What do you think makes a person strong?

[Saiesh30]

In today's challenging and competitive world what is it that makes a person strong enough to get past the problems and stand strong?

Is it the love and support he/she gets from family and friends?

Is it the experiences, mistakes, failures in life that evolves him into a stronger person?

Is it the knowledge and wisdom that he/she gains?

Is it his way of speaking and expression or the attitude he carries around?

Or is it the money? How rich the person is makes him strong in today's world?

[sage2021]

I have had to struggle my entire life and people have told me I am a very strong person.

Believe me, it wasn't because of love from family and friends because I have never had a support system like that. Nope. I've had to stand on my own since I was a small child.

Adversity in one's life can make them strong so long as adversity doesn't happen one thing after another with no let up. At every corner, more adversity - no it's not good for a person. But some is good.

Tragedy - well, I have had a few serious tragedies, but I just had to deal with them or die myself.

Self discipline can make you stronger and push you forward in life. Like if there are things you really don't want to do, you push yourself to do them.

Intestinal fortitude. Pushing yourself. Making things happen for you not only at your job, but in life.

Going without. If you've ever gone without food as a child, the electricity and water are turned off because your single Mom couldn't pay the bills and you are in a dark house with no food or water because your asshole father never paid his child support, that will not only scare you, but you'll work hard so it won't happen to you ever again.

Pray the economy turns around and you cat eat the things you were used to eating - instead of soaring food prices.

[sage2021]

I would like to add that I have had many friends throughout my life. It just seems like so long ago though. Some helped me with different things because I didn't have a husband to help me, so I had to rely on friends.
But they are all gone now. Mostly because of geographical locations.

[Saiesh30]

I'm glad it's in the past now for you and really admire you coming out of those tough times. It definitely wasn't pleasant at all but you stood tall against it all. 👏🏻

[IslaTheWitch]

You made valid points. But for all of this, the person must be willing to learn. To put an effort into retrospection and analyze past events. To draw conclusions and bear the consequences. Only experiencing, without the whole learning process, has no value.

To get strength from family and friends'' support, we must have honest relationships with them. Without grudges and expectations. Genuine feelings and acceptance.

To benefit from wisdom and knowledge, we must understand what we learned and how to use it.

Way of speaking and expressing can be a side factor. But this person's attitude plays an important role.

And from my perspective, money makes people weak, demanding, and lazy. All but strong...

[Anonymous]

Everything you said is mostly true. There is an old saying “what kills you only makes you stronger”.

But as I’ve gotten older I dunno that every negative experience someone endured has always “made them stronger”. Some things can really traumatize people for life. Especially if it happened in childhood.

It’s often issues you never got got closure from. I personally went through a life changing negative experience with an ex girlfriend 10 years ago. She wasn’t my first or last negative experience with women. She literally told me she saw me as less than human and meant with cold sincerity. That didn’t make me stronger. It made me much more callous but not exactly stronger. It killed my remaining youthful spirit and was the true beginning of middle age for me.

That’s not to give people an excuse to be cop outs, crybabies, whiners, etc. I actually beyond hate the modern mentality that victimhood = merit.

[Saiesh30]

It takes courage to speak out so don't think any less of yourself. It does seem to be very hurtful what she said but in all honesty it doesn't define you. After all she's a human herself and not some God who speaks only truth. Hope you are able to bury it in the past for good and that memory fades away.

[Opinion Owner]

She started making friends with the wrong crowd at the time. I also was far from perfect when we dated. Didn’t cheat but I definitely could have been more respectful and done things better. I accepted the break up. I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship at that time. But I did and still loved her very much as a person.

But what she said to me at the end wasn’t just rejection it was severance. The way you severe a tumor from your body. Never had a woman treat me like that and fully mean it.

It was just a hard lesson that men are NOT special for existing. We are only special if we can provide value to a woman. Once she determines we can no longer provide her any value then we are expendable. Invisible at best. A threat that must be avoided/dealt with at worst.

[Saiesh30]

I feel you bro. It's evident how much she meant to you and in return her saying something like that is indeed traumatizing.
She, however doesn't define all women. Believe me or not, there are women who love the values more in guys than anything else. You never know, what's tomorrow gonna bring for you

[Opinion Owner]

I would like to believe that. I did date several other women after her including two long term relationships. However the truth is I never met anybody like her before I met her and after I met her.

She was the first to say “I love you” but I had my guard up. But she kept on saying it for an entire year. Really made me believe it was real. But she was in love with the IMAGE of who she thought I was despite trying to convince me otherwise. The end proved that.

