In desperate need of help

[Anonymous]

i have huge crush on a girl I went to high school with and the only reason why I didn't say hi to her or even sit net to her in class was because I was fat. and I knew there was no way a fat guy is going out with a a gorgeous girl. I graduated and I was ya know still fat. at the beginning of 2013 I was going to lose weight. and right now I've lost 91 lbs since January of this year. back to the girl. I wanna tell her that I've always liked her. I have to do it to move on. but she doesn't know me and I don't know her. I think she has a Facebook but that's shaky ground. what do I do. honest answers and its been over a year since I graduated high schooll. thanks

[Stacyzee]

Congratulations on your weight lost.

But I must say you have got it all wrong.

No body is ever "too fat" to be in a relationship. Look around...you will see

couples of all sizes.

Some couples you will even see a partner that is slim and the other one overweight.

Some people aren't has superficial has you think.

You have to allow yourself to get to know someone instead of making those assumptions.

Yes, attraction to one does matter.

But to someone that is looking for something real and solid, it isn't the main thing.

I am glad that you lost weight and now you have a new found confidence.

Since you never even mumbled a word to this girl, I would start fresh and not

go back on the past.

Send her a face book invitation and a message.

See if she accepts.

If she does, then start from scratch.

Compliment her.

Tell her you think she is really beautiful.

Have conversations with her.

Don't always be the initiation...allow her to message you first at times.

When time does past, offer to take her out.

I hope everything works in your favor.

If she isn't single, well at least you found the courage to

to communicate with her (even if it isn't ideal).

A good friendship can come out of this.

[cooltypechick]

LOL .. first of all I was ( and still am ) fat all during high school so feel yeah ! great job on the weight loss ! who cares if this girl likes you or not you did something that so many people try so hard to do ( lose weight ) so way to go on that ! moving on ..this reminds me of a movie called JUST FRIENDS . if you never seen it check it out ! you will love it its funny ... OK now to help you with your question .. Facebook is the only way to go really ...what I would do is add some people from your old high school to your page . then send her a friend request saying who you are and that your adding people from your school and that you new who she was... even if she don't remember you that might be a good thing .. just be like yeah remember me I used to be bigger .. have your before and after pics on your page lol.. just start talking to her and tell her you used to have a big crush on her.. she is not going to think you are strange she will probably be flattered by it . I no I would .. just talk to her ! either way you have come out on top ! way to go

[Fzal123]

Add on fb.. Hopefully you might have some mutual friends and she accepts.. Then just tell her that, it will flatter her

[lship123]

Well first, think about the situation. You have never talked to her or said hi, so it might seem a little creepy to come out of nowhere and say you have a crush on her? Ask yourself, what do you expect to come out of this confession? If it is a weight of your shoulders then go for it, but if it is automatic relationship (crush) then I would slow your roll. Maybe try talking to her and if you want a real relationship to form in any way whether that be friends OR maybe something more down the road... start off friendly. not creepy. Don't be like hey I've always liked you, want to hang out? Don't forget you're basically strangers to each other. approach her like a friendly stranger and how you would meet a friend for the first time.

[Ohsnapitssav]

You sound like a really sweet guy.

If she doesn't have a boyfriend, explain to her exactly what you said here.

Explain how you wanted the chance to know her but you were to embarrassed of your figure then.

Hopefully she will realize you are a great guy inside and out and y'all will frequently talk.

Try to ease in to asking her out if it leads to that though.

[Anonymous]

Flirt with her.don't confess all your feelings