If guys like femininity why do they often bash feminine/girly things? (Page 2)

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What i mean is on here you often hear men saying that they like women who do  NOT  wear any makeup, don't dress up (wear dresses, skirts), wear jewelry, get there nails done, dislike heels etc... this is all part of the appearance of a feminine women.. obviously this isn't all guys but its something i've noticed on here in the comments, what is your take on it? This is PURELY a appearance thing and not about behavior by the way.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not all guys, but the loud, insecure king baby types will always be hypercritical of women no matter what they do. What puzzles me is why women go for guys like that. They bring nothing but misery to life , but they always find plenty of foolish women who somehow believe they have a future with Mr. Douche. what a tragedy.

CubsterShura · Answer

I don't have a problem with this. I love all those girly stuff and I know that my man will definitely love this side of me. I mean, why would he even love me if it isn't for everything about me?

Celtero · Answer

Good observation. I think it's because a lot of that stuff isn't productive, and is superficial and vain. You'll never hear a man complaining about a women making something, for instance cooking, knitting, quilting, photography, or making art.

Leafpool2 · Answer

They've been taught that doing feminine things themselves is "gay" which is "shameful" when a lot of things considered feminine shouldn't even be gendered.

Warmapplecrumble · Answer

When is femininity linked to wearing:

Jewellery - men also wear it
Makeup - men wear it too
Dresses - in the past everyone did
Heels - they were actually made for men

The essence of feminity is not how you can make yourself feminine BUT that you are feminine in your DNA encoding. Nothing can ever change it. It was chosen at the moment of conception.

DaDon72 · Answer

A guy does not want his masculinity to be judged or come off as soft. However, he likes to see his love/partner as something cute and feminine. Some dudes are not into girls with a manly side and want something cute and cuddly, again not all though!

NearlyNapping · Answer

Unless it's the same guys saying it, it doesn't mean much.

I commonly say I don't like makeup. But I also don't like too girly.

Plus, something like makeup is very different than things like nails, heels, etc. It doesn't have to be all or none.

5ara8ear · Answer

Maybe cause they can't see themselves or other guys being feminine. They don't like it. Some of them may think that guys should stay like guys and girls should stay like girls. I think the stereotype of girls being weaker than guys comes into play as well.

ScaryCool · Answer

I think I prefer moderation of it. Of course I want a feminine girl at times, I just have a problem when she seems superficial with it if that makes sense.

Keya92 · Answer

See the first of all let me make it clear that all the heterosexual guys appreciate feminity there is not one heterosexual guy that will say that they don't like feminity but thing is that and i mean it in a simple way no shade but sometimes women overdo it... now a days people often mistake a lady who is being clingy to her feminine traits.. now this is sure for a fact that one must take care of themselves and do whatever they feel gives them joy coz only then you are are really you and a guy should like you for that. So the bottom line is there is not a single guy won't want his patner to take care of themselves and look good.

binarybabe001 · Answer

I honestly don't know why some men don't like women wearing makeup, feminine clothing and accessories. I'm fortunate enough that my boyfriend loves it when I get dressed up for him when we go out, he tells me when he thinks that I look pretty or he likes the way my perfume smells or the dress that I'm wearing for the occasion. He also gets a kick out of messing up my makeup when he kisses me, smearing my lipstick all over the place. LOL It's hilarious and I enjoy it.

EsmileMalik · Answer

We bash cuz in reality, we are afraid of the feminine nature to be seen through us and for other guys to call us queer. we love you and want to have the type of love and care that you do give out, but we fear your disapproval so we quickly show our defencive side to be safe. Not forgetting that you also bash male things as it is only human nature to be defencive about our insecurities due to the MF Ego.
It's not easy to come out of the closet to say one is gay as the fear of wide disapproval is higher than the approval.

immortaldolphin · Answer

For me what matters in physical appearance is the shape of the face and to a lesser degree general shape of the body. Those things are something make-up and all the things you mentioned can't change. Thats why i think these things are a bit silly especially when they take a lot of effort or are uncomfortable. Besides these things simply aren't inharently feminine. If the custom was that women had short hair then that would be considered "feminine" same goes for clothes and shoes.
another words i like femininity in a women not some random stuff, declared to be feminine, on her.

