So my suggestion: Grab a couple of your bluntly honest friends, and talk to them about things that you could change. Preferably the ones who are female and attractive. You don't want to pay attention to the sugar-coated answers like: "You look great! Why would you want to change anything?".. Instead, take everything with a grain of salt of what you COULD improve, not what you necessarily have to improve.
Lastly, I'd like to admit some factoids that might help your self-discovery:
1) Body-image:
- If you eat healthy, exercise regularly, and MAINTAIN YOUR HYGIENE... You'll be good to go in most situations. Very few women will expect a man to match the same effort as a woman in consideration of their appearance (so as to say, they find it a bit "creepy" and/or "gay" if you spend an hour doing your hair).
2) Lifestyle:
- If your a hot superstar living in mom's basement, that rarely sees sunlight except for the occasional hour before visiting the local night club.. Then your gonna be just that, a bum who doesn't succeed with women. But if you are constantly trying new things, going new places, etc - while having your goal as "meeting new people" (rather than "picking up chicks" or "getting laid").. Then you will see DRAMATIC improvement in how many people approach you, and.. How much more you enjoy your own life.
3) Standing out:
- Having that really weird set of glasses, that bogus pink hat, or a wild fluffy skirt is not going to attract more people; it's just going to make you stand out more. Sure people will come up to you and comment on it, but that only makes you approached more, it doesn't make you more attractive.
4) Congruence / Calibration / Connection
- If you can read someone's facial expressions, you'll go much farther with relating to people.. In turn, that means better success. If you can see someone is completely busy, your probably going to get rejected more than if you were to approach the girl who is waiting for someone, or who has that.. "i'm completely bored" look... Once you can view how they currently are, try to relate to them maybe bump them up one notch on their energy.. In gravitational terms: An object of greater mass has a gravitational effect towards pulling in objects of lesser mass. In sense, you being the fun guy can attract that average girl.. Or you being the leader can have a significant impact on that fun girl.. etc and so forth.
5) Your own body language
- Walk around walmart for a day, and you'll realize what I'm saying is true. People look like !@#$ing zombies! They have the worst "i'm in pain" expressions doing daily activities in their life, like buying food for the house, or getting a new stick of deodorant.. Of course your not gonna have the psychopathic expression of: "YESSSSSSSSSSS DEODORANTTTTTTTTTTTT".. But a mere smile while you go on with your day can make you look a lot more friendly/approachable than the typical person.
~ ArtistBBoy
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