of getting a reprieve to finish your work is with the counselors and teachers. And work on one thing at a time, even if you work on one thing for an hour then work on something else for another hour, just to break from being stuck on one thing.

Hopefully your counselor and teachers can help you through this.

[Asker]

I tried doing my essay but just ended up crying for a few hours. It is now 2am here, Monday morning. I couldn't sleep because I needed to know what is wrong with me and I was so restless not knowing.

If my history teacher doesn't understand, what do I tell her? I am one of three girls in the class and all the guys will be wondering why I am not doing the test if I don't, and I don't know how to tell her without the guys hearing and I don't know how to word it

[Red_Arrow]

Start with the counselor, so you are one on one without others hearing. the counselor may take over and let your teachers know you will not be taking part today. That is, if that is what they decide. I don't know all the circumstances. but that is your best start.. Go to bed! You cannot accomplish anything that is well thought out at this time of morning. There may be a lot of things going on, but right now the main one is panic because there are a billion things to do and no time. That is not a mental problem. It is a normal reaction. Get some sleep and see the counselor. Once the counselor sees your panic, they will not jus ignore you. I don;t know how it will go, but the won't toss you out on your own.

[Asker]

I will try to sleep. I just hope it will all be better when I wake up. Hopefully my teachers understand for once.

[Mr187canada]

Sounds like you're having issues focusing. Has anything happened lately emotionally or anything that has seriously changed like parents breaking up or finding out you're changing schools or moving or something?

Anyways one thing I think you should do is speak to your parents about this and explain it fully and be honest because they're there for you to give you advise on these situations and it happens to the best of us at one point of our lives. I have a serious depression issue which caused me to have a hard time focusing at school myself a couple of years back and it would drive me insane because I would keep trying to focus and get things done and instead I'd simply end up screwing things up and not realizing it.

Anyways as suggested speak to your parents, speak to your teacher about your situation and just ask if you can have a extra day for this one time.

[Asker]

Well my closest friend has been in the hospital for a month and just got out, she has phsychosis. Then my other friend just discovered her dad didn't die of a heart attack but he killed himself because he abused her family when she was young and was a drug addict. Not much with me, however.

I am kind of scared to talk to my parents about it. I cried all alone in my room and made sure they wouldn't find out. I just don't know what to do

[Mr187canada]

Your parents are there to support you, I should know I have a son and it's a responsible of being there for your children and having their backs and giving support and advise. In theses type of situations your parents are always the best people to speak to and get advise and they can possibly even help you in these situations with their actual physical support.

I would speak to your parents about this and let them know what you been experiencing and speak to your teacher and explain the situations and just ask if you can get a extra day or so on the deadline because you been having emotionally issues which happens a lot more than you think.

[Asker]

Well my sister tried to tell my mom for about a year that she thought she had depression and my mom kept trying to brush it off and say that she is fine. My parents pretend nothing is wrong and that it will soon go away. I don't know, I don't have them to really turn to.

[Mr187canada]

Than head to your school office and speak to a counselor or your teacher because they can help you with advise and information. You need someone physically supportive to help you deal with this situation and you shouldn't handle it all on your own and clearly your parents remind me of my parents which I am glad I'll never be like them.

Anyways it does sound like you're going through a emotional time and that is clearly making you lose focus which is exactly what happens to everyone who experiences anxiety issues. You can't ignore it you need to face it and the more support you have the more easier it is to get rid of. Worse case is go speak to a doctor, they're not going to call you crazy or call your parents on you or demand you take drugs or anything they're there to give you actual physical advise and if any of them do anything that you aren't comfortable with than leave and find another doctor if you must, I went through about five doctors till I found one who I felt comfortable.

