Marriage worked when religion had enough control over society, religion encouraged people to practice monogamy and be a virgin at marriage, that's why it was hard for men to get casual sex, because women knew they did. they had casual sex then it would be difficult for them to get a good husband, so it was easier for men to marry to ensure sex throughout their lives.
Today, after the sexual revolution, women are much more promiscuous, men can get casual sex much more easily, that is why men will not spend time and money in a marriage where they can only have sex with one woman, besides that because of divorce, marriage today does not ensure sex for life, it should be noted that today's society is not monogamous, serial monogamy through divorce and remarriage is essentially vertical promiscuity over time rather than horizontally in the present.
The biased court system is obviously a problem, but the fact that the vast majority of divorces are initiated by women, and those women are happy to take full advantage of that biased court system, that is the bigger problem.
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As a general rule, complex events don't have single simple causes. There're usually many factors involved, and at least some of them are quite complicated. This is no different.
The simple truth is that marriage isn't a good deal for men anymore- but that's not a cause; it's a result of social changes: sex is available outside of marriage much more readily (and no longer carries the stigma it used to), contraception is far more reliable, shifting attitudes about FOMO and abstract notions of happiness have lead to divorce rates over fifty percent, personal attitudes about FIXING problems rather than just trashing broken things and starting over, cultural attitudes about "you deserve better" encouraging women (probably men, too, but it's women who're initiating 80% of divorces) to bail on the relationship when it gets tough, and brutal family court laws and settlements that make a marriage a gamble with a loaded gun contribute mightily.
The single biggest issue, however, is a small-but-larger-than-ever-before contingent of men FINALLY having the courage to dispute the eternally-presumed notion of their own disposability. That goes *way* beyond marriage, but isn't what you asked about.
Unfortunately, I don't see a good way to fix the situation; changing laws can help, but I doubt it'll do much- the big necessary change is in ATTITUDES, and while you can prompt *individuals* to make those changes, you can't reliably prompt a *society* to.
u millions of men do not want to marry...
but millions of other men still wan to marry...
it is an individual choice... and if you're going into marriage with someone you do not trust and even before you say "I do" you're already thinking of divorce settlements and "how are you going to get screwed" then you're doomed from the get-go anyway
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