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I've been friends with this guy for quite some time online. Not very good friends though, just on talking terms. A few days ago I posted a picture with my family (I don't post my pictures usually) and he sent me a DM commenting on my body.
I'm underweight, suffer from a hormonal disease and fast metabolism and I'm trying to gain weight. My doctors have said my weight isn't a big issue for my health. However, I get a lot of mean comments on my body (note that I'm not from western world), some are so dehumanising that I want to die. This online friend also told me that I'm hideously skinny, only bones and nothing covering the bone (no flesh, skin etc) and that anybody would be scared seeing me. I told him that I don't like hearing such things, they ruin my sense of self and it's better if he never says similar things to anyone else either.
He is now posting "since I'm not a violent person, I don't hurt or harm people." He also told many people that I need serious treatment and that I am in delusion, falsely believing that I'm pretty.
Did I do anything wrong?
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No, you did not do anything wrong by telling your friend that you do not like to hear negative comments about your body. It is important to set boundaries and communicate your needs to others, especially when it comes to sensitive topics like body image.
Your online friend's comments about your body were insensitive and inappropriate. It's not okay for anyone to make hurtful comments about someone else's appearance, and you have every right to express your discomfort with such comments.
It's also concerning that your friend is now making derogatory comments about your mental health and spreading rumors about you to others. This behavior is not acceptable and may be a sign that this person is not a positive influence in your life.
Moving forward, it may be a good idea to distance yourself from this individual and focus on building relationships with people who are supportive and respectful of your boundaries. Remember that you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, and you have the power to choose who you allow into your life.
Some people go online to be mean, because they have serious problems in their own life, and they want to take it out on strangers and make them feel like shit, knowing there will be zero consequences and they can get away with it. It's like therapy to them.
I know this because I'm one of those peoppe and I don't care who knows it. It's evil and rotten and feels fucking good.
I guarantee you're not the only person those people are trying to destroy.
My point is, forget about it. The only opinion that matters is your own.
Don't let the bastards get you down.
If you want, you can DM me a pic of yourself and I'll tell you what's beautiful about you
And Im not in one of those moods, so don't worry
Nothing wrong. Sounds like they are just dumb with their opinions. Being too skinny, well to some degree that's really just a preference to what someone is used to. If you try to force weight gain too much then you can cause more issues long term. Your better off to do exercise related things but don't go making weight gain your main focus. I would steer clear of people that criticize like that. Not just because of this particular instance but it usually leads to them being very critical about others in general which prevents you from being yourself