Do people still believe in saving themselves for marriage?

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AnomalousPearl · Accepted Answer

I’m waiting and so far the pluses still seem to outweigh the minuses (I have no STDs, out of wedlock children, I think I have less emotional baggage from previous relationships, I’ll honestly be able to tell my husband he’s the most amazing lover I’ve ever been with, etc.), while the only con I’ve seen people offer is you might not be sexually compatible. To me that seems like something you figure out together. I mean, how many people would say, “(S) he’s the most amazing person I’ve ever met and I love every moment we spend together and we have an insane amount in common and I think s (he) is gorgeous, but (s) he doesn’t like doing this thing in bed that I like doing so I’m going to break up with him/her”?

SydneySentinel · Accepted Answer

Some do... what I don't understand is this silliness of doing everything except PIV... if you're doing sexual things but "saving yourself for marriage," that's a load of phooey.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I waited, and so did the woman I married. We quickly found out that we weren’t sexually compatible, and it went downhill from there. We ended up divorcing a few years later; there were a variety of reasons, but the disappointing sex life was definitely one of them. Today, I wouldn’t even consider marrying a woman without knowing if we’re sexually compatible.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes some people do and I’m saving for my future wife  I’m waiting for marriage

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

I wouldn't say marriage, but I save "it" for a long- term, committed, monogamous relationship. But "it's" worth the wait.😉

btbc92 · Answer

Yes, that's the best way to do it to not screw yourself up. Otherwise, if you want to do it, do it. When it doesn't work out don't complain about how the sex was bad. Because sex is not about how good or bad the person is. It's about enjoying the fulfillment of marital sex together. You can always work on that as a couple. Sex is not a performance. There are studies to back this up. Those who wait have better sex and healthy marriages.

kaitylatte · Answer

Yep they do! And I totally agree with it (though I am not one of those who have). If you have sex before marriage, you have an intense connection with that person (even if it was only a one night stand). It may not be a romantic connection, but it is a connection that can get in the way of your connection with your spouse. If you have a piece of paper and you rip it up and give it to a bunch of people except for one piece, and you give that piece to The One, you also have all those pieces that were given to others. Same is true with sex. At the end of the day, you won't have as much to give to the right person. My advice: Keep your pieces. I know what it's like to give one to the wrong person.

DorkVader · Answer

People believe in waiting for marriage. The Boys of GAG sometimes believe that they won't marry someone who isn't a virgin (good luck with that), but the Virgins have to deal with marrying a man who was a dirty stomp-around. That doesn't really seem fair to me, but who can tell about these GAG mens.

CubsterShura · Answer

I do! Not only do I believe saving sex for marriage, but also any other kind of physical thing, like making out. And at least I still believe in dating/affair where you get to know you partner and talk to each other, go out together, all that good stuff minus the physical relationship... I know many people who don't even believe in that.

sweetcocoa_ · Answer

I am saving myself for marriage idc what people think about it. Fight me bro.

Randomawkwardness · Answer

Personally, no. Virginity is a made up concept and the idea of saving yourself for marriage is almost impossible in our current culture. Those men who want a pure virgin for themselves and vice versa will probably divorce in a few years as they realize just how sexually incompatible they are.

girlzruleboyzdrool · Answer

I waited until I was married. It was the best thing I ever did and I have no regrets to this day. My husband waited too.
When we shared those special first moments it was a gift to each other that no one else in the world got.

Rangers · Answer

It's rare, but it is still very much a thing as people willing to do their research know how strong the correlation between number of sex partners and the odds of failed marriage, not getting married, depression, not having a successful relationship, low self worth, low income, bad reputation, and likelihood of committing crime.

smalls95 · Answer

I think whatever someone chooses, good for them. As long as something isn't dictated it's fine. I think in certain religious groups, there's a lot of guilt associated with having sex before marriage. I would rather someone choose out of their own best interest rather than out of guilt or feeling like others are judging them. I was raised in a really religious atmosphere, one I'm no longer a part of. I've had sex and I'm not married yet. I think I needed to explore my sexuality my own way or I would have felt like I was missing out. I'm happy with my decisions.

akihon · Answer

Marriage rates falling, 50% end in divorce, 70% divorce started by women increasing to 80% for second marriage and about 86% for third and more. No fault divorce leaving men in a position to do everything right and still get taken to the cleaners and face starving to death or prison paying for their ex.
Marriage is a contract for slavery for men to sign endorsed by corrupt governments to facilitate transferring a man's wealth to a woman freeing the state from the responsibility of supporting women who would otherwise have to support themselves.

