Number One Question You Need to Stop Asking Women

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Making every one of her admirers jump for joy, Chrissy Teigen announced that she is expecting her first child with hubby John Legend. The 29-year-old stunner posted a darling photo with the "All of Me" crooner on Instagram earlier this week to announce the exciting news.

"John and I are so happy to announce that we are pregnant :) As many of you know, we've been trying to have a baby for a while now. It hasn't been easy, but we kept trying because we can't wait to bring our first child into the world and grow our family. We're so excited that it's finally happening. Thank you for all your love and well wishes. I look forward to all the belly touching! Xx" Chrissy wrote with the pic.

The Sports Illustrated model and John have tried, yet failed to get pregnant for years. Teigen briefly addressed her fertility struggles in her baby announcement, but delved deeper into the issue on "Fab Life" during her chat with Tyra Banks and the rest of the cast.

Chrissy revealed how women would constantly ask, "When are you going to have a baby?" Yet, little did they know, she was struggling with fertility issues.

"One day you're gonna ask that to the wrong girl who is really struggling and it's gonna be hurtful to them. And I hate that. I hate it. Stop asking me!" she told her co-hosts.

This is a wonderful point that I discuss with my girl friends on a regular basis. Women need to stop asking other women when they are going to start having kids.

1. It's none of your business. The act of getting pregnant is a personal decision that a couple makes together. Unless you're a close friend, it's not your place to ask. Plus, if you're a close friend - your gal pal will probably share her baby plans with you.

2. As Chrissy states, you're going to ask the wrong girl. You don't know if this girl has been trying to get pregnant for years and she can't. Or maybe her man can't have kids. You simply don't know what's going on.

It's amazing how often I get asked this question. As an example, on my wedding day I was walking around greeting guests and was asked about three times by different guests, "When are the babies coming?"

I just got married - literally two hours ago. Are you kidding me?

We need to start respecting women's privacy and understand that if they're not pregnant there are reasons. Most importantly those of you who are curious - those reasons are not your business. If she wants to share, she will.

I'd love to hear your feedback. Do you agree that we need to stop asking women: "When are you going to have babies?" Sound off below!

[zorro8888]

Good take, another question would be:
"Why are you still single?"

Not saying this is a general rule, but I notice women more specifically mothers are usually the ones who ask "When are you going to have a baby?" the most. As if they see motherhood as the biggest achievement in a woman's life.

[TheDevilInside]

Those people probably do see pushing a baby out of their vaginas as the best thing they have ever done. And don't forget they probably have traditional values as well

[Prettygurl12]

I hate when people ask me when I'll have a baby.

1. Not married.
2. I. Do. Not. Want. One. Ever.

So... the answer is a simple, "Hopefully never." And I let them deal with that in all their shock about how a vagina person could possibly not want a kid. OMG! The horror!

[MrOracle]

If I could give this more up-votes, I would.

[EmiliaRose2355]

This is hilarious 😂😂😂

[Vehii]

YES! And of course the following-up question is "Why not?" or "You'll change your mind when you get married" or phrases like that. I just don't want kids dammit.

[WhiteSteve]

Good take. People are such busybodies, haha. The same applies to couples like my girlfriend and I, who aren't planning on having children. It's not hurtful in the same way as a woman struggling to conceive, but it sure is annoying, haha. And then we have to sit there and explain that we don't want children, and dealing with that person's response, and they're probably wicked pro-baby if they're asking that. And the best response is "oh, you'll change your mind..." Yeah, you're right, nosy person, we're just a couple of idiots who are incapable of making rational decisions, in our 30s. Thank god you came along and showed us the light with your insightful words. I'd love to see the reaction if someone said to us, "well, we're planning on trying to have a baby, and we're really excited to become parents!", and we responded with "oh, you'll change your mind. Once that baby comes and see how hard it is, you'll definitely change your mind." We'd get kicked out of the party and be labeled assholes, hahaha.

