Do you guys think we have to be depressed? which person is worse the 1st one or 2nd one?

[Queenjaileenxo]

My mom and i were talking about depression she asked me "you think that we have to be depressed" i said no i gave her example i said think about it like this its two people in this world that exist in this world 1st person completely depressed doesn't want to move do anything just stay in bed all day 2 this person is completely depressed wakes up gets up moves around does things laughs smiles goes for walks goes to work studies they go on with life while being completely depressed i told her these people are dangerous people though because you seem them all "normal" happy etc next thing you know they commit suicide these people are the people that leave others with so many questions "but why if so and so look fine?" "How if so and so was always laughing" i called these people the dangerous depressed people because they are good at faking "happiness" im like that this person is actually worse than the person who shows there depression, i told her why not laugh and forget about problems they are there already you can't do anything we don't have to be depressed we get to wake up every morning and decide what we want and i crave happiness maybe its a reason why i try to show "how happy i am" because i crave happiness more than anything in this world i want my soul to feel happy and be full of life. (In your own words)

[Anonymous]

I dealt with some shit during my teenage years because childhood sexual abuse memories basically exploded after keeping them for so long, I spent a long time feeling bad, crying every damn night and I was so good at hiding it that my parents felt guilty of not realizing. I don't like to call it depression because it sounds medical, when I was a teenager I was sent medication for almost 4 years and it never helps, I literally felt so bad I started isolating myself, I cut for the first time, stopped taking care of my self, stopped trying, didn't feel myself, I just didn't care.
I think now, as a 20 y/o adult, that we all deal with stuff, we all have different challenges in life. We might feel super sad and it's ok, if that's how your body naturally works then it's something you gotta learn to live with. I keep in mind that no matter how bad I feel sometimes, it will get better. So, I'm not continuing a normal life so people think I'm doing fine, I continue a normal life because is what I want for me. I think "faking" being ok is not bad unless you're not taking care of yourself and leaving everything behind. I'm in university and there are days when I feel like shit, I just eventually cry and cry and can't help it, but I don't miss a class because this is what keeps me going, I have goals and if I stop walking I'll sabotage myself. Teachers and friends have seen me crying and people notice I'm going through something, but I keep my privacy unless I want to talk, I do my best and get things done, I'm being responsible with myself and maintain my self care, walk, don't skip meals, give myself space but don't isolate myself, try to keep stuff in order. There's a balance we need to find, a balance no fucking medication can give you, medication is a lie.

[Queenjaileenxo]

Im glad that you still keep going you are right about everything you said medication is not the answer i have PTSD and I definitely do not take medication because i know it will do more harm than anything my doctor gave me medication for anxiety and depression and never took it I didn't want it to never my go to i'll be studying psychology soon and medication is definitely not the answer for anyone walks taking care of yourself every you mention at the bottom is what people should be doing instead eating healthier go for walks every day read books write sit with nature and meditate draw paint go to the library and sit there in a quiet place for hours if possible that's really the answer but i don't believe in medication as a future psychologist i will never recommend my clients to take medication when it comes to working on their mental health never took medication so why allow others to take medication that's no good for the brain medication is consider a drug anti depressants are consider a drug thar actually damages the brain not like street drugs but they do some kind of damage and what im trying to do is feed the mind healthy stuff and medication is definitely not healthy so im proud that you are taking care of yourself the right way im glad you stop taking medication as well

[Opinion Owner]

They definitely do damage, I didn't feel like myself and everything got out of control like crazy. More people should start realizing crying isn't something bad, it's necessary during those times and actually helps somehow. We are always told there's a pill for everything we sometimes forget we can control ourselves. Thank you, best wished for you.

[Queenjaileenxo]

Thank you so much exactly we forget that we are the ones in control of ourselves if anything medication makes things worse it doesn't help as much it can't really help you but you can always help yourself and of course with support on the side from a friend a family member a professional or anyone you truly trust i wish you nothing but the best in your life and im glad that you continue to do what you are doing and never take medications ever again be in control of yourself and crying releases a lot more things than you can imagine so yes definitely crying is also good it helps you release things and take some weight off of you

[D4nielv]

I love how that entire wall of text has only one period and it's at the end.

[athlete_7]

No they dont have to be