Do you believe that marriage is lifelong?

[BCRanger10]

Do you believe that marriage is lifelong, that it is truly a commitment until death?

[Lliam]

Yes. That's what I always believed and still do.

I began having long-term, infatuated, monogamous relationships with girlfriends from th e time I was 16. But I knew I would be stupid to get married at a young age. I had no interest in kids, either.

I liked having the freedom to have fun, do what I wanted, explore the world, and learn about life. I saw no reason to get tied down.

It wasn't until my earlyish 30s that I started thinking about finding a partner-for-life and settling down. By then, I had experienced all kinds of things, had tons of fun, had wonderful girlfriends and experienced great sex with quite a few women. At that point, I figured that I could be satisfied with one woman for the rest of my life.
I was also established in a good job and had assets.
And through my experiences, both good and bad, I had gained more wisdom and knowledge, learned about myself, and worked to improve my flaws.
I made myself ready to become a good life-partner.

I wanted to be very careful, though, because I considered marriage to be the most important decision I would ever make. It was forever.
I took marriage vows seriously. They are a promise, a solemn vow of honor to love, honor and cherish, through good times and bad, through sickness and health, until death do us part. I take such a vow as seriously as a heart attack.

In addition, marriage is a legal contract. Why not just have committed relationships if you want to keep the option of breaking up?
The last thing I wanted was to spend years with someone, only to be faced with divorce, loss of assets and income, and be left alone to start over when I was old.

After a couple more girlfriends, I found "the one" when I was 40. She was 37.
We had both lived full and fulfilling lives, had relationships and learned a lot. But neither of us had ever been married or had kids.

This woman was fun, hard working, self employed, shared my values and my attitude toward marriage. She fell in love with me, not my money.

I married her when I was 42. We have been happily married now for almost 30 years, had a LOT of fun, and built a wonderful life together. We are best friends and loyal, dedicated partners. We are there for each other, no matter what. We care about each other's happiness and fulfillment.

[ohsheeT]

I think it is what two people make it. If one decides to stop there's nothing you can do about it you can talk about it you can go get help but is that person doesn't love you you cannot make them love you you have to split it says simple you both have to want it bad enough that you will both work on it and if you both can't do it well one can't do it either

[Taurus_Woman]

Yes, I believe marriage is meant to be lifelong.

Because marriage is built on commitment, trust, and the intention to stay together through both good and difficult times. If two people decide to marry, they are choosing to share responsibility, support each other, and grow together over time. Without that intention, marriage loses its meaning. The ideal of marriage is still lifelong commitment. If someone already knows they cannot stay committed or work through challenges, then marriage may not be the right step for them.

[sage2021]

I didn't think that it was lifelong for every single married couple because there are way too many divorces.

I believe that it should be a life long commitment, however, even if you are married either one of them can just up and walk out the door.

[TonyMetal___86]

Marriage is forever but it's the people who ruins it...

[Chazmatazz269]

Marriage isn’t a commitment at all. Marriages dissolve daily through various means. Commitment is in your mind. Marriage is just another way that the government meddles in your personal affairs.
Additionally, in the west, half of the population is incentivized to not stay married. It’s a racket, really.

[TrueConfection]

I do!

”Until death do us part.”

Not, “until the money runs out,” “until life is too hard,” “until we fall out of love,” etc.

[Lliam]

100%.

[Jessica405]

"Marriage" is irrelevant. What matters is a simple life long commitment between any two people

[OlderAndWiser]

Absolutely. But it takes two people working together to make that happen.

[Iyaelsorai]

It's not a matter of belief, sometimes it's lifelong, sometimes it isn't. People sometimes get divorced, that's a fact. If you mean whether marriage "should" be lifelong in some moralistic way, I don't see the point of making up such shoulds or absolutes, and you can't predict what will happen 5 or 20 years from now, how the situation or relationship will develop,. or what the heart will feel, and it's true that marriage is founded on the whole idea that it's permanent (despite the fact that like half of them end in divorce), so it's obviously a sham, besides the fact that love and union should have nothing to do with either religious institutions or the government.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

The way you put it? I'd rather not.

Because marriage seen as a commitment until death implies a definition of love I find obnoxious.

I believe my love for her is free instead, and conditional, not a thing to solemnly swear to imprison for life, in front of nodding priests and pastors. Whoever believed it was good, sound and healthy to make me lock my feelings in a cage did not understand love at all.

[MrChinaski]

It is a slightly peculiar game in which the only way to win is to die.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

[worldscolide]

I do. I made a promise, and fully believe in "til death do we part". I keep my promises.

[worldscolide]

Most people our age and younger though treat it like something you wipe your ass with and flush down the toilet when things get a little hard.

[Agape93]

I don't believe in marriage, but I DO believe in love and keeping to your word with them. When I say I love them, it's a fact. When I say I'm yours, im yours. I'm there until the end, in whatever way that end comes.