Cammy137 · Answer

I really can say it any better than @Benedek38 , he hit the nail on the head!
Essentially there is a line. Makeup, jewellery, certain clothing, getting nails done, etc is all attractive up until a point. When it becomes excessive or even obsessive, it devalues any natural beauty that that individual may have.

SaintJonesy · Answer

It's probably some men that say they like a certain thing, and some men that say they like another. We aren't made up of one homogenous opinion.

Although, living with women almost my whole life I've noticed that a lot of the shit you do isn't to impress men at all. It's to impress other women.

EricAndrew · Answer

They may correlate "playing dress-up" with not being adventurous. Maybe they're projecting their own gender insecurities onto the female. Perhaps they are actively attempting to portray themselves as not being superficial, but are overplaying their hand and bluffing. They actually sound pompous and arrogant... maybe some person gender/sexual orientation conflicts. I don't know. Dont waste your time.

Dargil · Answer

If guys like femininity why do they often bash feminine/girly things?
*I don't. It is an expression of style. Just not necessary all the time.

This is PURELY a appearance thing and not about behavior by the way.
*No it is not. You act like you look. Clean up and dress up a "wino" and he will ACT differently.

markscott · Answer

Sometimes guys bash feminine things just for fun, other times, to bolster their masculinity. Sometimes, because the feminine things, because it's done over the top, etc.

fay23 · Answer

I don't know but i think that femininity isn't the same thing as being a girly girl. I think they like the submissive and nurturing nature rather than the high maintenance and superficial women.

anmari2001 · Answer

Mayne it sounds strange but could it be that some guys have diffrent taste? Nah I have no idea whay are we talking about

ChronicThinker · Answer

Because those men can't obtain those types of women. What they can obtain is a plain woman who does little with her appearance.

gabbay18 · Answer

It's not bashed per se. I believe we find a girl more attractive without makeup, because if a girl is attractive without makeup, than she'd be even more so with makeup. Makeup is perceived as less attractive, because it creates an illusion of attractiveness, where "anyone can be pretty."

soccerking · Answer

Not sure what your talking about. I like to see all this in my wife. Except the make-up. To me a lot makes her look fake. Problem is rarely go to events that call for such appearance. I should make a change so she will 😉

Prankster13 · Answer

I've never noticed... I definitely like a girly girl who wears dresses and stuff. That's feminine. I love feminine. 👌

TayTay21 · Answer

The guys who bash it are mostly losers who can't get girls, so they take shots at girls in any way they can out of spite.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

I don't know. GaG is a weird place to discuss feminine subjects. But there is nothing I like more in a woman than an embrace of her femininity.

englisc · Answer

Those guys are usually losers. Often it seems like they say those things just to sound like they're different.

_乃尺OЩ刀_TITI · Answer

Feminine LOOKS like beautiful round fully developed breasts not girly girly *girly voice* ooohh look at my pink point nails type, don't I look so cute and adorable giggles.

Byakugan · Answer

Really? there are guys that do that? I`m guessing it be guys that are so called from the hood, lol

Anonymous · Answer

Femininity isn’t just sparkles and glam. Some very made up women are hard as nails.

Gouthamfab · Answer

Its a matter of taste. Each person has a different view on beauty.

Personally i fall into that category of not liking make up and such. Its okay as long as you are not mutilating yourself. Painting nails and some make up is fine. But over doing it can impact your skin and can cause health issues later. I am vary of that. Its not an issue if the relation is one night stand.

But if its going to be my partner, i want the best of her.

zbivinz · Answer

Because bashing femininity is an easy way for some guys to seem/be more masculine and inflate guy's egos. It's kind of less masculine to acknowledge the value of femininity in itself. Not the way it should be, but the way it is nonetheless.

demonics · Answer

Are those girly things superficial, vain, and impractical? Important distinction.

Heels, tiny purses, pants with no pockets, stupid hairstyles that cost 100's of dollars, long nails, bright red lipstick, shake n' piss dogs in purses, 87 selfies, ordering a salad and eating our shrimp. That's not 'hating femininity.'

ColoradoKid · Answer

I guess I have not noticed that. I am a guy that has a feminine side. I don't really bash what others like.

VaIiant · Answer

Men are arroused visually, and what they speak of they don’t notice when they see it in real life.

ryryryan · Answer

Because that's what men have over women - masculinity, strength, sport, competition. Testosterone levels, but still I would never bash femininity. That's bullying and probably due to some insecurity

Jody89 · Answer

You have noticed! Congratulations, you are ahead in the social game of norms.