I have absolutely no faith in marriage and never will.

SpiderManFan2002 · Answer

I am saving myself for marriage because that's my belief.

But at the same time, I don't think everyone should be forced to save themselves for marriage- and I'm not going to look down on anyone who doesn't. Their sex life isn't mine, so I have no business in telling them how to live theirs, and they don't have any business in telling me how to live mine.

SpacedCharr · Answer

I don't believe in it at all.

Sex is an important part of a happy marriage in mind. You've got to properly vet a partner and ensure you have good sexual compatibility.

Otherwise it can become an area of resentment.

Jjpayne · Answer

That's what I'm trying to do but I'm a rare breed of person :)

imthedudemann · Answer

I don't know. Saving yourself isn't exactly what it sounds like. I dated a girl in college who was "saving herself". She was basically okay with everything except vaginal sex.
Personally I don't think that's what "saving yourself" means... Though that's just my opinion..

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Well yes! There a lot of people Who does that, largest percent of middle easterns specially the christians. The society in other open minded countries made it a abd thing somehow and now you have teen parents, std's, gender change and so on. And yes! I am one of them 😁

Kindofweird · Answer

Yep... I am saving myself for my true love. I will lose my virginity to my husband after wedding... People can think that it is so old fashioned... but I don't give a fuck😂😂😂😂🤣😀

DailyFairy · Answer

Sex life can be always be improved. so rather thn sleeping around n checking who is better is better to save urself 4 the right one... n yeah i believe in saving myself 4 marriage others will follow

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and I’m one them. It mostly stems from beliefs. I have no shame in waiting and I don’t judge anyone who doesn’t want to wait or has already had sex. If a guy can’t respect that value that I want to uphold then we don’t need to be together. I shouldn’t have to compromise my values for what someone else wants and vice versa. One day I’ll meet that special guy and it will have been so worth the wait ☺️

tiajoka · Answer

I'm waiting, and while I love my boyfriend, plan to marry, and have been with him for two years now... It's still hard sometimes to think of how he's been with other women. I wanted to be that special and only one with him; and have us share that pure connective bond that nobody else would get to be a part of. I'm happy I waited for him and I wouldn't want anyone else, but it does make me sad he didn't wait for me. (though I couldn't possibly love him any less)

kaylaS91 · Answer

Of course.
Many people still ‘save’ themselves for marriage, whether it’s for personal/family/religious reasons.

The ones who don’t and are living more sexually active lives are simply more vocal about their choices.

Lifeofleilaniii · Answer

I used to but being a virgin is kind of hard these days especially because rim a sexual person. I still am one by choice and I just got out of a relationship where we were always intimate without going there. It’s just about waiting for someone who’s deserving of it

CarrieLee · Answer

U wouldn't buy a car without testing it... why commit to a dick u don't know

Anonymous · Answer

Test driving is somewhat comical as there are no guarantees the first time will be like the 10th or 100th time. People change from their 20's, 30's, etc. Sex or no sex fine, but to think having premarital sex will ensure great sex til death do us part is comical.

1828avaava1828 · Answer

Not necessarily but definitely limit. I think a few is good for variety and experience but emphasis on few. A high number just doesn’t seem healthy. STDs are a big issue.

Those are my thoughts. Yo each their own 🤗

Glorious_Gay_Dragon · Answer

Im sure some do but not many people i know. I dont have a problem with being so in love you want to throw a party, thats beautiful and we should do it more often, but why does it have to be so ceremonious and stressful and legal and religious AND expensive! Thats the part i want to stay away from.

If i ever find someone and we want to be together forever we'll just do it and leave Lord and law out of the equation.

ConFed · Answer

I thought it would be right if I did this well I tried this but temptation got the better of me and I also thought I was with the one at the time. But a freind of mine once told me a relationship should be more attraction not top of the list you just have to be attracted to them. Curiosity, Trust a lot of trust, patients and good timing.

Anonymous · Answer

No. But saving myself for the right partner. I've had relationships but not sex yet, i'll wait until it feels entirely right. I wouldn't want my first sex to happen on the wedding night though. :D Most first times are uncomfortable or even painful and i'd wanna enjoy it and not be all nervous and inexperienced.

menina · Answer

I think some people still believe in that and they do save themselves. While others are "forced" to save themselves for marriage due to cultural or religious reasons.

rud0_88 · Answer

Very few do and I admire it, but it usually seems pointless. I waited for my wedding night, but hey, over 50% of marriages end in divorce... so did my marriage.  Now I dont care anymore.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Im not a virgin but i would prefer to be. Last year most the guys i talked to wanted to wait til marriage anyways and i was down for it

Paul09 · Answer

Nope, I do not. I wonder how long these marriages last when you wait? So let's say you do what your man created god tells you to do, and you save yourself. Then you get married, and the sex is horrible. Then what? Well unless you are anti-sex or something, I don't get how you would live with that?

