Need help, I keep bed rotting, any suggestions?

[Anonymous]

Need help bed rotting, any suggestions?

To briefly summarize my life, I live with my parents and work part-time as a cashier at Lowe's. My amazing, kind, and supportive boyfriend helps me get through my feelings of depression. The only things that really make me happy right now are seeing my boyfriend and going to the gym (I'm a bodybuilder) - I want to get back into art because I am a poet and fine artist as well as having created films in the past, but my hours at Lowe's have been extremely slow lately, like I go several days in a row without working.. and most of the time I have my alarm set to get up early and end up just laying in the bed until 12pm wasting most of my day because I'd rather just bed rot? Any advice would be helpful?

[Rosexøxø]

Not sure if this will comfort the situation; how you feel, but

I’ve done a bit of that in the past and honestly it doesn’t go better either..

Your body does need movement..

You can get blood clots, heart problems, gain some weight or lose. Blood problems and bowel problems.

The skin can go through changes and headaches can develop from lack of consistency in sleep schedule.

Just doing little things will feel like a major work out, and it’s possible you can end up developing a difficult time with ‘downing’ food.

You have to use them to keep them healthy and all.

I never stayed in bed so long but others have developed bed sores and matted hair.

It’s super important to keep active, even if hours are slow I recommend walking outside and getting fresh air. Or using the gym treadmill with some tv music or chats with any seemingly friendly gym goers you could befriend possibly.

I don’t know if you have any pets or family pets, you could consider watching a pet for a family member or take up dog walking for extra profits. Maybe a lap dog or cat to keep you company while pet sitting and writing/typing and some mini refreshers? 🏋️‍♀️

Just make sure any dog sitting or dog walking gig is credible and safe. Better for bigger cities but still a possibility. Kind of like that one lady from kings of Queens? The show? Their friend was a dog walker in New York.

if you’ve seen bolt, you’ve seen another female dog walking and bolt encountered them while he broke out of the studio. I believe that was New York as well.

Either way it’s still a job option/possibility/opportunity.

Watch some nice movies but try to get out after a good one, pace yourself, or watch and eat at the kitchen or living room to spice it up a bit. Definitely try to get out more.

Either to hang if you desire that, or just for yourself and move things. Don’t associate getting up and getting out with unwanted responsibilities or tasks because then you of course wouldn’t want to get up and go out! Lol

getting up and going out can be a good thing. I’ve definitely been there. When I was obtaining my license my dad let me borrow his care for the day and I had some extra fresh crash on hand. I decided to go to a luxurioussss lol Barnes and noble to preview any nice literature. And I also got myself a drink and snacks from the dollar store and bought myself my very own gold utensil set from target.

I even walked in with music playing on my phone and didn’t care if anyone heard. I just kept it loud enough not to disturb people and enjoy for myself. It was a VERY nice time. Another time I had gotten a Starbucks coffee and sandwich. Two of my faves but rare purchases.

I TREATED myself and it was a 10/10 day

Why? Because I did what I WANTED and I didn’t ask or give any reason to anyone. I was intentional my life and my day was within my control.

I wasn’t just going out for interviews or going with other people where they wanted. I went where I wanted and that was a huge game changer.

It’s possible you feel a bit numb from waiting for better things to come along, but you have to live and take every few days to plan for that to be more real.

It doesn’t have to be days filled with anxiety or uncertainty but enjoyment. Treats. Paradise.

It’s your life so don’t waste it sis!

You have time to kill, don’t actually kill it lol

kill it on fun things. The things that put a smile on your face. For self, with pets/ friends family community/ your boo. 💖

You don’t have to have it jam packed either. Sometimes I only do one tough thing in a day and the rest I just take it slow at a pace I want. Shower, snack, treat yourself. Eat healthy practice healthcare. Self care.

I mean buy yourself some chocolates one day in the week. Why not make life romantic? An adventure? Who says it has to be boring?

yeah it can be hard but it’s hard for a lot of people. Life can be tough but humans (that includes you) are tougher.

Sometimes I didn’t have money for nice food or food I wanted. I would overeat on crap…

I decided one day I can be poor and that can be out of my hands for right now but my health is within my control. I can still decide to go for a walk. Just because I’m not rich doesn’t mean I have to be fat or dying too!

I started working out hardcore and when I couldn’t keep up I’d rest, and also invest in any affordable things I could to boost health. Instead of just water- maybe Gatorade. A protein bar.

Id budget a small diet of beef jerky, dairy, eggs and salad. All cheapest I could find. Nothing too bulky just enough to get by, and I was taking some vitamins to hold me over. Yes you can definitely eat healthy.

if you need something to fill and bulk up- try the carbs, and get the essentials in the little stuff: vitamins and flavors in some fruit or so.

You CAN do it because these systems though are tough are built for humans to partake in.

Get what you want.

DO what you want.

make it happen sis.

Even just a step a day. You’re still moving. 💪

[Rosexøxø]

I hope you’ll truly find more and more happiness little by little each day.

Also I recommend watching some comedy and searching for some people who have a career you’d like and how they started off.

Some underdogs

Writers

Athletes

Look at underdog movies in general and read their stories.

Inspire yourself and even if you get back to one of those down days while doing this good stuff

Don’t hate the process, just take it easier that day and when you’re ready keep going.

Say this: “keep moving forward.”
- Walt Disney / Lewis, from film: Meet the Robinsons

Life comes in waves and you never know what’s over that next wave.

- Bethany Hamilton, (with inclusion of inspired true story film: Soul surfer).

You’re young. You have so much time now this is your super power, tune into it. Time to think brainstorm and plan. There’s people younger than me? Do I look like I give a shit? Nooo we can live to be 100 THATS SOME SERIOUS TIME SIS lol 😂

I’ve almost ended my life and I’ve lived part of it with devices to end mine by my bedside just in case…

Just in case it got too bad

Just in case it got so unbearable for me I couldn’t manage the pain or I didn’t want anyone else to inflict pain on me, and you know what?