I will live. Wiser but also much more cynical. That did really change me.

[NathanDavis]

yes, to most of what you said...

the love and support from family and friends, a partner... can give you the motivation to remain to remain strong

the experience, the failure, the mistakes... when they're properly addressed and understood, these can give you the resilience and endurance to withstand strong

wisdom, knowledge, assurance, assertiveness... toughness, resolve, hope... resourcefulness... when you gain all of this you do get stronger

a well built character will be definitely in a better position to face problems by themselves but also with others

money though... does not bring through strength by itself, if you rely on money to be strong then there's always going to be someone with more money and they are going to just break you

[Saiesh30]

Right!! It takes a mix of everything to turn into a strong person. Appreciate the elaborate answer 🙌🏻

[Courtneyblabla]

A person is strong when he or she tries to find a way to solve their own problems or find the courage to face their fear. People can also be strong when they are willing to put others first but still know their boundaries. A person is also strong when he/she is humble when criticized but still assert his/her stand respectfully. A person is also strong when he/she goes out of the way to give Justice to the oppressed. A person is also strong when he/she can offer unconditional love. A person is also strong when he/she has discipline and self-control.

[Saiesh30]

Brilliantly said 👏🏻👏🏻

[ItsMariusz]

Strength comes in two distinct forms: physical and mental. In our society, mental resilience holds greater significance. Those who can set aside their emotions during big decisions and rely solely on logic exhibit what I consider great mental strength. Discipline is also a hallmark of strength, a quality often lacking in today's world. It's discipline that fosters personal growth, financial success, knowledge acquisition, and numerous other achievements.

[Saiesh30]

Yeah that's right. Discipline fosters growth which as a result makes one both mentally and physically strong.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I think this sums up a lot of it:

It's the aversion to the victim mindset. It doesn't matter to me whether someone is a jock or nerd or both, a fighter or a pacifist, a leader or a follower. What a strong person never does is allow themselves to become victims in their own minds.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

In case that was difficult to read:
>> Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place, and I don't care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it.

>> You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!

>> Now, if you know what you're worth, then go out and get what you're worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain't you. You're better than that!

[Saiesh30]

Nope it wasn't difficult to read. Thanks for sharing as text too though. That's indeed a good point. You don't play the blame game but take responsibility even if you make mistakes.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

Persistence and mental fortitude is what makes someone strong. Innate skills are rare to discover, but if you develop an unyielding addiction with a mindset that doesn't let failure get to you, then anything that person sets their mind toward will in time, make them into a strong contender.

[Saiesh30]

Can't disagree to that. Once that mindset sets in, the person indeed becomes unstoppable.

[DagonbroughtMehere]

Adversity + Adaptation.
Difficult Questions + Extensive Research.
Exercise + Protein.
Failure + Perseverance.

All of these equations must be in Concert with themselves but better if they are all together in the same day.

[Saiesh30]

Easy to understand and very aptly said.

[DagonbroughtMehere]

Many thanks.
"if you can't explain it simply you don't understand it well enough."-Albert Einstein.

[Saiesh30]

Boy o boy! I have learnt that quote by heart since past few years. Amazing to hear that from someone else as well 🙌🏻

[DagonbroughtMehere]

Don Juan calls that "Affirmation".

[Massageman]

Adversity. So, basically that's your second choice, failure and experiences.

Knowledge is what you GAIN from those failures, and as you "repair" yourself and your thinking THAT is the increase in strength, mental in this case.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Resistance against injury or infection, and physical strength.

The things you are talking about are not strength related, those are more about comprehension skills and desires.

[Agape93]

Willpower. I think it was Jafar that said

"You'd be surprised what you can live through."

[AnusNdaPainus]

Strength makes a person strong

Power is strength and Power is the ability to get what you want

theoretically there is no limit to human strength

[Ms_Facesitter]

How he she tackles an obstacle in life, hardships, loss, failure

[jahaims]

Being honest with yourself without turning into a bad person.

[tremendousfern]

Being able to deadlift 4 plates, squat 3 plates, bench 2 plates, and overhead press 1 plate.

[Kingofkings1992]

The ability to be resilient in the face of difficulty.

[mobiusforniner]

Good self esteem.

[dreamstar72]

How he can handle revenge toward someone.

[Anonymous]

Cybernetic exoskeletons

[Anonymous]

Challenges in their lives

[PrincessFlora]

Their will and mental state

[Nerdvana]

struggle.

[Skyros]

Trials and suffering