Am I Saint or Sinner?

[Anonymous]

I've been told by friends I have a tendency to go for big girls and train them to lose weight.

I am a part-time fitness trainer and feel a huge connection to women who also put in the time to be fit. With bigger girls it's usually a more fruitful adventure.

Most girls I train are already fit, and it's quite boring, girls who need to lose say, 20-40lbs are just more fun to work with and I love how I can tell they get more excited with every pound they lose. I find it hot.

So I've been labeled with a joke fetish along the lines of " trainer fetish " ha.

Some friends say I'm a bad person for this because I won't be with a big girl unless she puts in effort to get fit.

I can see their argument, so I'm curious what opinions are on here.

[Anonymous]

I work out approx 4x a week, but I am in no way a size 2, 6-pack ab model type. I love junk food and workout to maintain my weight. I expect whoever I date to also take care of themselves and work out.

That being said, if ANY guy ever told me I needed to lose a few pounds he'd be kicked to the curb. I want a relationship with emotion and feeling, not some guys who is looking to use my body (in your case training me until I'm skinny then dump me to go find a bigger girl).

It's good you're helping people become fit and healthy, but you're doing it for the wrong reasons.

[Slumdog]

You probably just want to be with someone who shares the working out passion. You just find it easier to find motivation in girls who can set a more prominent goal in their life, as long as she doesn't go overboard with the working out, she will probably apply that same passion in other areas. I call that a huge plus. Hence it really is justified, not that it honestly needed to be.

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

It's not bad, hell you're actually helping others so it's the complete opposite. And let's be realistic, anyone who makes an effort to stay in shape won't be with an overweight unhealthy partner who doesn't make any effort.

[ItalianBro]

Why would you want to be with an unhealthy girl who has no motivation to be fit? What kind of people do your friends date?

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I think it's good you help people get into shape, that's great, but don't base your relationships on weight.

[Anonymous]

You are doing God's work, my friend lol. I think it's a good thing. You are helping them get healthy or at least healthier and improving their confidence. I don't see anything bad about it.

[Anikaj]

seems like your helping them dude

[musicluver1993]

i think that is really sweet and kind