Is my boyfriend lying about not wanting me to lose weight?

[musiclvr224]

I've lost 6 pounds, from 138 to 132 and I am 5'7 and I believe I am a size 6. My boyfriend says he doesn't like real skinny girls and doesn't want me to lose more weight.I think I need to but he doesn't think I need to. I'd like to be at 120-125. I feel so crappy about my weight compared to all of the gorgeous and so skinny Hollywood stars that men seem to love. Could he really feel this way or is he just being nice and trying not to hurt me since he is a loving and awesome boyfriend. He acts very seriously when he says I don't need to and that he doesn't want me to lose anymore. I am just so insecure when it comes to my weight.

[Ingrid422]

Stop believing that he's necessarily lying if he tells you opposite from what you think. I'm 5"7, just like you, and I weighted 140ish at my heaviest. The weight my body is comfortable at is 130ish. I lost weight for a year and I'm now at a comfortable 125. The lowest I've been recently was 122. Did I feel skinnier at 122 than I did at 130? No. In fact, before I weighted myself on that day, I thought I would have gained 2-3 pounds since the last time I weighted myself. You see, it's all relative, and to be honest, such a little amount of pounds WILL NOT CHANGE the way you look. It's all in her head and yes, I know, it takes a lot of time to resign yourself to the idea that those last 5 pounds you want to shed will not make you go from fat to physically attractive. We're all prone to underestimating what our desirable weight should be at because well, unless we've been down to this lowest weight before, we all speculate in the hopes that we'll look better and sexier the lighter we are.

As I was saying, my weight flunctuates from 120ish to 130ish regularly. But you know what I've realized? That to remain at 122, I gotta avoid all sweets OR skip meals. I'm 125 now and I have a piece of cake almost everyday. Do I look fatter? No I don't. It's ALL IN YOUR HEAD. And mine, and every girl's. Once you accept your figure as it usually is, you'll feel better in your skin and you'll stop worrying about what your boyfriend thinks about it. Confidence is attractive! And by the way, my boyfriend is thin as a toothpick (150 at 6'1") but he likes my body curvy just as it is. I told him that if I lost any more weight, I'd lose even more boobs. And you know what? "Don't do it.", he said. Of course not ;)

[Ingrid422]

And I'm a size 6-7, just like you.

[peace-love-couture]

Probably

No one wants to explicitly say "you'd look better if you were toned and in shape" but everyone looks better toned and in shape

That's not to say you have to go dangerously low, but him claiming to not want you to lose weight shouldn't be an excuse to not exercise or eat healthy

[HandsomeRaj]

1. Are you in love with 'all men' (who desire skinny girls) or with your boyfriend (who loves and cares for you?

2. Not everyone likes skinny women. I've been with skinny women but on my woman I require some flesh and curves

3. As long as you are healthy and in shape why become skinny. If your boyfriend likes obese that makes you unhealthy then yes you need to talk to him on that. But here he's just the opposite from what I read

4. I gym regularly and I've seen many girls and women lose their charm etc after they've lost beyond a certain limit of weight (other men may view it differently)

5. Looking good is about feeling good about yourself to begin with. In earlier centuries women who were skinny were looked down upon and women with wide hips were coveted (check history)

6. You are being swayed by popular trends. Look into yourself and identify to yourself what you want to be 1st (keeping aside popular trends) then you may decide ;)

[HandsomeRaj]

Oh, there could be another reason to it

7. You look better losing weight (some people look good skinny rather than curvy or fleshy) which makes him insecure :)

[martyfellow]

Tose stars need to look good in clothes designed for models.! So they have to be ultra thin. diet constantly, and work out with personal trainers all the time.

A real woman doesn't have to be that thin, so you're near ideal weight now. NEver think about how Hollywood stars look; and remember, the pictures are carefully posed as well. Airrushed, etc., sometimes doctored to make them look thinner.

Noo that there would be anything wrong with being 125. Take up jogging, it's the most effective way to get thin.

[Zerokoool]

Those Hollywood starlets all spend approximately $2000 a week to look 20-25 and the only reason they do it is because the camera is always pointed at them whether they are on or off the stage. Aside from the buckets of money they make, they would actually envy you for being able to lead the simple life. All guys know they are fake (well a good number of them anyhow). We do not love them, we simply appreciate their lack of physical flaws. But it is a passing appreciation because we know what we see is fake and unnatural. Your boyfriend doesn't want you to lose weight because he wants you to be as real and true to yourself as you can be, and that includes wearing as little make-up as possible. Be proud of who you are, you might be surprised at just how many other women aspire to look like you

[BCRanger10]

I think he means it. A lot of guys like girls with figures like these... link (130 lbs) and link (140 lbs). Notice the caption at the top of the website, by the way..."What real women look like". It's worth noting that there are a lot of women in Hollywood with figures like those. Even if they were a lot skinnier than that, it would be neither realistic nor healthy (physically or emotionally) to try to look like them.

[PoeticNinja]

Well, he's still with you. So, is he lying? Probably not. Would he be happy if you're fit and tone? Hell yeah.

You can either stay at that weight but you are unhappy with it. So, keep on working out until you reach your goal. Tone up, eat healthy, and I'm sure he'll love your body even more.

Size 6 is a tad big, imo.

[KingsOfleon88]

I agree with him, I'm not attracted to really skinny girls either. If he's attracted you, that's all that should matter. You have to stop comparing yourself to other people (and believe me, I know how hard it is).

[cavmanier]

I doubt he's lying. Some men like thin women and some not so much.

[nomadia]

close to flat tummy with curves and ideal weight is always good

[Konnour]

He is not lying. He likes women not zombies.