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Back in the day women had to choose to be with a man because there was really no choices. Those women did what they had to do to raise their kids and also to be stable.
now the new were age generation of women seems like they have to do the same thing. Almost like choosing to just be with someone for money or investment.
I think a lot of women don’t choose love. They do what they have to do
Here's the reality, that tons of people (male and female) can't accept, because their naive, misguided, or corrupt parents (among others) taught them they wouldn't have to: you can't have it all. You don't get everything you want in life - sometimes even things you REALLY want - because that's not how reality works.
Who wouldn't want a person who is a 10/10 and who loves you unconditionally? We all would! But your chances of finding that person for you is about the same chance as winning a Lotto grand prize: I'm not saying it never happens for anyone, but it's DAMN RARE, and the vast, overwhelming majority of people aren't going to win it.
In real life, other people are imperfect human beings, JUST LIKE YOU, and they'll have different views, opinions, values, goals, and so on. Very, very few will be super good-looking. Very, very few will be independently wealthy. Very, very few will be super popular. And finding all of those things in the SAME person, who also has similar feelings for YOU? You're gonna be single a LONG time!
It is, of course, up to YOU to prioritize what is MOST important to you, and to go after it, but you will almost certainly have to sacrifice other things that you also want in order to get them. If you want a relationship, you're going to have to be attractive to the kind of people that you want to have a relationship with - and YOU don't get to decide what THEY find attractive, and yet, you must still be attractive to them or you aren't going to get them - or even have a CHANCE at getting them. And you might well find that the things they want are directly opposed to other plans you have made - and you're going to have to make a decision and a choice, and no matter what you choose, there WILL be consequences, and you may well sacrifice something that you'll never get back.
There's also a time element. For guys, this generally means that in your teens and 20s, you have VERY little leverage - women have far more social value during those years and can largely demand whatever they want from the men who want relationships with them, and unless you are already rich and powerful, there's nothing you can really do about it except to work very hard and try to reach success early. Men's SMV doesn't really show significant growth until their 30s, when they start having some significant status and resources for the first time.
For women, the time element is very closely tied to reproductive ability - your "biological clock." Women in their late teens and 20s have tremendous SMV, and can attract men from their teens into their 60s, and they have a ton of leverage - but not long after her 30th birthday, that SMV starts going away VERY quickly, and suddenly the kinds of men who she'd have easily attracted a couple of years before are no longer interested, and she's likely to find that she's got to lower her bar a WHOLE LOT before she finds a man who is - and a lot of women are at first very angry about that - it's like growing up filthy rich your whole life, and then suddenly being broke and having to take public transit and flying coach instead of chauffeured cars and private planes. After a few years, reality sinks in, and she either settles for the kind of man she now can attract (FAR lower down the scale than she'd have believed in her 20s) or she starts a cat collection.
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"now the new were age generation of women seems like they have to do the same thing. Almost like choosing to just be with someone for money or investment."
Really? Why is that? Why would a woman have to choose between love and money? Why not just earn your own money so you can focus on love instead, like men do? And why must a women make such a choice but a man doesn't? Is it because you women value money more than love? Why is money so important to you, and why is it more important to you than it is to men?
You women need to all get together and figure out just what it is you want. You say you want equality but you clearly don't. The truth is you want a man to provide for you. You want a man's resources, pure and simple. Love would be nice too, but it's e=secondary, and that's what you're saying here, isn't it?
You women don't want equality. You want everything.
I think it is. If you settle then it means you're forcing yourself into a relationship with somebody that you really don't want. It'd be like if I made myself go into a hook-up even though I'm not into hook-ups and the sex it provides. If you want a relationship with someone you'll love, then you should go for that instead. Otherwise it's just letting/forcing yourself to be unsatisfied and disappointed, which in turn will make you more unhappy with life. Finding love isn't easy because love itself does not automatically happen. Love is slow, takes time, takes patience, trust, respect, bonding, and knowing someone enough to let them in your heart. Love is always unexpected and sneaky, so it's hard to expect it to form with a snap of a finger---as it doesn't work like that. And the same can be said for romantic relationships.
Why not provide money and create value for yourself? Women are no longer financially useless. It's 2020, and women have massive opportunity to provide for themselves, or even their family. You've managed to rationalize utilizing men as a tool for financial security. Congratulations lol.
Depends on the person.
I don't think people should settle for anything that doesn't satisfy them.
But i think you have to be choicy in a reasonable way.
Nobody will find their perfect man/woman but doesn't mean you should lower your standards either.
I think a lot of these women are misguided. Especially with the lack of fathers and devine male headship.
Male and female relationships are simple God gave us the blueprint. It's not a man's fault because you don't want to adhere to natural order.
Children need their mother and men need wives for a reason.
I don't think women are setting especially when you factor in the weight issues, personality defects, lack of domestic skills and debt (college, car, credit card, home loans) that so many of these women are bringing to these relationships.
It sounds like the men are "settling."
In some Mid-Eastern and African countries, women often didn't have a choice. However, in the USA and other Western countries, there has never been a time women didn't have a choice. Not even if the 1400s. In 1428, 16-year-old Joan of Arc was sued for breach of promise. She won her case and didn't have to marry the young man.
And wonder why guys don't want a relationship, there's the reason right there. If it was reversed, would you want someone with you for your money and doesn't really care about you?
My opinion, "back in the day", maybe this was "necessary" for women, but it definitely isn't today. Women are more than capable of taking care of themselves financially. A lot of them just don't want to work, or work that hard.
When one settles for someone for which there is no attraction, then yes, settling is a bad thing.
this reminds me of this song
https://www.youtube.com/embed/llGvsgN17CQI really respect today's modern women who are more confident and independent.
Nice Mytake 😊😊
It would be for me; this is why I'm still single and have never dated.
U have 2 hog tie the 1 u want then take him out of temptation city.
If you are young, it is bad.
How old are you?
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