I miss my ex, should I contact her?

[Anonymous]

I miss my ex, we haven't talked since last year in November 2 months after we broke up.

Should I reach out?

[bettybets]

I think it would be okay. I'd be careful though. I wouldn't necessarily give her the inclination that you're trying to ask her out again or anything. Because if she's not interested, it will encourage her not to respond to you. That being said, I personally wouldn't bring up anything about y'all being together at all. I'd say, if it was her birthday or something, wish her happy birthday or make small talk. Or wait for the next holiday to roll around, wish her "Happy_______" and then see if she responds. You can try to (re)build a rapport again from there and make small talk.

Just don't jump to any conclusions about reaching out and don't expect her to want you back or maybe for her to even talk to you. She may well not be interested in either.

[linkworshiper]

I think you should only reach out if you are interested in finding out whether she'd want to reconcile with you. If you don't, then I think it will hurt both of you to restart that connection... unless, of course, both of you turn out to have moved on and are fine just being platonic friends. But I think if you're just reaching out to find out what her deal is but you don't really have a reason for it, it would be hurtful. But hey, maybe she will be missing you too and something good can restart! I would think very hard about what you say to her if you do decide to... maybe like, 'I saw this movie on TV and I remember watching it with you and falling asleep on your sofa!' or something... not just 'Hey' or something generic and lame.

[lovedcursed]

well I guess the best thing do to is to try to find out if she is seeing someone or already in a relationship ,if not will go ahead and make your move maybe she will glad to hear from you too !