Guys, is it looked down upon by men when a woman wants to be a housewife/mother at a young age?

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i know its okay to be independent as a person & it doesn’t stem from what gender you are. i can't help but want to provide for my (future) husband in every single aspect & don’t see anything wrong with making sure they have a nice home to come to everyday. meanwhile still maintaining financial stability on my own. times change & im at times afraid to say this.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

This is actually what most "relationship men" want - but not all men are "relationship men." And there's also the problem that most men take until sometime in their mid 20s to get to a place financially where they could support a wife and then kids. You don't need to marry a 40 year old or anything, but few guys are ready before 24 or 25 - mostly because if they marry any earlier, they will probably have to live a pretty low (poor) lifestyle for a few years, and modern women are rarely willing to make that kind of sacrifice, and men know it.

Let me talk a little more about relationship men. These are men who ALREADY want to be in a serious relationship and prioritize that. You CANNOT change a "casual sex guy" into a relationship man, and if you don't believe me, you will learn the hard and painful way. You cannot talk a man into, manipulate, shame, or guilt a man into wanting a relationship.

And while you can find casual sex guys at every SMV (social market value), you must realize that nearly all of the top 10% men - the ones nearly all women consider to be the most attractive - are not and will never be relationship men. If a guy is an 8, 9, or 10, he might well bang you, but he's not looking to wife you (or anyone else) up. He'll have so many women available to him that he can always have a woman when he wants, or even several at once, and already enjoys nearly all the benefits he would get in a committed relationship, with few of the responsibilities or limitations.

One of the reasons why many men aren't dating today is because they are relationship men and are looking for women like you - wife and mother material - and can't find women like that anymore. And they have no intention of trying to start a family with a career-focused "boss babe" because that's a recipe for disaster.

Vet potential boyfriends based on their morals, values, and life goals, and keep your expectations realistic - no male models or Instagram lifestyle - and you will do just fine.

Berethor · Accepted Answer

I think that it better than being feminist who give up on motherhood for sake of career. :)

Lionman95 · Answer

No it´s not looked down. It´s just overwhelming for many because depending on the economical situation where he comes from it means that he has to make all the money and that´s something many young dread. But it´s not looked down by guys if a woman says she wants to be a stay at home wife.

D4nielv · Answer

Absolutely nothing wrong with it and could definitely work for the right people. Unfortunately it undermines the idea of the whole feminist movement and instead they tend to force their one-size-fits-all model of female empowerment on everyone. At this point, choosing to be a housewife could be an act of female empowerment, haha.

Anonymous · Answer

No, there’s nothing wrong w that. As a matter of fact a lot of men would like someone like that but can’t say that openly because we’re labeled as misogynistic. We’re trying to enslave women. The whole patriarchy argument comes up, etc. Od say most men don’t like strong, independent women because those types of women usually come w attitudes. They’re usually more masculine, argumentative, etc. The whole I don’t need a man attitude. That’s not what men want.

RebelinSteel · Answer

It’s not looked down on or should not, it’s a personal choice of the person. A lot comes down to the dynamics a couple have in a relationship, for some relationships then it works all the time, for others it’s only some of the time or not at all.
I guess finding a guy that ticks the boxes you require is the hard bit.

unless you already have a guy sorted?

JacobJordan · Answer

Some people will be fine. Feminists fixing to harass and degrade you even to the point of doxxing so whatever you do don't share it publicly or post things about it

DextroShade · Answer

Men aren't looking down on this except for the loser soyboys. It's lonely, bitter, feminist women who will shame you for being a housewife, not real men. If people in your life have a problem with you wanting to be a wife then you need to remove them from your life immediately.

normalice · Answer

A little bit. It is the female equivalent of a young man who just wants to live in a bunker playing video games for the rest of his life starting at age 20. The whole idea similarly relies heavily on someone else paying for it but that doesn't register because he similarly thinks it's valuable to be "independent" in such a way. Except he/she is confusing independent with isolated, where being isolated actually requires a massive amount of dependence.

aceleon · Answer

girl the only 2 things that might be keeping you from being the ideal girl is:

-body count (not know yours so can't comment)

-not allowing other girls into bed (but not every guy gives the same value to 3 somes or more somes)

sawno · Answer

Depends on which side of the political spectrum your looking, if your gonna ask feminists they will look down upon you as a slave. If you ask a right wing man he will be intrigured and may pursue dating you.

Squatting_Slav · Answer

I admire women who want that, and also who want a career working. For me, I just never see myself being a stay at home husband/boyfriend. I love my career too much

Anonymous · Answer

Only if her drive is so great that she chooses a 💩ty partner. Otherwise no. I have no problem with women who want to be independent and career oriented. But mothers raise and nurture the next generation. So that's an incredibly important job. Anyone who looks down on a woman who puts her heart and soul into being a mom is a fool.

JohnK123 · Answer

I don't know it depends if she can like make an earning too or take care of the house if she’s staying home. I don't know. What do u think

SixFootSexy · Answer

Most younger guys wouldn't want to or be able to support a housewife, so how old are you willing to look for a husband?

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not financially taking care of a woman until she gives me a kid

strateguy632 · Answer

not looked down upon that. even age 20 seems fine.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Nope, thats fine, plenty of guys want that. The mother part of that in women is offputting to me personally, but only because I don't want any kids, not because it's bad.

You shouldn't be afraid to be yourself.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Well, I think she SHOULD wait `til she's in her 20's.

darkforcebooty · Answer

I dont think so :) maybe more so looked down by other women?

grega239 · Answer

Its never been looked down upon and never will be.  Its what nature intended

Anonymous · Answer

Not at all, it actually makes you a high value woman.

Bobby88t · Answer

I think its a good thing if you are caring and you will be a good mother at young age:)

NathanDavis · Answer

it doesn't matter to me

Al_Musafir · Answer

It isn't. It is desirable to many of us.

David94358 · Answer

Nothing wrong with that at all

KrakenAttackin · Answer

No, this is ideal.

Med_guy1978 · Answer

I agree with you 💯

riverrat3 · Answer

No, live the life you want

RavVid · Answer

I think that is fine

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Nope

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