How do I get him back, guys please help

[self1]

How do I get him back?

I know he still has feelings for me, he just thinks we aren't right for one another, but I disagree!

I was so excited to fix our relationship, I had so many great ideas and plans to make it better.

But he dumped me before it could get better, saying that maybe we could still make it better, we just couldn't be together right now.

What does that mean? how can I make this better if we aren't together?

Was this a way of trying to letting me down lightly? Or did he mean it?

I keep hoping he'll tell me he made a mistake.

GUYS; what do I do in this situation?

Girls can give advise to I guess!

[devoshe]

The explanation was little brief for me to understand the whole situation clearly. Yet, I see where you are getting at. First thing first. Please don't try to change yourself to fit him. Jigsaw puzzle won't be finished if you force the wrong pieces together. If you don't fit with him, it's possible that he is not meant for you. If relationships is a game, winning should be the only purpose, you must not lose because you can only play it once, you only have one life of yours.

If a guy wants to end the relationship, it's usually a final statement, unless they are still good friends. There are two reason, out of thousand, why guys want to end it. One is that he is bored and wants to find other suitable mate. Second reason is that he really mean by saying he can't have relationship because while in a relationship, he may found that he will hurt your feelings more than he can imagine. He wants to make it better by trying to erase himself out of your life to help you.

It's all up to you what you want to believe. However, I recommend taking some time for yourself, because now is not a good time to have relationship for most of people. There may be pocket-full of drama awaiting in the future. Try to focus on developing your personal ability and in the future someone worthy to have you will notice you and you will receive the affection you deserve. Good luck!

[That-Guy]

I'm gonna guess this guy is about 2-3 years older then you? At least 19+?

If it's something that he feels is fixable in resonable time, he would worked it out with you but unfortunantly it's the lather (I think that's how the saying is use)?

Did he offer an explanation or did he just keep it short? I notice that you are under 18 and maybe he saw some great things in you but there are certain things at your age that aren't going to be learned for another few years, I know you hate hearing that.

You can promise that you'll change all you want but then again, those are just promises. In the next few years, keep progressing and learning about yourself and maybe he'll see the girl he invisioned but right now, there's nothing really to be said.

[self1]

Im 16 and he is 18.

We had a long talk before breaking up. His problem was that I was to inverted. But my actions played off of his.. he just never makes me feel importaint and he's so selfish. he says "you know I care why do I have to show it?" but it hurts my feelings..and it makes me feel uncertain around him.

I'm willing to change alittle and be more open, but he's not willing to show his emotions. And that led to us spliting. He said we could still work it out..i just don't get how?