[MaskedSanity]

There was a time where I got annoyed by those questions.

Today I see it as an opportunity. An opportunity to piss off the nosey disrespectful fuckers who think their way of life is the "correct" one. Because it's never out of concern, is it? It always comes from a thinly veiled judgement of "Why aren't you reproducing, you weirdo?".

When they ask their usual questions of why I don't want babies, I directly tell them babies are worthless/I hate children/too early for Christmas dinner/etc and watch the horror/anger start materialising on their dumbass faces.

"I don't want kids." should be a sufficient answer. I don't need to justify not wanting to reproduce, because it's NOT A BAD THING.

So when people persist, expecting me to "explain myself", I try to come up with some of the most offensive shit I can think of.

If they go so far as try and "convert" me, that's when all hell breaks loose and I will pick apart every reason they give for having kids, boiling every single one down to selfishness.
People tend to get the message after two of their pro-baby reasons are turned against them and they tend to fuck off and never bring up the subject again.

Maybe some day I'll change my mind. But so far I haven't and I'm not committing a crime by refusing to pop out crotchlings, therefore I don't need to give anyone a bloody reason why.

[Tormentarian]

likeable but not so smart

[Vehii]

"too early for Christmas dinner" wahahaha, I'm going to remember that one

[menina]

Good take.

People don't ask me when I'm going to have children, but they're always saying: "Oh, you'll see when you have your own" or "When you become a mother, would you do this or that to your kids"? and I HATE that!!!
I don't want to have kids and I know I can't be a mother, so I'm sick and tired of this question!
It's my body, I have the right to decide what I want to do with it.

But let me give you an example related to your take:
One of my sisters is 30 and she got married two years ago. My mother is always saying "Oh, I'm worried about her, she's getting old and she should have a baby". And I just think:
First:You have nothing to do with this, it's between her and her husband
Second: You don't know if they're trying to have kids or even if they can/want to
Third: A child has to be planned, it's not a thing you can replace or throw away, so having children must be a careful and responsible decision.

That being said, I do agree that we need to stop asking this question. Only the couple knows why they don't have kids or when they want to have them.

[Darkfairie17]

I agree with you 100 Percent! It's really hard on those of us who want kids but haven't had the chance to have them yet.

I would love to have kids, I would love to be married, I would love to have love in my life. Unfortunately, those things have not happened for me yet. It's really painful to have people ask me when I'm going to get married and have kids. Yet they don't realize that I just got out of an abusive relationship or that my boyfriend just cheated on me or that I am having health issues.

There are so many things that people are facing each day. It's better to ask people what is going on in their lives and let them tell you what they want you to know.

Yet for many women it's a painful question. I know some people will say their intentions are not to hurt. But it IS hurtful to those of us who want it so bad, yet it's out of reach at the time.

Last Christmas I was at a family function and was literally singled out by a big group of family asking me when I was going to get married. My cousin was getting married and my other cousin already was married (she's 20). My other cousin is the same age as me. His fiancee basically told me it was easy to find a guy, you just have to try. Um, ok. Like I haven't been trying for the last several years. She told me I should try online dating. I've been on and off online dating since I was 19 years old (so yes, I have been trying to meet someone). Relationships came and went and they didn't work out. But thanks for making me feel like crap!

Honestly it was pretty painful. It's easy for her to say it's easy to find someone, when she met only a few guys and then like the 3rd guy was 'the one' for her. Lucky her. Not all of us are so fortunate.

Some people think they are being nice, when really they are just making you feel like crap!

[Sara413]

"Most importantly those of you who are curious - those reasons are not your business."

BAM!

Absolutely. People need to stop this! I think we're only beginning to learn now how common fertility issues are, as more and more people become more comfortable talking about it. It's virtually a guarantee that if you are in the habit of asking every married person you know when they plan to have kids you WILL end up asking someone who is unable or who is struggling to, and you WILL hurt that person, whether you mean to or not. Just STOP.

