I like it it. The plusses are good!
Why are girls like you so rare? Smh
@Syrian_survivor They aren't :)
@Tallandsweet. Sadly, my 30 years of experience say othetwise!
Do they still say phooey? lol
Geeeeeze. Look, I have to use nice words so I don't have to add to the swear jar.
Well phooey.. okay! Ha
I didn't know they still had swear jars😁
It was a joke... but I'm trying to cut back and use my more extensive vocabulary... hence "phooey."
It was hilarious. Your cuteness level just went up 2 more points in my book. 😉
Holy mackerel! Aww shucks! That just sounds forced... but I'll keep trying!I'm curious to know about the two point system... lol But I'll just keep wondering. 😊
Well yeah... I gotta keep you on your toes you know? 😘
Thanks for the MHO
Yes yes yes!! I don't get these people who claim to save for marriage and then do everything leaving nothing but PIV behind.
Wow, interesting. You mean sexual compatibility isn't something y'all could work out after the wedding? Seems like this is the go to reason people think it's ok to wait. I'm legit asking.
I wish I could rephrase this, lol. Why won't Gag let you edit? I'm not surprised 2 virgins had a hard time of things, but didn't they ever get any better?
Some things are difficult or impossible to work out. In my case, we had different preferences, and she adamantly refused to try anything new. After a while, we stopped having sex altogether. It would have saved both of us quite a bit of time and heartache if we had known about that incompatibility before the wedding.
Thanks. I didn't mean to be so personal. You can see that your experience is rare around here and few people consider things beyond their ideals. Sorry things didn't work out for you, and thank you for sharing your experience
That’s true. I also got married more than 20 years ago; times have changed.
Eh, not so much that this still isn't something to discuss and be improved upon
You looked to her purely for sex fantasy fulfillment. That was mistake #1. You didn't check for attitude compatibility. Mistake #2. Marriage is about sharing goals and sharing a LIFE, not having porn star quality sex!
@obscuredbeyond They were both virgins that never became sexually compatible. This suggests they married for more than just physical attraction. I think your logic is off base
@DorkVader : He states that what mattered to him most was sexual compatibility, which he doesn't define. How hard is it to find another angle or position? If you have to resort to the Lazy Dancer, why not? Not compatible... as in she doesn't believe in oral and anal? Did she demand to be covered in sushi and turn him off? Fetishes should be discussed before marriage. So they aren't expected after. If I had a stable home of my own I could afford, a wife that I could snuggle with after a long day at work, and someone who will hear out my proposals on life matters that isn't a parent or grandparent, I don't need a wife that can bang like a porn star. Sex can be sparing, and I'd be fine. Seems everyone wants extremes these days. Either you have a partner that's more f*kbuddy than anything else, or you're simply alone. If those are my only two choices, knowing horror stories about friends with benefits, being alone suddenly doesn't sound so terrible.
@ObscuredBeyond That's you. Maybe you have a lower sex drive than this person, and that's fine, and most virgins dont know what the heck positions or fetishes they have or even how to explore them safely. Not everyone thinks like you, and that's ok! But it doesn't make his perception of his marriage wrong. He lived it, you didn't. You can only speculate on it.
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I understand what you are saying and I agree with you to a point. "If you have sex before marriage, you have an intense connection with that person." It seems to me that kissing is more intimate than sex these days. It seems to me that kissing brings more of a connection than sex these days.
@David92506 I can see where you are coming from. Today, sex means less to people. It's just something that everyone does. Now, sex is something that is as important as going to McDonalds for lunch
great advice to girls, the whores in my town would tear you limb from limb for saying that you know
I wanted to make a comment where I agree with you. My parents told me that sex is like a secret between two people. Once you start having sex with a lot of people it's not much of a secret anymore. So I agree it should be saved for one person.
@kaitylatte I like it
The boys of GAG ha ha ha
Like the boys of summer, lol
I like the idea but no kissing before marriage seems a bit too extreme. I feel that if you like someone a lot but aren't quite ready for marriage it's okay to kiss and cuddle up. Like it would be weird to be engaged but not even kiss. But as far as like casual dates before you really really know the person I think that's fair. I've gone on half a dozen dates without a kiss because it felt soon.
So how exactly do you draw the line then? There are some people who legitimately use that excuse and then they literally do everything, give blowjobs and what not, only leaving intercourse and saying they are 'saving' for marriage, lol! I don't like this cherry picking. It's my body and I'm not letting anyone touch this until they have shown their commitment, and their only way to do it is marriage. Some guys won't like that and leave, but that just means that the trash is taking itself out. I don't want a man who wants me for my body.
I think there's a pretty huge jump from kissing/hugging to blowjobs. I'm not sure I believe you could date someone for years, love them but be unwilling to share a kiss or let them hold you. It doesn't even have to be a sexual thing. And here i thought i was reserved...
If you love someone, and you are having an affair for several years without getting married, then something is terribly wrong. Even if you are in a financial crisis and you can't afford a wedding ceremony or even a ring, you can always go to the court/church/temple/whatever religious place and at least get the papers signed and vows read and get legally married, which doesn't require any diamond ring, or bridal dress, or a feast.If you don't believe in marriage in the first place, then my principles still apply, that you should be saving for only the person you get into a serious committed relationship with, whatever is a the alternative to an official long term life with your partner other than marriage in your mind.
But getting to know someone takes time. I might be confident that I like someone after a year but still want to wait to make sure everything is fine. No guy wants to marry early just for the girl to change her mind.Which is why I don't think some signs off affection are okay, because you expect to stay together but still want to be cautious, if course nothing sexual. Have you never cuddled with a family member?
