Bullying and the sad truth

[Wowgirl10q]

Bullying

Bullying and the sad truth behind it.

Why would somebody purposely hurt anouther person for no good reason?

Most don't understand why bullies act the way they do. So, let's look a little deeper into bullying and the psychology aspect behind it.

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Bullying is the use of force, threat, insighting abuse, intimidate or aggressively dominate others. The behavior is often repeated and habitual.Bullying is divided into four basic types of bullying emotional (relational), verbal, physical, and cyber.

Why do they do it?

1. They use bullying as a tool to conceal shame or anxiety or to boost self-esteem: by demeaning others, the abuser feels empowered.

2. Bullies may bully out of jealousy also or because they themselves are bullied at home probably by an adult.

3. People who are prone to abusive behavior tend to have false inflated but fragile egos. Because they think too highly of themselves, they are frequently offended by the criticisms and lack of deference of other people, and react to this disrespect with violence and insults.

4. Studies have shown that envy and resentment may be motives for bullying. Depression and self -worth are also factors of bullying.

5. Abuse 85% of bullies have been physical, emotional, or sexually abused past age ten.

Most bullies come from neglected homes so getting atattention may apply to the reasons why also.

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What is a typical bully like?

A "typical" bully has trouble resolving problems with others and also has trouble academically. He or she usually has negative attitudes and beliefs about others, feels negatively toward himself/herself, comes from a family environment characterized by conflict and poor parenting, perceives school as negative and is negatively influenced by peers.

Bullying may also result from a genetic predisposition or a brain abnormality in the bully.

What should I do if I'm being bullied ?

Feel sorry for them or pray for them.

Know they are miserable and sick people.

Tell a teacher or a parent.

Avoid them as much as possible.

Do not respond to them just ignore them.

Believe in yourself =Stand up for yourself

You can not stand up for yourself if you don't believe in yourself and know your worth fighting for.

Will it get violent if I stand up for myself ?

Maybe, but that's okay too. You will live through it I promise. I get hit in the face weekly at MMA by men and I'm still totally fine😀

Most likely getting physical with them sadly, will stop you from getting bullied any further in the future. Bullies pick on those they assume will take it so don't, or do what I did become successful, prove them all wrong, smile and wave.

Success is always the best and most ethical revenge you can get on anybody.

Give them a real reason to dislike you which is Envy... Envy based on your accomplishments alone.

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Thanks for reading...

[JimRSmith]

Good Take, but the pics are starting to make me want to avoid your posts.

[ATuairiscean]

Very good take - Lots of sound analysis and advice there

[Wowgirl10q]

Things degree had to be good for something

[ATuairiscean]

Thanks for MHO

[LeaLee]

Great job!

[Wowgirl10q]

Thanks u

[LeaLee]

You're welcome love

[Wowgirl10q]

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[Anonymous]

Good job

[Wowgirl10q]

Thank u

[CubsterShura]

I have been bullied almost throughout my entire school life so far. Especially from grade 4 to 6 it was hell. I used to wear hijab in school and my classmates would pull it out of my head, pull my hair and beat me. Sometimes when I was safe because of teachers being around, whenever teachers left they sprang out from hiding places to harass me again.

Worst of all, I had no one to give me proper guidance. I did get advices and now I know how wrong each and every one of them were. No one even understood what I went through. I said it so many times yet no one told me the word 'bully' for once. A few years later I discovered that word and figured out that I'm a victim of it.

My sister was newly married that time and she moved in with my brother in law. I was still not used to being without her because she always protected me and listened to me. I'd cry every single night alone and... Ugh. It was a mess.

In high school though I'm doing much better mainly because I'm one of the top students in my class and all... So they do treat me well now. It's like a thing I had to earn by proving my academic skills.

I have to admit sometimes I get snarky and when people protest I don't say anything but I think in my mind 'I have gone through worse stuff and this is just me showing some attitude, stop complaining' or 'when people bullied me that was okay and I can't even raise my damn voice? That's not fair!'

I can't help it when it happens. I do try not to let my emotions have the best of me but sometimes I just need to be in my room (or washroom if I'm outside) and let the tears out before I go out into the world again. Over 5 years but the memory is still painful as hell.

I really hope I don't become a bully. I don't want to become a bully. But I'm so afraid that wherever I go people will bully me that it deeply affects my sociability, I struggle a lot with making and keeping friends offline. I'm trying to get better.

[Wowgirl10q]

Oh sweetheart I am so sorry

[Benedek38]

I love how you are trying to explain bullying, and leave out the most common cause - weakness of the victim. Oh wait, that doesn't fit the "the victim is never to blame" narrative! Too bad.

