How should I deal with being fat and loose it?

[Anonymous]

I have been okay with my body image I weighted 160 pounds (73kg) and now I weight 182 pounds (83kg) or more and I am 5"9 feet (175cm) My family calls me fat and laughs at me. But when I try to excersise they come at my room and laugh at me or when they see me on treadmill... and than making me guilty so I tried to hide but as soon as they know I am excersising I become sad trying to hide it. They will tease me I am fat, ugly, my apperance is bad no matter how I dress or any. Even say that's why you don't have boyfriend. Or when they eat sth and I want too they say not for you give us we are skinny anyway you have to be skinnier and than laugh at me. Also friends indirectly commenting. So makes me feel insecure and wanting to loose weight but feeling discouraged mentally and crying much.

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw mama, I'm so sorry you're going through this - that is NOT okay for your family to treat you like that! Their behavior is cruel and abusive, full stop. You don't deserve to be ridiculed for your body or made to feel ashamed about bettering yourself.

Please try not to internalize the hurtful things they say. Easier said than done, I know, but their words come from a place of insecurity in themselves, not truth about you. You are SO much more than a number on a scale.

Is there someone else you can stay with for a while, even a friend's place? You need to get away from that toxic environment to heal your mental health and have space to focus on YOU. Depression and anxiety will only make lifestyle changes harder.

Once you're in a safer space, start small with walks outside or youtube workout videos at home so no one can sabotage. Do it for your health and how it makes YOU feel, not what anyone else thinks. Stay off scales too for now. You've got this boo ya hear, their cruelty isn't a reflection of you at all. Sending love and strength! 💜

[Sonorous]

I recommend logging everything you eat through a calorie tracker app. I do this everyday. It's how I can stay lean & build muscle without even having do a bunch of cardio if I didn't want to. Because I know exactly what my surplus, maintenance, & deficit is. So, for instance, the other day I ate in a slight surplus because I was having a bit of fun. To set myself back on track, I know that all I have to do is eat in a slight deficit & I'll be back to my former weight in no time.

[IslaTheWitch]

You are an adult. If they treat you that way, just move out... If you can't set your boundaries. You decide who and when comes to your room.

[Jessica405]

The only was to lose weight is to count calories and exercise. For exercise, just walking is fine. Get moving!

[Jessica405]

One example i use is mayo. Ordinary mayo is 90 cals per portion. Light mayo is 45 cals. Lighter-than-light mayo is 9 cals. Big differences.

[Emanon25]

Make a diet and control your meals