I am turning 28 in less than 10 days, and I never had a real girlfriend. I severely inexperienced and lacking intimacy, and I haven't touched a woman sexually in over 7 years since I lost my virginity during a weekend fling with a 16 year old girl. I live in an RV in my mom's driveway. I cannot afford a house. My credit is too poor for an apartment. I am trapped at home still. I am short in height. I am not that attractive, and I may be alone the rest of my life because I only want a woman without a romantic past. I have a criminal record for stalking. I feel like my life is a waste. The only thing I have decent going for me is a 70k/yr job.
Well you sound very self aware of what you don't have going for you. I think you just need to take things one day at a time, and work on self improvement. I would like to suggest the boook The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/the-7-habits-of-highly-effective-people-by-stephen-r-covey/246855/item/4154752/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw39uYBhCLARIsAD_SzMQ68lxImgHzn1Vo9c3tNdQAR16soxCY8hRQw2-B3uJPzUe6IE658-caAt1fEALw_wcB#idiq=4154752&edition=7533769
I read this book when I was going for my Bachlors of Nursing and I wish I would have read it before then. There is a section of the book that talks about how some people are reactive and others and proactive etc. Anyway, it's a good read for anyone that want to improve their situation in life, if you haven't already read it I would highly recommend it.
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A lot can change for yourself.
Make a budget for therapy, and find a psychologist who clicks with you. Ideally an older man whose ultimate goal is to lessen the number of sessions you need to see him.
From what you've said, there's a lot of stuff to unpack and heal. And GAG and the internet aren't going to help you. A professional psychologist will.
You've got a place to stay (and relative privacy from your mom, hopefully), and a well-paying job. Those are good foundations.
You can still build a life. A lot of us in and around our age have had much later starts than our parents' generation due to economic recession out of our control.
Don't be too hard on yourself. You made it this far. You've got a solid job and a place to sleep. You can still make something of your life.
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I think you need to start with yourself, you seem to see yourself as this shitty good for nothing loser and other people will end looking at you the same way you are portraying yourself as. Make yourself lovable, no one is going to want to be with a self loathing guy… I saw your other post, you’re not unattractive at all! Just gotta work on being more fit and bam you’re hot!
It would be worth it if you stopped choosing to be such a whiney loser.
Yo how do you look?
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