Getting to know someone takes time, but it shouldn't take more than 5 years to marry UNLESS you have been in this relationship since you were in middle school or high school, in which case it can take longer because you need the extra time to grow up first.I did cuddle close family members and my best friend. My bestie literally spoons me like a bolster pillow when we sleep over. But she's not any random person, we've been best friends for over a decade.
5 years sounds reasonable but are you telling me you wouldn't hold hands and kiss someone you were dating for 3 years?
Yes that's exactly what I'm saying. And it's no big deal. Some do make a deal out of it, but that's exactly why you need to talk about it and give your potential partner the heads up before you even start to have any affairs with them.
So, if you have a boyfriend right now you've never kissed him and won't until you're married?It's great if you're both on board I'm just extremely surprised because it's basically unheard of. It's hard enough finding a girl who's still a virgin.
It's normal for Muslims.
How long you waiting?
Depends on the person and the level of attraction, and if they're really serious about being/staying committed to me and me only. Think I've said before, I don't share my man.
@CoachTanthony Thanks for the honorable mention. Couldn't really reply saving it for marriage as at my age, that ship has sailed 😊unless I become the virgin Mary reincarnated, then yup, saving that shit🤣😂
Is age a made up concept too?
@glutendan or unwanted pregnancy among teenagers?
Not true at all.. Your mention is pure projection and your own concept.
Virginity is as much a man made concept as all of civilization. So devaluing it on that basis is idiotic.
There is no such thing as sexually incompatible. It’s about communication. You’re basically a trashy slag because I know plenty of couples who were virgins or the girl was a virgin and they have a great sex life. Use whatever excuse to be the trashy whore that you are.
Oop the incel and trolling really jumped out here🤡
now here is a girl I respect ^
Ha Ha Ha
yeah but who cares what people thinks, more important what the people you love think, and I think your parents and your husband will be more pleased with your decision. The others can eat a dick
@Shamalien years... it's like giving my all to him...
Just take my word for it, rose words are worth gold to some guys.
honestly, I don't you know why are you female would consider marriage if we had not done it before, I wouldn't be worth anything if I was celibate
Try me then :-P
Why even pick marriage...
😂😂😂Don't worry, my dearI fully agree with you guys, I am on that side of the battleCelibacy until marriage😂😂😂
Hmmm... thats all u
I don't know why I am getting such a negative vibe off of you, I agree with you 100%
Ur talking celibacy... maybe I'm to stoned but celibacy is not a way to go
That is the problem, we are two stoners confusing each otherLet me hit you up and you can hit mine 💀💀
Women: "don't objectify women"
I'm pretty sure a guy is much more than a dick.Talk about objectifying men lol
She's speaking euphemistically. Should she phrase her statement differently, why make a lifetime commitment to an unsatisfactory sex life? Does that rustle your chimmies a little less?
I don't play by those monogamous rules 😒
Nothing lasts forever. Relationships included. Sex is ur own personal business. Do what pleases you and fuck being judged. I don't need my statement reworded, i mean what I say. I personally get bored and wonder what sex would be like with someone else. It's life. Marriage is a lot of money spent on a signed paper and attention from everyone telling u congrats. Love is overrated. Why in the hell is celibacy still an act? It's 2020... lust trumps love. Sex isn't meant to be with one person for the rest of ur life. Sex is suppose to feel good, not something to over think. Marriage, dumb. Boring sex with one person for the rest of ur self induced miserable life, retarded.
@CarrieLee My apologies, no harm meant
@boxysama I read that the first time. Maybe i don't want to. Not to be a cunt but on some real shit idc what ur views are about being a man slut... no offense. I only joined this app for my boyfriend... i think this hole thing is a waste of time. Again no offense
@dorkvader cute name and i was told today I'm to vulgar to conversate with blah blah or some shit like that. U did spruce up what i said.
@CarrieLee that's an odd point of view you have, I hope your boyfriend knows all about it and knows you're gonna either cheat on him or dump him for another guy so you can feel a different dick 🤔
You've got it all wrong
We prefer non virgin women because the love we get waiting for wedding day gives us the chance to create connection sexually early on. Wedding night turns to the party.
Says my ex boyfriend now we aren't together
@Bootylicious905 you’re a guy?
. I was typing what douche ex said
Guys will say anything to get us to sleep with them
In other words you dont mind a woman with over 10 partners?
@Lexxii747 Are you one of those who think only virgins are capable to love?
In my country teenagers often think like you do and many end up pregnant.
Wdym a bull?
It's a cuckolding thing. I'm the guy that fucks a woman while her boyfriend/husband watches and gets humiliated. It's an acquired taste for many, so I wouldn't be surprised if you find it disgusting. Lol
It is fun tho, so that's a plus. Lol
Oh I know about that! So the bull is the wife pleaserDamn, never met such a person lmao
men don't have much say whether it happens or not. that's up to the lady. unless it's forcible rape. and thats a nono.
Because guys are saints? Lol. Who do you think those “raunchy” girls are having sex with?
@Angie221994 Did I say guys are saints? I have called guy colleagues and guys I know personally as friends or even through school if they act douchey with stupid pick up lines and trying to get as much pussy as possible I call them out as well. If I call out guys, I will call out girls. You may turn around and say well what about you... I am a loyal guy, I think cheaters are nimrods who have zero heart, depriving someone to be with some special where maybe there was a guy who was crushing on a girl who really liked her but she chose the guy who is giving her trouble. That is by far one of the most common themes in a girls life.