Why do girls like guys that ignore them?

[Anonymous]

I have a problem. It's when I start ignoring girls they come after me, but then when I like one of those girls and show interest they turn the cold shoulder?

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+1 y

Thank you everyone ;-)

[upood]

It's human nature, guys and girls like competition and what they can't have. But its not that they like you more when you ignore them its that they fight for that attention more so it seems obvious. when you don't ignore them they're not as obvious because they have attention and are more subtle about it

[Alouette]

How do you show interest? Coming on too strong can be a huge turn off. On the other hand, signals that seem obvious to you may mean something entirely different or nothing at all to a girl.

[Asker]

I simply smile and look at her sometimes. Also, I try being funny (I can usually make people laugh easily).. Is that too strong?

[Alouette]

No, that sounds good. It may be the girls... is super hot and stuck up your type?

[Asker]

But I am a millionaire (drive porshe) and have OK abs. Should I show her that I am rich or should I wear clothe that show I have a very fit body (workout 5 days a week) or is that cheap? Currently I am not making obvious that I am very rich, because I think its cheap? Do you think I should?

[styles_clash]

Super hot doesn't have to necessarily mean stuck up

[Skyler123]

No I don't want the attention of anyone who ignores me. Doesn't work that way with me.

[Asker]

But what if the guy is rich(drives a porshe) and has a good body?

[Skyler123]

All the more reason for me NOT to want them. Men like that only use women for sex. They use their money and good looks to reel them in, screw them and tell them to leave their house barely after they're fully clothed.

[styles_clash]

Someone got screwed

[Skyler123]

Oh, no. It never happened to me. LOL I would never be stupid enough to fall for a guy like that. "Cause my mama taught me better than that." Haha, homage to Destiny's Child. :D

[Asker]

Some people say I portray that image of a player (wealth and good looks), but I am a very romantic guy. I have had only 2 partners (gold diggers), how I show that I am looking a serious and romantic relationship and not gold diggers or something short term.

[Skyler123]

Don't let your wealth be so obvious. Try to dress down a bit and be modest in your spending. Gold diggers go after what they SEE. If you flaunt your wealth all the time then that is most certainly what you're going to get. I won't lie and say I wouldn't date a wealthy man it would be nice to experience it, BUT he would have to be a man that values and respect women, which there aren't that many of. So I give props to you for wanting to do the right thing by women. :)

[Asker]

Thanks for the support and answer... Hope it works... :-|

[Skyler123]

I PROMISE you it'll work. Girls will like you for you...and not your money. And when they do find out you're rich it'll be an added bonus! :)

[Asker]

I just to make a point clear. When you said dress down what does that mean? I have always worn designer clothes (gucci and Dolce & Gabbana), should I buy clothes with very small logos that won't show? Or is it ok?

[Skyler123]

When I say dress down don't wear clothing like that. Dolce and Gabbana scream "I'M RICH!" it attracts the very gold diggers that you want to avoid. You can still wear those brands but make sure logos aren't too obvious on them. So yes try to make sure they aren't too noticable. You shouldn't have to change your self completely to be with some one because that will only make you miserable in the end. But try to be your self but in a more subtle way.

[Asker]

Ok so clothes with small logos. Also should I stop driving my Porshe Carrera and get a Mustang or something like that?

[Skyler123]

I think a Mustang is nice. It's showy/flashy but it doesn't scream you have a butt load of money.

[Asker]

Thank you for your help. Is there anything else I should know? Should I also spend less on girls, when I take them out (hopefully a serious relation)? Can you give me a general figure please? I never knew girls judged guys, so much by what they wear and drive.

[Skyler123]

To be honest you shouldn't spend too much on a girl. Especially one that you have not dated for very long. There isn't a specific price range on how much to spend just don't go above and beyond. I hate when guys spend too much on me its like they are trying to win me over with their money or with the gifts they give me. If she really likes you hell, you guys could have dinner on a hay stack and she'll still be happy because she's with you! THATS how you know a girl truly likes you.

[KERMlT]

Hard to get is a challenge. They like the mysterious, dark, loner type sometimes. Brooding and whatever and maybe they feel that he'd change if he only had a special woman in his life meaning her.

[Anonymous]

Girls want what they can't have. When they can't have you (you're ignoring them) they start to go "what the heck" and will then chase after you.

[Asker]

Thats just F***en crazy. So if I like someone I should ignore her?

[Opinion Owner]

That's the way it seems to be. Keep in mind though, even if you like her, she may not like you. She could just take your ignoring and leave you. Why should she care about you if you ignore her

[Coffinspire]

It's a mind trick. She wants you to chase after her and when you start ignoring her she realizes it's not working. Playing hard to get doesn't work lol

[Ezmotts]

Sucks when they play your game huh?

[Asker]

Hahaha... I didn't mean to ignore the girls... I was just busy... It takes a lot from me to stay focused in 2 hour classes (university)...