Am I more accepting of my body than I think or just lazy?

[Anonymous]

So I'm an obese guy. 265lbs. 5'8"

I've tried the weight loss thing a couple times and stopped caring. For the most part I can't seem to motivate myself for weight loss.

I'm just like oh well people like me I don't need to change.

The only thing that makes me unhappy about being fat is girls. No girl will date me.

So I think I may be accepting something that's going to burden any possible love life because girls don't like fat guys.

Also at my size unless you're 100% honest and think someone will, please don't say someone will date me.

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I've never done anything with a girl by the way. :(

[Alex_Prower]

Hmm.. well, you're choosing not to lose weight. Unhealthiness is a turn off. If you really want girls, I would suggest losing weight. If you aren't committed, then you just have to accept it as a fact. Like pancakes said, obesity is a sign of unhealthiness. If you care about your health then it would be in your best interest to change your diet and exercise, eh?

I bet if you went on a vegetarian diet and spent 30 minutes on a treadmill each day, you could lose 50lbs or so. Not to preach or anything, but red meat is one reason obesity is becoming a trend since it's high in fat and calories. Then there's junk food and all that crap.

What do you want to do? It's all up to you. :S

[Asker]

I think I need to get a job, go to college and graduate first.(About 2 years from now.) By then I should have my head on straight and can get weight loss going.

[Alex_Prower]

Keep in mind of what you do now since it will affect you in the future. It's possible that you may reach 300 by the end of college without you noticing. What I'm trying to say is to get into a habit of making good choices. You don't have to do radical change, but make steady steps, such as turning down those triple cheese, zesty powered ranch Pringles your friend offers ya. If you try to do it all at once, you may lose your motivation, but tiny changes will help you adapt better.

[Asker]

Nah my weight has been steady for 2 years now. It was 280 until I stopped being a soda addict. A job and college will actually cause me to lose weight. I wouldn't gain any. I'd go from sitting at home all day to do something.

[ImSoSozzled]

Well the thing is, girls are more emotionally attracted to guys. Notice how you see a lot more hot girls with ugly guys than the other way around? But that is only true to a certain extent. Obviously, there has to be some level of physical attraction. And not many girls find obesity attractive. I used to work at a buffet and, honestly, all of the men that were obese (if they weren't alone) were with obese women. That is probably your future if you don't make some changes...

As for your question, you are definitely just lazy. You are unhappy with your body and how it is impacting your love life.

[Asker]

Lol That's what I though for the answer. Maybe I'm just not ready to go for the body change yet. My mind is on other things first. College, new car, etc.

[ImSoSozzled]

Well it's not gonna happen unless you're 100% committed so I guess don't worry about it for now if it's not bothering you too badly. At some point you should really make an effort though.

[Anonymous]

you're lazy. No offense but no one should be okay with being obese. Especially if you're so young, you're just wasting your life. If you're this big now, what do you think your body is gonna be like at 25? 30? 45? This is fast as your metabolism is going to be ever in life. You're young, you should be living it up confidently, not being complacent about being obese. You're not even happy about it because you know you need to lose weight and most girls don't like it. Actually you could get a girl but probably not one of the cute hot girls that you probably dream about. Most likely she would be obese as well, or you might find a chubby/chunky girl with low self esteem.

[Asker]

Except I'm not attracted to the latter. So as long as I'm fat I'll be single. As for weight changes the same probably. I've been this weight for over 2 years.

[Asker]

My metabolism is already slow. It's never been fast. And from what I've been told probably slowed quite a bit because I only eat 1 meal a day.

[Opinion Owner]

Soo you're fat but your not attracted to fat girls, but your wondering why you can't get any girls that are attracted to u? stop being lazy and get off your butt and lose weight. being fat is a choice. by not exercising and having crappy eating habits, you're just saying that you want to be fat because you don't want to put in work to lose weight and get fit.

[Asker]

That's basically it. Except the girls that are attracted to me thing. There aren't any of those. I don't like being drained all day from the little amount of exercise I can do. So I get sick of it and give up.

[Opinion Owner]

So basically your lazy and you don't mind being fat and living a less than fulfilled life. okay then. stop complaining then. your pretty much saying your not willing to do what it takes to lose weight and improve your life so get used to being obese and not getting girls. sorry to be so harsh but it is what it is. if you can't help yourself don't complain

[Asker]

Well I have depression to which makes me not care or have motivation for anything. I doubt I'll live past 25 if I don't find a girl by then.

[Opinion Owner]

Work on your inner before you worry about your outer. your depressed, fix that first and things will fall into place. once you love yourself and care about yourself on the inside, ull be more motivated to take care of your body better. good luck x

[Asker]

Thanks. That's what I've been thinking about actually. I think once I get a job and starting getting my way through college I'll like my self. I've never really accomplished anything. It makes me hate myself. Graduation college would change that a lot. I understand everything you said. I should have said how I have depression from the beginning.

[Pancakes]

I like guys who take care of themselves. An obese guy clearly doesn't care about his health so that's a complete turn off for me. Would you date an obese girl? I know a lot of overweight guys who expect girls to be slender for them, p*sses me off greatly.

[Asker]

I care about my health. Just cause your fat doesn't mean you don't care. I'm plenty healthy, just maybe not in a physical activity sort of way.

Nope I wouldn't. Which is why I shouldn't bother thinking about ever getting a GF. It's not my fault my brain isn't attracted to obesity.

[Pancakes]

Sorry dude but if someone is obese they're unhealthy.

[Asker]

Well I'm never sick. lol So I must be part healthy.