My mum called me fatty and it's hurting me a lot?

[Anonymous]

I am overweight and I know that. I am happy with myself but I want to lose some weight. And I've been doing exercises past three months which made me lose some inches. I had been very happy with the progress but today my mum called me fatty. I mean I know I'm fat, that's why I am trying to lose weight, so why this fat shaming?
Now she says that sometimes to piss me off but what hurt me most was the remark she made to my younger brother "fatty ate a lot today." This made me feel the worst!

Please, I request you not to say anything to my mum. I know she loves me a lot and this fat shaming runs in the family so I don't really blame her but man, it really hurt me today.

[Levin]

Just say, 'I'm trying, but you eroding my confidence like that isn't helping'. in my opinion, that's a terrible sneering puerile thing to say to your daughter. Mothers should provide unconditional love and good dose of gentle encouragement, the bedrock against a backdrop which can be a rather cruel world! You've every right to be upset. Maybe get angry at her and tell her to button it?

[Asker]

I agree! I don't know what satisfaction do people get saying such stuff to people. Even my mum has a lot of flaws but I know hearing them from me will hurt her a lot which I never want.

[Levin]

Well, I guess she has her own insecurities for saying stuff like that. Happy people don't try and put other people down. So try not to take it to heart. Easier said than done I guess...

[Ladyslipper]

If my mom called me fat id just call her an ugly old hag lol

[Asker]

Lol I can't. I love her and can't hurt her feelings. She sometimes act like a child!