Should I tell her about my problems?

[Anonymous]

I'm not officially with this girl yet. But we're very open with each other. After going to Afghanistan I started getting these anxiety/depression attacks. When they happen I feel like I can't talk to anyone. That is except for her, I always feel better after talking to her, but I've never told her I actually suffer from this stuff. Should I tell her? How would it affect our relationship?

[Jarett]

First off, let me thank you for your service! But I would definitely tell her. You can never go wrong with being honest. It's better to let her know ahead of time, so you don't surprise her later on. Obviously never being in that type of situation, no one else can ever even begin to understand what you're going through. But if you're honest with her, at least she knows, and you can go from there. If she can't handle it, then she can't handle it, and you're not meant to be. But at least she knows what she's getting into

[aly-dija]

Yes you need to tell her but leave out the suffering part. And well the signs your showing seems like you love her and if you do you wouldn't stay in Afghanistan. Try to get into a real relationship you'll be surprised how well it works.

[Anonymous]

If anything at all it should make her feel better that she's your cure.

in my past relations I've had bad days or something has bothered me and I'd tell them they always make me feel better. Like they were my cure. The response I would get would be a smile and cuddle.