Someone who loved me convinced me to get rid of it.

And I learned to live without that crutch and I realized something important.

I thought I had a choice with death I thought it was the only real thing I could decide.. meanwhile so many have decided so much for me and decided what they thought of me or what I could or couldn’t do

And guess what

DEATH WAS NEVER an option.

Because there could be absolutely nothing on the other side. That means the free life I had here I would’ve just ended it short while no one else would care much

And they get to live their own life.

Here in life you have options because you have mindfulness/ awareness/ conscience/ physical ability/ able-ness.

[Rosexøxø]

You have the ability to voice an opinion, and impact others, and make it difficult for others if you wanted to.

You can’t affect people for better or worse and you can have a say in this life and you can make your own story of attempts your own combinations on how you go about your way of trying to afford living the life you absolutely want.

We think we want death at times but that’s not what we’re born really wanting

We don’t actually want that.

We just don’t want to barely survive or have pain.

We want to live…

Make it happen sis. Don’t just survive. You absolutely can do that, but make moves to transition to winning and living and don’t just exist. Don’t just exist and don’t just die.

Live because you were meant to do that. Literally born for it.

The best thing is you also have a good boyfriend you can work with to try and advance.

Know your options. Keep the organ: 🧠 calm, happy.

Keep your body in a neutral state but a healthy one. Not a live wire of nerves or exhaustion.

And just take steps. Those steps will carry you in the direction you wish for. The one you want. 💖

[Rosexøxø]

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[Rosexøxø]

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Pleasant remix :]

[Rosexøxø]

For the making it happen part: just know your options and find any resources that can help you could be eligible for.

Find legit roommates try bunking with boo if he’s reliable.

If you have any other specific question feel free to dm and I’ll do my best to help and offer some perspective.

Definitely take it easy on yourself. Don’t be too harsh. Life is life :] it’s not a competition.

[Dongie]

Damn... REALLY?

🤫🤫🤫

[Rosexøxø]

@Dongie your character is as flat and thin as that one line of unoriginality.

[Rosexøxø]

What 61 year old even says dxmn? You understand you will soon be wearing diapers? You also furthermore understand you will soon be surrounded by no one but soil bacteria worms maggots and bones, yes?

Then let those of us who live and enjoy living do just that. Keep your calloused and far from remarkable comments to yourself.

It helped no one, unlike myself, I helped bring some extra clarity on the subject and aided this asker in extra perspective.

Now be gone son of Betty white.

[Anonymous]

I have chronic fatigue, anxiety and depression. I understand spending most of your day in bed. I can sleep up to 14 hours a day. Then the rest is spent in bed. Rarely going outside.

Please speak to your doctor. This could be depression or something similar. Do small walks outside, around 10 minutes a day. Help clean the house. Do exercise in bed. There are loads of YouTube videos to help you and they aren't hard or fast-paced!

Trust me I understand what it is like. The need of wanting to do something but you can't be bothered. And then the whole days go.

[Opinion Owner]

I was a very active person before covid ironically. While I had a lazy Sunday. I was working out, going to work, going to college etc.

I wasn't working during covid as I worked in a restaurant and all of them were shut for months. I didn't realise it at the time but my mental health got worse and worse.

To the point a year ago, I was in an incident. I didn't report it. I also had an injury and took me months to go to the doctor. I had a breakdown and haven't worked since.

Handing in my notice was the worst thing I've done. I was shaking doing it. I have all these mental health issues and I don't leave the house.

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry for the long rant. At least you're aware. I wasn't and now it's going to be 10 times harder to go back to normal 😔

[Rosexøxø]

Omg I wish I could follow you. I’ve experienced similar and the 10 minute walk is a true help!

No worries about follow either. I don’t wish to make you or anyone uncomfortable.

This was therapy just to read. I’m sure the asker will definitely appreciate this brave and honest share. Many thanks and I hope it goes well for you, in a way you like.

My one thing is. You’re still the same person before the accident. She’s still real. We aren’t what happens to us. I believe we can decide and when we face developed mindsets because of upbringing or traumatic events actual professionals help us to retrain this/ these ways of thinking to think more in a positive manner.

I think with some choice and some addressing and practice with anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or focus on the discomfort, you’ll resume the version of yourself that was confident and self-sufficient. Independent and strong.

Either way, you’re absolutely beautiful, remarkable, and inspiring.

I’m glad you’re here and didn’t leave us sooner than you needed to.

Best to you! Reach out to me if you ever wish to! I’m not always consistent on here, but I try to help anyone I can whenever I’m on and absolutely enjoy the honest contributions like these.

💖💯

[Opinion Owner]

@Rosexøxø u follow me! I requested to follow u back :)

[Sameone]

Try to learn something new like language or skills or try to work online they told me you can make 200$ in day

Try to find new activity in your life like swimming or running

Or even comping

[Dongie]

No opinion as I don't know what that means.
Question though, why anonymous?

[Asker]

It’s when you spend pretty much all day in bed

[Asker]

Look it up, I guess it’s a new gen a thing

[Dongie]

Yeah I went back and read it.

[Plugs]

Start doing productive sctiywith your partner

[Rosexøxø]

That definitely seems like a good motivation factor :]

💯

[Sonorous]

Yeah just force yourself to get up

[OtterMan68]

have you considered counseling?

[Asker]

Yea I went for a couple months back last year and I quit because of money reasons and I think I wanna go back soon but my mom says I don’t need it I don't know

[OtterMan68]

If it helped, and you can afford it, go back!

[Plugs]

Why do u like your boyfriend