How can I get my girl to lose weight?

[Anonymous]

without being a jerk. she packed on a few pounds over the holidays, you know... extra cushion ain't really my thing haha. I don't even know how to breach the topic without sounding like a jerk. help

[Anonymous]

im sure she is aware of this.. if you are... she def is...girls know our bodies so she prob is feeling insecure right now so do not say anything ..but you should still compliment her on her (eyes or smile hair etc) so she will know you do pay attention to how she looks and it will make her want to look more beautiful in your eyes... I am in this same situation with myself. I feel like I just woke up one morn and was like what the heck I"M GAINING WEIGHT! But my boyfriend has not said anything to me.. if he did that would crush me .. I am starting to jog again like I use to though and watching what I eat. I have been mildy depressed with a few things going on so maybe she also could have slight depression about something going on and eating to comfort her or mild depression can cause fatigue also. She may need to take some b-12 vitamin it gives you energy and helps you wnt to get out and do more. Give her a month or so ... if you don't see her making any effort to lose a few Ibs.ask her to go to the track or park with you and walk in the evenings or something .. If you or her have a dog tell her you wnt to start walking the dog with her . I have read that something simple as walking a dog can make you much happier in your daily life and helps with weight. I use t o do that with my boyfriend and it was a good bonding thing actually and relaxing! Good luck...

[Asker]

Thanks! I do have a dog that I walk/run all the time so that's a greattt idea. cheers :)

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah .. she will like it and it will just look like you are wanting to spend time with her and the "pup"..good luck :)

[ivarei]

invite her out for a nice long walk together or go play laser tag together. get her up and active in a way that isn't obvious that you're trying to make her lose weight...in other words, don't just buy her a gym membership lol.

also, chances are she is aware of her weight gain, so there's really no need to point it out to her.

a bunch of girls are going to come on here saying that "if her weight changes the way you feel about her, then you don't deserve her..."

blah blah blah. no, the extra weight makes her physically less attractive; it's not a sin to want your boyfriend or girlfriend to get back in shape after the holidays. now if she just had a baby, or her mum just died, then I would say "give the girl a break and let her eat her Ben & Jerry's"

you could also say that you think that you yourself put on a few over the holiday and would really love some company at the gym.

[Anonymous]

Ouch bro. My girl just up and dumped me because I gained weight, so you're a good person for wanting her to get fit for her (and your sake). I'd use the whole "I'm going to get in sick shape in 2010" as your plot. Get her to work out with you. Everyone needs a work out partner. That way you can disguise your intentions and no ones feelings get hurt.

[Telemusik]

Don't say anything about her wieght but you could suggest for FUN! that maybe we go play some sports or take up jogging together for spending time, so without havign to tell her she has put on wieght make it more of a bonding thing

[jacquesvol]

You're a bit controlling, aren't you?

[dx021]

Because he doesn't want his woman to look like a sea-beast?