How to know if he is the one?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend just asked me if I will be willing to marry him next year. We have being together 8 months and by the time I have to make my desition we will one an a half year.

He is 8 years older than me (i'm 29) and his dream is us living in the States (we are now in Mexico, he is American while I'm mexican). But I don't know if it will better for me to follow my professional growth. Next year I will finished my master's degree and maybe I can keep studying or getting a nice job.

I really love him, he is the type I always wanted, but I feel scare of make a bad desition in my life.

[MannMitAntworten]

You already have doubts, so no, he is not your one. Maybe you have a one and maybe you don’t. Regardless, doubts are not included in “ones”. If you felt he was the one you would be asking for ideas how to work around your obstacles and express them as reasons to take pause.

[MannMitAntworten]

... and ‘not’* express them as reasons to take pause... that should have read.

[Asker]

Thank you, I don't know, is not that I'm not in love and super happy of thinking about get married with him, but I'm scare of loosing an opportunities to develop myself, It won't be better if I do not engage myself in this period of my life? Never thoughted about marriage, that's why I feel scared, not because of him.

[Asker]

I mean, love is contrary to professional development?

[MannMitAntworten]

Why is love contrary to professional development?

[Asker]

Because in this case, I should move to another country and by mean while waiting to get a legal status I won't be able to work. I'm going to finish my master's degree just before we leave the country (in case we get married) and I won't be able to put in practice my skills neather study a phd. My plan was to looking for a program in UK, now I feel scared of not doing it because of another life path.

[MannMitAntworten]

Well that does had lots of complexity. I get it now.

[reptocarl2]

If you’re asking then he isn’t