Okay, honestly, a lot of guy's don't like these things but society tells you and everyone they do. Our parents raise us and say things like, "put on your makeup you need to look good" making us believe we need makeup to look good. But we don't! If you like it, then do it, but don't do it because you think you have to.

A-man-22 · Answer

Practicality over looks. High heels aren't practical neither are skirts.
The make up thing comes from feminists and the 'pink tax'. Men can see that women don't need to spend tonnes of money on makeup , nails and hair so we discourage it. However if you can afford it then it's a turn on for some guys.

Daechir · Answer

Men have a bit of an issue here. Because they want you to understand they want you for who you are inside, that your heart matters more than anything else. Unfortunately, many of us are unsure how to say this, or even unaware of it. So, we bash on feminine types of appearance. It is a foolish and confused way of attempting to make it known they are not looking for just some appearance, but a person. There is, of course, some few out there that are simply sexist.

JimRSmith · Answer

What @Cosytoasty said. Cannot put it any better than that!

MarketData · Answer

The men you're referring to are largely MGTOW losers and woman-haters. I'm personally a big supporter of femininity in women, so long as it doesn't extend to general uselessness and credit card abuse.

Arctic_Fox · Answer

They don’t hate that exactly, depends on how over the top it is and the examples you’ve used aren’t the only things that qualify as girly.

Oldfashionedman93 · Answer

We dont hate it, we only hate make up because A. Some really over do it, and B. It hides more than it shows, and were fans of natural beauty not covered up features

vald9inches · Answer

As a man i like it when a girl puts on makeup but not too much and its nice to know how she looks like without makeup so i guess its all about moderation. But men are susceptible to lots of makeup lol

codydchs12 · Answer

in my opinion I like these things to a point, like I like for a girk to be able to do those things. But at the same time I like to know that its not the only way she is, like I just like versatility based on the situation we are in. Plus I think guys also know makeup can hide a lot of things, and I feel like sometimes girls hide more than minor blemishes and by the time the guy finds out he feels like he was lied to.

Fuentes · Answer

Some woman do look better without make up, and some need make up, also im nit fan if heels but i don't care what a girl wears, it's her style not mine, she can wear whatever she likes, it's her life but i never noticed this i want a feminine women not MAN, only reason why i could think of any push back is due to feminist and sexual harassment, so men could say then don't look so nice

PhilipDMG · Answer

Because feminity or masculinity in women is considered a reflection of those women, but many men internalize a like of feminine things as a reflection of themselves. They criticize it because they dislike it in themselves.

Bananaman177 · Answer

Fashion has nothing to do with femininity. When guys say they like feminine things, they aren't talking about stupid accessories or clothes or make-up or shoes.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I don't bash femininity or feminist i support them.

bethshepherd · Answer

Girly fans bash tomboys and vice versa but who cares, just live your life as you want to.

Lorenz965 · Answer

Because we are not a hive mind, we are individuals and some individuals like me appreciate feminity while others hate it.

WhereAmI · Answer

We like it when you act feminine but don't go all out girly on us with the hair, makeup and shoes. Do it in moderation please.

melissa_t · Answer

Well, girls like masculinity (when it relates to men) yet they bash things that are masculine.  They're attracted to feminine girls, doesn't mean they're gonna be into feminine things.

pipeliner78 · Answer

I like feminine women love them, especially Latinas and Asian girls, American girls are usually very cliche and wear girly things to make up for their fat body? I don't know

Dr_Latex_McPeggin · Answer

I look as it more on the line of I love the look on my wife buy I don’t want her to feel like she has to wear it all the time because I find her just as beautiful without it.

brezzaxo765 · Answer

I haven't seen this portrayed on here. Its the fact that guys like different things

Anonymous · Answer

I know right. The worst part is how they say they like shaved legs because it’s feminine but then they say they don’t like makeup cuz it’s “fake” lmao

Bear41 · Answer

I like Femininity on females, and only females. I think the men that try to be feminine are just a laughing stock.

spqreid · Answer

I've not noticed this and I adore women who do all of those things listed. It makes me weak at the knees

Guanfei · Answer

We don't like too much of it. Too much make up, or trying too hard to be the cliché of a woman. But a "girly" girl is the best.

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