Melissa01979 · Answer

No saving yourself til marriage is like buying a car without test driving it.

Gamillions · Answer

That saying went out the window years ago. The only virgins are the hardcore religious people. Besides...
what happens if your sexual appetite is through the roof... and your mates is... NO WAY JOSE. Problems from the start. Be wise and hold off getting married tii you have sewed your oats and really ready for marriage.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Sex is overrated. If I ever do marry, I want it to be for a lot of the other reasons marriages happen. Mostly, for personal security. So I don't have to live with or close to family, but safer than living truly alone. And more affordable.

Anonymous · Answer

I lost my virginity at 14, and severely regret it. I wish I had waited instead of being peer pressured. In my mind for some reason thinking of saving myself for that one someone turns me on, and makes it more special.

LoU_Hades · Answer

No. I don't buy a car without test drive. My problem is that I prefer long test drives and car dealer on passenger seat says I'm obliged to buy the car after 100000 km.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

Some do. Most don't care. And some have a weird double standard, like getting fucked in the ass a hundred times and still calling them virgins.

SimpleRhubarb · Answer

Of course they do! My best friend is. It’s a religious thing for her. It might not be as common, but obviously some people still abstain.

Daniel3035 · Answer

Pointless you'll regret not doing what you could have done and so will do it in marriage resulting in a divorce.

OurManFlint · Answer

Depends on where one lives. In the west we dont believe in waiting for sex and our divorce rates are slowly overtaking our marriage rates. Sex certainly isn't the only factor in divorce rates but perhaps there's more to waiting than we care to admit.

lacaras · Answer

Some people do, and that's fine for them. I personally wouldn't marry someone if I haven't slept with them and lived with them for awhile.

glutendan · Answer

Not many but I want to. But if the number is dwindling. By a certain age if I don't meet that girl I wouldn't be surprised if I gave up on that sort of love just due to the lack of options.

Most people are definitely not waiting.

clok3 · Answer

Lmaooo such a stupid thing to do what if the sex is bad and now ur just stuck in a marriage with weak sex lmao

TacosRAwesome · Answer

People still believe of course just way less than say 20 years ago.

Titanic1912 · Answer

Some people still believe in it. I believe in it but my girlfriend doesn’t.

mrsingle · Answer

First chance I got I had sex. But it was with a partner I trusted and had safe sex.

eriakata · Answer

No, there's no reason, I is better when people know what they like, and how they want it.

itsthatgurl · Answer

Of course. It's respectable and I think people can do (or not do for that matter) whatever the hell they want

MitchMyr · Answer

I guess if your comfortable with the possibility of never having good sex.

I wouldn't marry someone if I didn't know how they are in bed, you might end up marrying someone you don't like having sex with.

Liadon · Answer

Most don't, but some do. The number of people who do seems to be going down over time though.

Shiver · Answer

Some do. When it turns out they're not sexually compatible, it benefits me, as a bull, so I encourage people to keep at it tbh. Lol

Angie221994 · Answer

Lol. I’m just saying. The way you worded your answer. Just blaming it on women when men are just as bad.

Anonymous · Answer

Many do

i think it's baloney though

I mean, seriously..

What happens if you get married, have sex, and then either, the sex is BAD, or, you get divorced.. you've just wasted your virginity, on a failure

by the way, people, divorce is up to 75% of all marriages

Tommy2017 · Answer

Got dumped by this girl who told me she was saving herself for marriage. I think she wasn't just attracted to me that much because the thought of saving yourself for marriage is absurd and outdated.

Anonymous · Answer

I mean I do, but that won't matter to girls nowadays since a ton of girls seems so raunchy and slutty these days vying for the satisfaction of just any guy.

Exterminatore · Answer

Some do, but it’s increasingly rare. I do espouse that. Admittedly I did not do that, not even close.

420guyinpanties · Answer

Maybe not marriage but at least long term relationship.

Djaay · Answer

Biblically , a virgin male and female together married become in agreement together in what is called a blood covenment with GOD.   Any other way is an abominational sin.

mermaidia_lol · Answer

Of course people still believe in it.

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