Why am I so jealous for thin girls?

Question

Every time I see slender girls or fit girls with toned/flat tummies, slim legs and they look so cuter in clothes. I’ve never been a fat and curvy girl. I am 5’11” large built and 280lbs. I’ve tried losing weight but I keep gaining the weight back and I’m so tired of it. Even tall slender women I get so jealous off and I wanna look like them but my mom said I’ll never have that slender body type and I got her childbirth wide hips and large built. Some slender girls complain about their slender bodies and their legs and that angers me so much. One girl bitches about her flat tummy and wants a little pudge on her tummy and wants her legs to tough. Guys like them better than big ass tall girls. I’ve never had a boyfriend. I’ve hate dates but they always want to be friends and no relationship. My family has been nagging at me about my weight and I need to lose weight and I lack consistency. I was 265lbs and I’ve gained 15 pounds. My doctor is very angry with me for gaining 15 pounds.

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

It's understandable to feel jealous of others who seem to have an "easier" time with weight and dating. But there are a few things to keep in mind:

1. Comparing yourself to others will only breed resentment and hurt your self-esteem. Focus on your own health goals and journey.

2. Your worth as a person has nothing to do with your weight or dating history. You deserve love and respect no matter what size you are.

3. Some slender women struggle with body image issues too. Grass is not always greener.

4. Partners who value you for who you are on the inside will see past your weight. Those who don't weren't right for you anyway.

5. Consistency with health habits takes time, patience and practice. Don't be too hard on yourself for stumbles - just keep moving forward.

6. Focus on moving your body in ways you enjoy and eating foods that nourish you - not just weight loss. Do it for your health, not to look like someone else.

7. Talk to your doctor about a tailored weight loss plan that works for your body type and lifestyle. Generalized advice may not be best for you.

8. Consider speaking to a therapist to work on your self-esteem, body image and jealously toward others. These feelings can be eased with time and effort.

Your body enabled you to be here today. It gets you from place to place and allows you to experience life. Find ways to appreciate what it does for you now, while also making healthy changes at a comfortable pace. Wishing you strength and self-compassion on your journey.

Curmudgeon · Accepted Answer

Well, lots of us men are jealous of "buff" men.

Obviously, we can and should try to improve our frames, but some men are just better biologically at that sort of thing from birth.

So it is with you ladies.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

There are studies that have shown obesity causes changes in the brain, and the body image issues caused by social media and regular media (movies, ads, etc) only add to that.

Some of these changes included the pain centres in the brain activating when obese women view thin women or even images of women performing physical activity.

That isn't an excuse for you, though. It's just something to keep in mind. It might not be good or helpful for you to look at social media or media which has a lot of these smaller women or exercise videos.

At least not at first.
These changes, though, are reversible. As you get physically active and begin to lose weight, it's likely to override that uncomfortable response with a dopamine hit instead.

It's natural for you to feel jealous of thin girls. They're going to be better treated than you, they're going to live healthier and longer lives, and they're just going to be usually happier because they're not struggling under their own weight.

Good news is, you can definitely control your weight. You don't have to be a "thin woman".

You just need to be a healthy one. Which is easier than being a skinny one.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I am a petite woman who has always been skinny and struggled to gain weight. However I understand you are hurt. The "friend" that complains about her flat stomach next to you was never a friend. I myself have struggled with food but I would never do that to a larger friend.

There are different types of body types that are important to know when you need to loose weight and it seams like you are endomorph. An endomorph needs to do cardio for an hour before starting the work out for it to count. That means if you got o the gym for one hour nothing will change but if you powerwalk for one hour and right after go to the gym you will see a difference. Also stop eating after 6 PM and before 12 AM. LAstly cut off all gluten and diary.

It is a lot but you should see a big difference.

Anonymous · Answer

My advice to you is eat how you want to look. Study the habits of how thin people eat. My best friend is thin and once I started eating like her the weight dropped. It's so not easy but it definitely works. She eats pretty healthy. She eats lots of veggies, hardly any meat, and if she snacks it's usually low calorie snacks like popcorn or pickles. She also does eat carbs like potatoes and rice but it's very little in comparison to what I used to eat before I started losing the weight. I guesstimate how many calories she probably eats in a day and it's between 1000-1400 cals on average.

I would start counting your calories to see how much you eat in a day and then slowly cut back on the calories. You can use the app Myfitnesspal to calculate your calories.

I want to be thin so bad too and I believe I can get there and so can you. You just have to want it bad enough and change your eating habits.

CrimsonAngel09 · Answer

I feel you. Been hardly eating and slowly dropping pounds.  Currently 5'0" at 142LBS..

RyanK9b · Answer

You have a clear control issue. Control what goes into your mouth and what not.
You don't gain by eating air.

Keep the diet strict 200-500 under maintenance calories and hold on to it. It's a freaking long annoying process.

The girl with the flat tummy complaining is a idiot.

So... Ofc you're jealous of them bc they look better and have more success with men. So its normal to want that from your pov

jahaims · Answer

Because you are fat and hate yourself for it but are in denial

DextroShade · Answer

Start cutting carbs.

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