What do I do? how can I stop feeling this way but I can help feeling this way?

[laurlaur101]

I get stressed out honestly I feel like I’m perceived as stupid when I’m really not I just feel like I get taken advantage of because I look younger than my age or something I don't know I feel like people play me it’s like I don’t wanna be seen anymore and even in public I feel like I don’t belong or fit it I feel like people are staring at me and cringing I don't know why I have these feelings but that’s how I feel & I don't know what to do

[crossdressingrihno]

I used to be in the exact same boat as you.
I’m autistic, but I am also incredibly intelligent but because of my autism and my intelligence, I’ve always had an issue communicating with people and it took a long time for people to recognize my intellect because it got covered up by them not understanding me both because I’m talking about concepts far above their head and because I’m autistic and have a hard time communicating with people.


Also, when I was 19 or 20 There was this girl who was Like one and a half to two years older than me, but she wasn’t interested in me because well I had a very youthful appearance.
She thought I was a minor, but I wasn’t and she even said my ID was fake. 😢






I got over thinking I was dumb because their opinion doesn’t matter and I had tangible proof that I wasn’t due to A state issued IQ test. The reason why I had a state issued IQ test, I would rather not go into but anyways, my results were high. I got 135 Which is pretty good considering At that time, I hadn’t eaten In over 24 hours and They made me miss my lunch.
I also don’t care if people call me stupid because I spoke on equal terms with a NASA engineer and an executive to an IT company.


As for my youthful appearance? You would be surprised with what an ugly mustache can do.

[Mr_twoface]

Saying you should work on yourself or seek therapy are all valid responses, however, firstly though, I believe you should write down when you believe it started and why you feel like you do? Did something happened to trigger you? What is your living situation dynamic? My thought is if you can figure out when and why it causes, you may be able to find ways on your own to overcome these thoughts and feelings. Sometimes talking to others, just strangers, might be helpful for you to ventilate your thoughts and work yourself through it. I'm all yours, if you want to dm me so we can work it out. I don't know how much I can help or contribute but I know from own experience talking to strangers have in the past helped me at times. If you feel it gets to deep and you actually refuse to go out etc. well then therapy is the way to go.

[laurlaur101]

I just feel like perceive as stupid when I’m really not I don’t want to be looked at that way. So it’s just been rough I just been beating myself up about certain things I’m going through

[Mr_twoface]

Again, talking to others and receiving their point of view about what you are going through can sometimes help to see or understand it differently. Can make you stronger rather than beating yourself up over it. I'm sure your not alone in what you are facing and others have gone through it too. As for being perceived as stupid... people are all different and sadly that is not something you can control about. You can do everything in your power and yet feel you are receiving the same feedback. Need to work on building your self-confidence! Once you are mentally stronger, no external forces can make you feel like you do! You need also more positive influenced people around you, to give you that push as to, you are amazing and not stupid!

[wiltingrosepetal]

Therapy. We can't help you with your own internal battles, unfortunately

[laurlaur101]

Yeah but advice will help at least too

[RHK36]

Get mentally stronger. You can only control your own actions and thoughts. You can't change people's opinions, but you can change how you react to them. Only your own opinion truly matters, learn to let shit go.

[laurlaur101]

I know just I’m stuck in the past because what if it’s my fault things don’t work out it’s because of me I don't know if it’s truly me because relationships require effort from both sides but maybe I’m Doug. What I’m supposed to do all I can they don’t I just replay the past interactions in my head I don't know why I have a hard time moving forward because I don’t feel happy and want some clarity I feel like I need something to help me release whats truly going on. Even anyone’s advice is a big help it’s good to talk things out

[RHK36]

Honestly best advice I can tell people when transitioning to single or already single is to spend time on yourself. Be selfish and spend time improving yourself. We have a finite amount of time and you have less for yourself when in a relationship. Spend time on yourself and love yourself. Clarity comes the more you make yourself the best version. You don't need closure, you need to improve yourself so that you don't feel like closure is even a thing because it's not. Closure is excuses for not moving on which is an excuse from hiding from mental immaturity. When you keep it 💯 with yourself life gets slightly easier.

[PeterLegg91]

Your just paranoid girl , keep your head down act confident and that'll change

[laurlaur101]

What do you mean?

[PeterLegg91]

Thinking people are staring at you etc YOUR JUST PARANOID

[Danny_dan92]

What is your question?

[lildkman1010]

You need to gain confidence

[laurlaur101]

I know but I feel like I just don’t the best like other people I don't know where these feelings came from I never felt like this ever it’s just really destroying me and I feel like I’m stuck in the rut and stalling in a way to make a change but it’s hard