I’m waiting and so far the pluses still seem to outweigh the minuses (I have no STDs, out of wedlock children, I think I have less emotional baggage from previous relationships, I’ll honestly be able to tell my husband he’s the most amazing lover I’ve ever been with, etc.), while the only con I’ve seen people offer is you might not be sexually compatible. To me that seems like something you figure out together. I mean, how many people would say, “(S) he’s the most amazing person I’ve ever met and I love every moment we spend together and we have an insane amount in common and I think s (he) is gorgeous, but (s) he doesn’t like doing this thing in bed that I like doing so I’m going to break up with him/her”?
Some do... what I don't understand is this silliness of doing everything except PIV... if you're doing sexual things but "saving yourself for marriage," that's a load of phooey.
I waited, and so did the woman I married. We quickly found out that we weren’t sexually compatible, and it went downhill from there. We ended up divorcing a few years later; there were a variety of reasons, but the disappointing sex life was definitely one of them. Today, I wouldn’t even consider marrying a woman without knowing if we’re sexually compatible.
Yes some people do and I’m saving for my future wife
I’m waiting for marriage
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I wouldn't say marriage, but I save "it" for a long- term, committed, monogamous relationship. But "it's" worth the wait.😉
Yes, that's the best way to do it to not screw yourself up. Otherwise, if you want to do it, do it. When it doesn't work out don't complain about how the sex was bad. Because sex is not about how good or bad the person is. It's about enjoying the fulfillment of marital sex together. You can always work on that as a couple. Sex is not a performance. There are studies to back this up. Those who wait have better sex and healthy marriages.
Yep they do! And I totally agree with it (though I am not one of those who have). If you have sex before marriage, you have an intense connection with that person (even if it was only a one night stand). It may not be a romantic connection, but it is a connection that can get in the way of your connection with your spouse. If you have a piece of paper and you rip it up and give it to a bunch of people except for one piece, and you give that piece to The One, you also have all those pieces that were given to others. Same is true with sex. At the end of the day, you won't have as much to give to the right person. My advice: Keep your pieces. I know what it's like to give one to the wrong person.
People believe in waiting for marriage. The Boys of GAG sometimes believe that they won't marry someone who isn't a virgin (good luck with that), but the Virgins have to deal with marrying a man who was a dirty stomp-around. That doesn't really seem fair to me, but who can tell about these GAG mens.
I do! Not only do I believe saving sex for marriage, but also any other kind of physical thing, like making out. And at least I still believe in dating/affair where you get to know you partner and talk to each other, go out together, all that good stuff minus the physical relationship... I know many people who don't even believe in that.
I am saving myself for marriage idc what people think about it.
Fight me bro.
Personally, no. Virginity is a made up concept and the idea of saving yourself for marriage is almost impossible in our current culture. Those men who want a pure virgin for themselves and vice versa will probably divorce in a few years as they realize just how sexually incompatible they are.
I waited until I was married. It was the best thing I ever did and I have no regrets to this day. My husband waited too.
When we shared those special first moments it was a gift to each other that no one else in the world got.
I think whatever someone chooses, good for them. As long as something isn't dictated it's fine. I think in certain religious groups, there's a lot of guilt associated with having sex before marriage. I would rather someone choose out of their own best interest rather than out of guilt or feeling like others are judging them. I was raised in a really religious atmosphere, one I'm no longer a part of. I've had sex and I'm not married yet. I think I needed to explore my sexuality my own way or I would have felt like I was missing out. I'm happy with my decisions.
Marriage rates falling, 50% end in divorce, 70% divorce started by women increasing to 80% for second marriage and about 86% for third and more. No fault divorce leaving men in a position to do everything right and still get taken to the cleaners and face starving to death or prison paying for their ex.
Marriage is a contract for slavery for men to sign endorsed by corrupt governments to facilitate transferring a man's wealth to a woman freeing the state from the responsibility of supporting women who would otherwise have to support themselves.
I have absolutely no faith in marriage and never will.
It's rare, but it is still very much a thing as people willing to do their research know how strong the correlation between number of sex partners and the odds of failed marriage, not getting married, depression, not having a successful relationship, low self worth, low income, bad reputation, and likelihood of committing crime.
I am saving myself for marriage because that's my belief.
But at the same time, I don't think everyone should be forced to save themselves for marriage- and I'm not going to look down on anyone who doesn't. Their sex life isn't mine, so I have no business in telling them how to live theirs, and they don't have any business in telling me how to live mine.
I don't believe in it at all.
Sex is an important part of a happy marriage in mind. You've got to properly vet a partner and ensure you have good sexual compatibility.
Otherwise it can become an area of resentment.
That's what I'm trying to do but I'm a rare breed of person :)
I don't know. Saving yourself isn't exactly what it sounds like. I dated a girl in college who was "saving herself". She was basically okay with everything except vaginal sex.
Personally I don't think that's what "saving yourself" means... Though that's just my opinion..
Well yes! There a lot of people Who does that, largest percent of middle easterns specially the christians. The society in other open minded countries made it a abd thing somehow and now you have teen parents, std's, gender change and so on. And yes! I am one of them 😁
Sex life can be always be improved. so rather thn sleeping around n checking who is better is better to save urself 4 the right one... n yeah i believe in saving myself 4 marriage others will follow
Yep... I am saving myself for my true love. I will lose my virginity to my husband after wedding...
People can think that it is so old fashioned... but I don't give a fuck😂😂😂😂🤣😀
Yes and I’m one them. It mostly stems from beliefs. I have no shame in waiting and I don’t judge anyone who doesn’t want to wait or has already had sex. If a guy can’t respect that value that I want to uphold then we don’t need to be together. I shouldn’t have to compromise my values for what someone else wants and vice versa. One day I’ll meet that special guy and it will have been so worth the wait ☺️
I'm waiting, and while I love my boyfriend, plan to marry, and have been with him for two years now... It's still hard sometimes to think of how he's been with other women. I wanted to be that special and only one with him; and have us share that pure connective bond that nobody else would get to be a part of. I'm happy I waited for him and I wouldn't want anyone else, but it does make me sad he didn't wait for me. (though I couldn't possibly love him any less)
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