A guy told me, if I love you, you should reduce your weight. Why would someone say like that?

[TessAshwin]

Why would a guy say something like that , I agree I am overweight and unfit , I should maintain my figure. So he says You could look more pretty if you get to reduce and have a fit body.

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actually the guy said to me , ... IF you love me , you should reduce your weight ...( went wrong there on the question)

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Why do I ask this Question , Because some of the gal friends werent happy with what he said. and they feel it was egoistical and superficial in his part. Which I feel isn't true at all. Rather I just feel he is being honest that I should reduce weight. what do you guys say ?

[AidenBlue]

Based on your update - Yes, its not the most tactiful way to say it. At least he is expressing his feelings/thoughts with you. It is better than getting dumped and now knowing why.

However, on his part it would have been better to say 'I love you and think you are really pretty as you are. I'd love to see you take it to another level by getting in better shape as it is better for you and you will only be that much more beautiful. I want you to be around a long time so the healthier the better. I'd really like to help you so how about we plan some exercise dates and get in a better schedule of getting to the gym?'

That would be a bit softer way to put it... Rather than some sort of ultimatum. He should partner with you and support you - not demand this to you as a test of your relationship. Of course, he's a guy and sometimes tact is not our strong suit. :-)

[AidenBlue]

A healthy body is more attractive and better for you. If its a guy you like tell him 'thanks for your honesty, I really do want to work on it - how about we have some exercise dates?'

Agree to meet up to bike, run, work out at the gym. Then you can be working on your body and getting to know him at the same time.

[TessAshwin]

Yeah I joined the gym recently... nice advice , thank you !

[XNicholex3]

I think that he probably likes you a lot because of your personality, but he thinks you would be utmost beautiful if you lost some weight.

Now, I totally don't like his attitude and I thought he was being really rude, but honest.

I don't really know how you should take it, but if a guy told me that I would be very offended and extremely turned off!

If you were to lose weight, lose weight for yourself, not for him!

[TessAshwin]

true.

[ManaX]

Rephrase: he's trying to say he would be more physically attracted to you if you lost some weight, and if you loved him you would want to look the best for him...which means loosing some weight.

[TessAshwin]

I agree

[TessAshwin]

We always have sex , I thought he is physically attracted to me anyways . Not sure though :/

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he might be being honest but that doesn't mean he's not a tactless assclown