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The difference between the friendzone and simply being a friend

Time to ruffle some feathers.


Especially the people who claim the friendzone isn't a thing. The common definition of the friendzone is when a male has sexual or romantic intentions towards a female and she doesn't recuporate those feelings. Thing is, while that very well may be the case, I believe that the true definition of the friendzone is completely different. As a guy with more female friends than male friends, I have drawn the conclution that there is a large difference between being in the friendzone, and being a genuine guy friend to the girl.


So what's the difference between being in the friendzoe and being a genuine guy friend?


The difference between the friendzone and simply being a friend.


To put it plainly, respect. If you're in the friendzone, she doesn't respect you or see you as her equal. Hell, sometimes if you're in the friendzone, the girl doesn't even see you as a real person. Basically, you are just a support system for her when there are no other options. A true guy friend, however, the girl WILL respect. To her, he isn't just the guy she goes to when she needs him to do something for her, or the guy she expects to never stand up to her. He is a real person, a living being with his own thought's, opinions and needs. More on that in a sec.


Why are you in the friendzone?


I'm gonna be frank with ya, if you have already been in the friendzone for a while, you ain't getting out. I don't care what you've read online about it. You're just stuck. Why? Cause the girl in question is already used to using you as a last resort and personal servant. If you start standing up to her now she's just gonna snap at you, you're gonna back down, and you will continue to be in her friendzone. If you DO manage to stand your ground, she's never going to talk to you again anyway until you come crying back to her. The best advice I have for you is, if you are deep in the friendzone with a girl, cut her off asap. It's not going to get better. Trust me.

Now then, WHY are you in the friendzone? The best answer I can give ya is, you lack so much self respect that she can't even respect or acknowledge you. Guys in the friendzone have a really bad habit of backing down whenever a girl states her opinions. They aren't comfortable enough in their own skin to think they're opinions matter as much as hers. Another thing guys in the friendzone do is they let their dick rule their brain. These guys will do ANYTHING for a girl if she winks and smiles cutely at them. Even if they already have something else on their schedual they will let their knees give way to what she wants simply because she called them cutie or something. The final and most detrimental thing a guy in the friendzone will do is, if something a girl says offends him, he won't voice it. He will bottle it up and it will just blow unnecessarily later.


How to be a true guy friend?


Just do all the things that don't get you in the friendzone. If a girl says something that you don't agree with, voice yourself (don't force it down her throat though). What this does is it helps support the idea that you are your own person with your own beliefs and it encourages her to respect that about you. Next, when a girl tells you to do something and she tries to manipulate you, refuse. Send her the message that she can't make you do something with just a sway of her hips. If you already have something planned then tell her. Remind her (without actually saying it) that you have your own goals and schedual to follow and, once again, it will help establish that you are nothing short of a full individual. Finally, when she says something that hurts your feelings, object (don't be rude about it). Simply state that what she said made you feel bad. If she says something like "I wasn't put on this earth to please you", end the conversation immediately. Remember though, your goal isn't to make her feel bad. Your goal should be to make her acknowledge the fact that you have feelings too and that she should respect it.

Now, all this being said, there will be those girls who simply refuse to respect you. There will be girls who simply wish to use you as a support puppet. Stay away from these girls. Don't try to make them respect you because they just won't. Tell them to shove off.


Final words from your ArchDruid


Now, I have taught you how to make it easy for a girl to respect you and see you as a human being. This knowledge, however, should NOT encourage you to disrespect a girl. You have shown that you are your own person, let her be her own person as well.

The difference between the friendzone and simply being a friend

The difference between the friendzone and simply being a friend
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