The reality is that people enjoy having power over people and things. What is the first thing a child does when getting a doll? Ragdolling it, and throwing it around. Squeezing it, tearing it. This could be for many reasons - but one thing is certain. Our primitive, lizard-like insticts tell us that if we see something small, weak, or passive, we can, and we SHOULD dominate them. I have no doubt this is stronger in guys, as guys have a higher sensethe of hierarchy. But the fact is that the nerdy kids aren't being picked on because they are too smart, or too different - as the nerdy kid, I can tell you. The reason they picked on me is because I let them. The moment I stood up, and gave them hell, bullies not only stopped bullying me - they started respecting me.

So yeah. Time to recognize that to some extent, in some cases, bullying can be the fault of the victim.

[VIVANT]

Countries who are bullies produce citizens who think bullying is normal and these people produce kids who bully. Most kids in the u. s. have a bully mentality and it is accepted, to where the bullies get the blame. And it’s not usually one kid. It’s hoards. And adults continue on with the attitude. It doesn’t end in school. Racism sexism homophobia agism discrimination -all bully mentality being rationalized and actualized by millions of people daily.

As for school it’s not usuallly one person bulging but one person targeted... there is no way to fight an entire class and teachers just dude wit the bullying bc it is easier to go with the flow.

[Gopnik]

bullies will always exist.
but it's your choice if you let them impact you or not.
i'm not driven by the way people think of me so i tend to not give a fuck about anyone that thinks of me as a creap, weirdo, ugly bastard etc, etc i could go on.
the point here being is that the choice is with you.
if bullies do decide to get physical i always defend myself, i don't back down.

[xkildy]

I was bulled from kindergarten nearly is till 7th grade with the same kids doing the same thing till i left schools. And never seen them again . When i moved schools the whole thing started again but I was upset and thought why not if I dont stand up to him now. he will ruin my school life. So I did and he never bugged me again. Same thing happen in Vo-tech.. pre college. I stood up to him and said the same thing only this time I did not jump on him..

[spunkygiraffe]

Yes, bullying is a sad truth. Even though you convince yourself that you shouldn't care what others think of you, it's hard, just sometimes. It seems uncontrollable, the urge to hide, to run, to cry. It causes a pain in the heart, and you can hear your pulse roaring in your ears as you pretend not to be affected.

[SkipStop]

Nice. I had a couple of bullies in grades 4 - 6.
Most of them were mental, but a few became physical on me. I was learning martial arts and got revenge on all of them. One of them got a broken nose. Got suspended for it but getting that revenge made me feel so powerful 💪
Never let anyone treat you in a bad way or else they will continue and break you down.

[ArrowheadSW]

I was bullied to some extent when I was say, 13 or younger. I'd try reasoning with the perpetrators. But if that failed it meant consequences for them and they learned fast. I wasn't going to tolerate it.

[Genie23]

Really nice Take, but.. why do you always post your pictures with some weird effects? I mean those special effects really freaks me out.. It's kinda creepy, makes me not want to view your post.

[Jjpayne]

Wow!!! This is some powerful and honest stuff!!! So much detail and depth!!! Thanks for sharing this!!! There are many gaggers that will use this and probably already have!!! Great Mytake!!!

[TonyMetal86]

The article is good but why it's filled with your pictures?

[Wowgirl10q]

I always post my own photos
Most like them
Some people are mean

[TonyMetal86]

Your good, just try to smile 🙂

[veronicasegura]

Thanks so much for making the effort for you personally to share such a nice information. I genuinely prefer to reading your blog post.

[Logorithim]

Good Points in this Take, especially on standing up to the bully. They generally go after the weakest, and often in packs (talk about cowardly).

[ninjafemme]

Bullies I haven't seen this species since high school

[Wowgirl10q]

Me niether but they are still around

[Trollfather]

They're up there in governments and financial institutions around the world. The somewhat smart ones anyway.

[ninjafemme]

@Trollfather the ones I know become gym teachers

[Trollfather]

Hm nice. I don't know where my past bullies went. Hopefully they're not in a position of power though.

[ninjafemme]

@Trollfather yea since they got older you would think they calmed down it seems they take bullying to the next level with age 😂 it's cool cause I don't see them anymore 🤣

[Wowgirl10q]

@Trollfather not to my knowledge

[Lance1965]

Great take and how times have changed. When I was a kid if you were bullied you were told to man up and deal with it. Now kids go and have counseling.

[Wowgirl10q]

I know right

[Anonymous]

I was a major bully at school. Of course now I regret it but I think most bullies like me have major shit going on in their own lives.

[Iron_Man]

Nice MyTake WOW girl and I just earned seven points

[Wowgirl10q]

Cool

[Anonymous]

"Feel sorry for them or pray for them." I was not that lofty or advanced. When bullied, I sought absolute and total revenge. I ambushed a guy in high school and put him in the hospital for a week. Even now, I have no tolerance for that shit...

[Grayce]

Nice take, someone has to speak up on the issue of bullying, its really sad

[BeHappy1985]

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