I've been dating my boyfriend for about 19 months, and I love him dearly. We are in a long-distance relationship because he got accepted to a school he's always wanted to go to. I haven't seen him in months because of sports and school and Boston weather in the winter. I was feeling lonely and vulnerable and I made out with a guy I work with. It meant nothing to either of us and I was feeling guilty. I told my boyfriend and he did not break it off because he understood how he isn't here much and all. I still don't know if I should have told him or kept it to myself and avoided the whole situation.
Was telling him the right thing to do?
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Hmmm...sorry to pour cold water on this, but if this is a real relationship, what happens when you get lonely again? I mean, you have to do a little introspection. I know that you're a young person, possibly not looking for a serious, serious relationship, and if that's the case, okay. But this man has to be able to trust you. And doesn't it concern you that he was so accepting of it? Once I read that my mind started thinking of what he could be doing, that he would expect you to accept. Check inside yourself to see if this man is the one you really want to be with, because the distance is not going to get any shorter, but the temptations will always be there.
It's best you told him, especially if he got over it and decided to still stay together. It would have been much worse if when you see him in nine months or whatever and it ended up coming out after you tried hiding it, that would piss him off more. Even though he is not there it is still not right to cheat so just learn from it and don't let it happen again. He seems like a good guy and understanding, don't take advantage of that.
If it wasn't going any further with your co-worker and it wasn't going to happen again, then no you shouldn't have told him.
Your bfs reaction appears to be one of someone who has done it too. Now you're even.