[TheDevilInside]

People should just stop asking people "when":
1. When are you going to finish your studies? - none of your business. Unless you're planning on hiring me when I'm finished.
2. When are you going to get married? - why, wanna pay for the whole thing? No? None of your goddamn business.
3. When are you gonna have a baby? - unless you're planning on adopting my baby, also none of your goddamn business.

by the way, who is Chrissy teigen? Some bitch who got famous because she's got connections? I have never seen her do anything that requires talent...

[Anonymous]

Yeah that's people who want to know someone's sex life without really saying it.

"When are you going to have a baby?"
"When are you going to get married?"
"Have any kids? None that you know about right?"
"Got a girlfriend/boyfriend?"

All of it is sugar coating that they want to know if you've been fucking someone recently.

[Opinion Owner]

Nosy asses tryna get in people's private lives.

[Nik1hil]

And here I freak out when they ask when are you going to college

[FurtileSpermRelease]

Whats wrong with that?

[Opinion Owner]

What is up with your name? Anyway, the problem is that they aren't fooling anybody. It's not like the other person doesn't know you just want to know how their sex life is going. Why not just say "How's your sex life?" Sure it's rude, but hell if you want to know go full. Don't try to sugar coat it.

[BaileyisDarcy]

My grandmothers way of asking about my sex life was when she told me my boyfriend and I would be staying in separate rooms when we go down and stay at her place for a weekend for Halloween.

Yup.

[Anonymous]

i never thought of it, but its true. To be honest people ask a lot of questions that depending on what is going on in your life could feel hurtful, who knows a person could never tell. But deciding to have a baby is an extremely personal thing between you and another, on the other hand i think it is something some say to some people who are married and mean nothing by it, not even trying to be nosy. I remember my friend asking my other friend and her boyfriend when is the wedding and asking him when he gonna propose and thinking to myself, you dont even know if they having problems and discussing if they should stay together or not. Sometimes people dont think befor the speak

[annie_annie]

And the "Why are you still single? You could find a boyfriend so easily with your looks!"

That's the matter. Maybe I don't want a guy who likes me only because of my apparent 'looks'. Maybe I don't want a relationship at all.

OOOH, WHY? Because I feel better off on my own, no big deal or hatred in here. Just more comfy with myself.

Cool take, by the way. That baby question can be an issue!

[Anonymous]

I agree. I take so much flack for not having a husband and family and it's already something I'm fairly bummed out about. But nobody knows I have a history of mental illness as well of sexual abuse starting a age 6. Some day, I'd love to just blurt out why it's all so damn hard so people feel sheepish about shaming me for not fitting in the social norm.

[9mfeo]

Oh god, yes. My dad asks me all the time. I'm very single. Still in school. Why are babies the only focus of my life, apparently? I would much rather at least have a real job and a partner before the baby thing comes up.

[findingdreamland]

I put myself in Chrissy s shoes. That would be awful and heart breaking.
They did not have baby because they couldn't idiot.
Being more thoughtful would not hurt.
I respect and i never ask such questions. I demand the same. That simple.

[Anonymous]

They should stop asking stupid penis size questions...

[moistycakes]

I think people are too sensitive. When people get married a lot have kids, I think it's normal to ask about such a big thing in a woman and a mans lives.

[BackInGame]

I usually strike with "How many guys have you slept with?".

[WhatTheHellAmy]

Instead of hi I always go "hey you, how long and thick is your cock?"

[EmiliaRose2355]

Totally, totally agree! Some people have no idea just how dangerous that question can be!!

[Evil_romantic]

Yay, for egomaniacs breeding.

Cause the world really needs more self obsessed assholes running around!

[Anonymous]

I could care less, it's mpre of a joke than anything but people are so infatuated with populating the planet.

[aoifeislovable]

I love this take... it's so true