Do I need therapy?

[Anonymous]

1. I spend the vast majority of my time online; whenever I'm bored or on my own I just feel drawn to spending time online. It's gotten to the point where I hardly ever go out because I just want to stay online all the time.

2. Whenever I get rejected by a guy I like I become annoyed he doesn't like me and I become very emotional about it; I act really crazy like I'll start pestering him and get angry with him. I always get really obsessed with and attached to guys after a few dates.

Yes

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I forgot to add to 2, when I date guys I always get paranoid he's seeing someone else too, even if we're not together. I know it's completely fine but I just can't control it

[MapleFairy]

Everyone has issues in their life. Normal people need counselors, because normal people have issues. Whether it's depression from something recent or ptsd from something that happened years ago, everyone has something negative in their life affecting them now. Until a person can learn to use effective skills to interact with ourselves, others, and stressful situations, on a regular basis, those issues are just going to be suppressed and pop up in ways we don't want them to. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy is probably the most helpful therapy I have come across, I have seen three therapists and been in groups before for depression, but finally I am able to tolerate some stress and know some things to do when I have issues with myself or others. A good friend helps a long ways too. The worst thing that can happen is you walk in and they say you're perfectly fine. The best thing that can happen is you start feeling better about life :)

[YoloKitten]

I do exactly what you do...

[Asker]

Did you read the update?

[YoloKitten]

Yeah

[YoloKitten]

The second one is a sign of abandonment issues and idealization. I have the same problem. I get obsessed with guys and I barely know them.

[Asker]

Oh, ok. I'm not surprised. How do you change it?

[YoloKitten]

I have no idea. I can't help it lol I'm kinda stuck with it. I wish I knew

[poopedmypantsagain]

I would not say that you need therapy at all as far as a computer many spend a lot of time on them.. what I will say that you need though is to stop taking life so seriously.. like you want everything yesterday and seem to me to get ticked when it is not there and more then likely do you not like to do things more then once.. relax a bit.. have some fun.. life is not all work and no play... but if you think you need therapy its your call.. take care

[Asker]

Haha, yeah that kinda is me. Thanks

[JohnnySS]

no ou dont you just need to learn some new skills

[Asker]

did you read the update?

[JohnnySS]

yes you just need to learn some self control.

you have a lot of insecurity

the solution is to have a lot of options. while your with someone you should still be meeting new people not as a date but as friends.

these friends are potential backups. if something happens you know u caN date them because there's always someone better

[Asker]

Ok, thanks

[Anonymous]

1- with all the tech that we have now a days, its not surprising that most people spend more time online that they do engaging with other people in person, i myself used to be that type of person but as soon as you find a hobby, or something that distracts you, you find other interesting things to do than just being online all the time, i would say that another reason for you being online most of the time is your fear or rejection.

2. like i said on number 1, some people handle rejection better than others, and some find a way to accept it which is what you need to learn how to do, because not everyone will accept you all the time and people have preferences whether we like to believe it or not. just know that just because you get rejected by some doesn't mean you're not good enough, or that something is wrong with you, it just means that you're not compatible in some ways and thats okay :)

[Asker]

Did you read the update?

[Opinion Owner]

just did, its part of being self conscious, and maybe you are affected by rejection that you think no one will stay that long therefore they're looking for someone else. i've known people who were the same and they worked on it, it takes time for sure but you can over come such habits by yourself, if you feel the need to talk to someone professional though then go ahead, back to your question, i dont think you need to seek professional therapy.

[Asker]

How did the people you know get over it on their own?

[Hellohappylife]

It doesn't seem healthy to me. One day you will realize you're whole life flashed by & all you accomplished was refreshing the Internet web pages. Staring at a screen is amusing sometimes but staring at real life is even more amusing.

[Asker]

Yes, I know it's not healthy, it's why I'm concerned. Sometimes I feel like I ant control it.

[qwert1234]

Therapy is too much for number 1.

For number 2, no, as long as it subsides. Still, it's more of a self control on dealing with it.

[Asker]

Did you read the update?

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Sometimes people like you can do it all on their own, others need therapy. I would suggest you go with the therapy route since that will benefit you the most.

[Asker]

Ok, thanks

[Throwaway420]

These sound like normal human feelings, therapy is for us who are really screwed up.

[Asker]

Even though I get really obsessed after a few dates and start pestering him if he rejects me?

[Saitouhiraga]

Getting obsessed after a few dates just means there is something in the other person you value deeply and is seeking for.
It sounds to me you are seeking to have a meaningful connection with another person and have that person validated you and prove that you exist.

[Asker]

@Saitouhiraga I forgot to add to 2, when I date guys I always get paranoid he's seeing someone else too, even if we're not together. I know it's completely fine but I just can't control it

[falafelany1]

I think that everyone could benefit from therapy. I believe that it is not only there for us when we are having a breakdown but also there for maintenance for our mental health. It couldn't hurt :)

[takumii]

Don't worry you are like 90% of he people on this site.

[Asker]

What about the people in real life?

[Artist10]

You dont need therapy.
You need to spend more time with people and in the outside world instead of online, thats all there really is to it.

[chrisbigman]

I don't know, but I know I do. I can't stop thinking about sex. I wish I could.

[Anonymous]

You need lots of medication and hospitalized for ever

[Asker]

I'll keep that in mind 😉

[stardust101]

You sound possessive.

[Asker]

Yeah, I can be

[stardust101]

Do you stare at his photo on your computer screen?

[Asker]

No, that just creepy

[stardust101]

Then you don't need therapy girl! 🤗

[Asker]

Haha ok thanks

[Anonymous]

No I think you're fine, it's the Internet that needs therapy.

[bvvvt]

same here, so no i think it's normal

[FilthyPervert]

yes, you need help