[Asker]

The thing is I am the one girl in school that is always happy and bubbly and sweet. I have a reputation for it actually. Even when I make a joke like "haha I don't even know how you guys like me I am sooo annoying" people always say "WHAT? Nooo way you are so sweet and kind I don't know how anyone couldn't like you there is nothing wrong with you"
I get that exact phrase every time it is weird how it is the exact same thing every time. Even the counselors know me as the nice happy bubbly person. I have known one of them since grade 5. I don't know, I feel like I will let people down

[Mr187canada]

I was a nice happy person myself always smiling laughing and such I volunteered for events and community things while I was a teenager and I worked at a gym full of positive people, when emotions hit you sometimes it can hit you really hard and unexpectedly and it can cause anxiety, remember not depression but anxiety which normally leads to depression. I've overcome it and you just need to do the same thing and stress will not help your situation, so you need as much physical support as possible.

[EvAnderson777]

Ok, well first you need to take a breather and go outside or something/look through a window and look up at the stars/night sky or even day/ya'know the drill. Second, this has to do with so much bullox it's not even funny although there's indeed a means by which you can make sense out of it all and have peace that surpasses all understanding. by the way, this also ties into everything going on throughout the world in every arena. Message me if ya need which I'd recommend, peace. by the way, ("atomic realm") before things were physical they were spiritual.

[Asker]

See that is the thing, it is such a simple problemyet I cacan't calm down and cope with it. I know some things you can't control. For example, my friend had so much stress she freaked out, was in the hospital for a month, and was diagnosed with a mental illness called psychosis. She just got out last week but is staying home for now. Sometimes your mind does weird things that you can't control and its been happening. No matter how much I wish to do something I will just break down in tears for hours upon hours.

[EvAnderson777]

Well, that's probably because your trusting in the mere arm of the flesh alone. Ya'see, I used to suffer from OCD/anxiety and was diagnosed with it at three years of age even though it wasn't necessarily most prevalent until my teens; it spiked highly in my teens, I was delivered of it eventually when I was real with God and cried out to him and never had a problem since, was totally delivered. Basically, we're triune beings, we're made up of a body, soul, and spirit. Our soul is comprised of our mind, will, and emotions. Do what you will with this information but I'd also like to inform you that no matter who they are even if they be "atheists" everyone has a god, irregardless if it's the one true creator God. Oh, and what's on the U. S one dollar bill circa 1935 will also back me up along practically everything. Watch out for the luciferian "Illuminati." lol, but yes indeed the issue is primarily a matter of focus and sights. pm or email me if possible, peace. ;)

[EvAnderson777]

However, yeah your teachers should be able to understand if you go to them and explain, not saying they'll know exactly what to do regarding your recent if not current "mental breakdown" but it should buy you some time nonetheless. You only have a week or so left of school right? Balance is key, be sure to apply that in the event you look into what I mentioned, grades are important to an extent but they're expendable as what matters is results. Peace

[EvAnderson777]

Well, that's probably because of your current trust in the mere arm of the flesh alone.*
Well, that's probably because you're currently trusting in the mere arm of the flesh alone.* Yeah, it's late for me too, good night. :), wanted to fix as it was a bit embarrassing. #GrammarLolz

[EvAnderson777]

Oh, and I just found out we're in the same timezone. 0.0

[KhaysunDei]

It is stress and this is how you should deal with it:

Talk to your teachers, talk to your parents, talk to your friends, and let them all know what you're going through. Life is more important than a bunch of stupid papers and worthless math problems.

And my authority? I have a 3.88 GPA and have consistently made A's in most of my classes so far.

[Asker]

Do you think my grades will be lowered? I am soooo scared of that happening

[KhaysunDei]

I went through something exactly like you did for years and NO. Your grades will not be lowered. This, I swear to you UNLESS you go on with this habit. But even then, your grades won't be lowered. Trust me, I know.

[Asker]

I hope not, some of my teachers don't think I could be stressed and they have little sympathy for me since I am known for always being happy

[KhaysunDei]

No, please let them know. They are just as human as you and I.

[abundantlyrich]

It is your excessive worrying that's causing your body to react physically. Sounds like you need to take breaks between every two hours. You don't sound relaxed at all. Now how could you function well when you're frantic and worrying about the worse.