[worldscolide]

Hey nothing wrong with that. I won't look down on someone who doesn't believe in that, especially considering I know you keep your promises too.

[Agape93]

Your wife's lucky to have you

[BCRanger10]

@Agape93 And this is why I'd believe you.

[Agape93]

That's a throwback lol yeah there's some shit, like this, I don't fuck around with. I don't betray my loved ones like that, even by lying. I owe them that respect and care.

[worldscolide]

Same here. When I met my wife, I put away childish things like lying.

[genericname85]

i don't "believe" that. it has not much to do with "believe". it's intend and commitment. if i marry a woman, i will absolutely stay with her forever. that's my decision, not my believe. however she's still free to break the contract. i can't own her. i sure hope she will stay tho.

[queenofcardio]

I believe that it's possible. My parents are still together and it's been just over 40 years since they got married.

[TonyMetal___86]

Nice, 40,50,60... there's no number, it's forever, till death do us apart!

[Agape93]

Lol no. It's supposed to be, but there's divorce in every religion and culture. Even Islam's bullshit allows it.

[NathanDavis]

I sure do believe it... for those who truly commit to it and they actually make it happen, it truly is... and I would never ever question it either, and definitely not after I've seen it myself, lol

[RavVid]

I would like it to be so but can't believe that with the divorce stat facts. It seems that only 30 yo marriages will be that way.

That means people who married in 1995 at this point. A lot of changed perspectives since that time.

[Orion84]

I think it's supposed to be, but too many people nowadays think of "commitment" as a temporary thing.

[Jen_oic]

@BCRanger10 it definitely 💯 should be for life.

[sawno]

Evidently not right? No fault divorce ruined that entire concept. For me the relationships I enter I already commit for life to the best of my ability I don't need marriage for that.

[CherryLove007]

Flat out NO. Too many things can and do go awry.

[TonyMetal___86]

Marriage is a sacred vow, if people doesn't know what a real marriage is than the problem isn't about the marriage itself, it's all about the couple who are getting married!

[FunkyMonkee]

It SHOULD be but, it's completely disposable, these days!!
Marriage is for people that undyingly love each other. It's not just a momentary whim that you can walk away from days later!

[slatyb]

It's a legal condition, nothing more nor less. Will it last? That depends on the intentions of both partners, and future events.

[exitseven]

Yes, I took the whloe until death us do part thing pretty literally.

[thegreenyogi]

It should be provided it's done for the right reasons.

[lilBigPotato]

It's supposed to be but the majority probably doesn't.

[Jersey2]

I have been married for decades. It is working out well. You need to find a woman that isn’t easy to annoy.

[loveslongnails]

It would be for me if I wanted to actually marry, but I have the same relationship without the paperwork.

[msc545]

Hell no, it lasts just until the woman figures out she can make money from it, or she finds another sucker who is taller, better-looking, and richer than the guy she's married to.

[msc545]

Marriage is just a way for women to scam men.

[soe11]

• It's a individual choice and desires as well as preference.

[MannMitAntworten]

Marriage is a life sentence but most of you get out on parol.

[KostasKouvalis]

In Catholicism we do. "Til death do us part"

[Finchie40]

Yes with the right couple

[samael_kmarty]

Yes.
But i also do not want my spouse to feel in cage which is marriage.

[Anonymous]

I think the bible is pretty clear on this. I know a lot of people try to re-write it to their liking. But that doesn't change reality.

[Anonymous]

As a Catholic yea

[WhitneySnow]

Ideally yes, but sometimes it isn’t

[MrChinaski]

I would like it to be. It is not.

[MrChinaski]

There is some value in separating ex ante intent from ex post outcomes. To clarify my previous post, I believe marriage should be entered with the ex ante intent of it being lifelong.

Ex post shit happens, if you pardon my latin.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Hold my jeans, I need a toga to make sense of this mass

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

ex ante, ex post, before the events, after the events.

Actually, I don't know about AUS, but the only legal form of marriage I know is through civil wedding. And civil wedding vows do not imply lifelong commitment at all, only consent to marry

[MrChinaski]

@Maybe_Maybe_not Well presumably even in France there is a commitment to stay together until the end of the ceremony? Anyway, I took CoE vows, so I'm pretty sure there is a special circle of hell for me.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Until the end of the ceremony yes, which usually ends before 7pm!

[Mike_Hum]

of course. that's the point.

[AngryCarl3]

Yes, just one reason why I'm still single.

[Xawyx-2]

It can be, but it depends on the couple.

[billyboy197747]

I believe that they are.

[LiamS95]

Yes I believe it should be.

[LiamJHayden]

Should be, but too often is not.

[beenherebefore]

Yes, I do.

[TonyMetal___86]

I surely do...

[jahaims]

Duh.