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I think you should dress the way YOU want, and that makes you feel comfortable. Dressing appropriately for the weather is just good sense. Your boyfriend needs to get over himself.
But he makes the date really uncomfortable because he won't talk to me when I wear shorts and he walks super fast I have to run after him :/
Well don't put up with his crap.
I dont view this as silly but a red flag of control and marker for other issues. If it were me I'd seek counseling so he learns his behavior is wrong or leave him.
He said he doesn't need counselor. If I love him like I said I do then I should respect him the way he is. That's what he said... :( I really do love him but this is just too much...
But he isn't respecting you, thats not love.
he sounds more like an idiot tat a conservative to me. someone getting this upset over such trivialities and nit picking like this could mean there's something else going on
"Something else going on" as in? And yeah I agree I never understand why he's THIS uoset overcsuch things.
as in it seems like there's something more serious upsetting him that he's trying to hide which is causing smaller unimportant things to upset him
This isn't a silly thing - this is him being intolerant and disrespectful and trying to control you. Do you really want to be with a guy who gets mad and is embarrassed of you because of who you are?
I seriously doubt he'll change.
I gave him a year to change already and nothing changes yet :/ He've been to the US for 2 years already...
I know but love is blind I really do love him it's hard picturing myself not seeing him everyday...
Don't waste your life waiting for someone to not change (they won't). Everyone should be with someone who loves them for who they are they way they are.
Well he is JEALOUS !! He is too conservative... And he does not understand... He thinks you are attracting other guys by wearing those clothes
Everybody here wear it on hot days why can't he look at them? :(
Because he is conservative and jealous... And trust me he can change but maybe you should find a new guy for yourself... Someone who is more open minded...
I seriously think he won't ever change... unfortunately... He lived 25 years in Korea so his mind won't absorb new things anymore :/ And he's older than me so his mindset is that he's more experienced he's always right I'm always wrong so just listen to him period.
if he's 25 years old he's pretty set in his ways, I'm almost 25 so i can speak from experience
In that case you should dump this guy... Cause this jealously and controlling behavior is only gonna get worse... And you will Fell locked down...
*feel
Yeah, so I think I can't change his mind now he will stick with it forever...
by the way he's 27 now, been to the US 2 years ago, lived in Korea 25 years before that...
How many years into your relationship?
Almost a year..
I read all your other comments where you said you any call him baby or hold hands or even wear anything above your knees... he is too damn conservative...
I mean i am Indian and not conservative at all... But he is Just too much... and he is super immature.. Too
Yeah he's just too much. If my friend is in my situation I would tell her to fucking break up with him already... But I love him... it's not easy that's why I have to put up everything for so long. And yes I agreed not to call him baby or hold his hand in public... :( I can't imagine how I would make it without him but at the same time I can't imagine what I will have to go through if I end up marrying him...
Asian cultures tend to be pretty conservative from what I've heard, but @Ihav2fart would know more than me.
What up with the Koreans?
They used to he conservative and a lot born in western countries aren't conservative.
I don't know whats up with Koreans I just know he's so FUCKING conservative and won't understand me!
Douse him in soy sauce. That always shocks their system. BRING HIM BACK TO THE MOTHERLAND!
@Ihav2fart
he's not Korean you need I_M_LEGEND. @I_M_LEGEND
@Ihav2fart
Oh shit I have so many Asian friends on GaG!!!
Koreans, from what I hear, have rigid views on how women should behave and relationships making romantic relationships difficult with them. I have heard this from four different women now on GAG.
@hypno-trip Believe it or not they still believe in the "men are head of the household and women need to just listen to their husbands" kind of bullshit... WOW! South Korea is a developed country I can't believe this shit still exists.
hrrrm yeah, japan is worse fuck those guys. seriously hate them guts.
sorry again but i m very westernized... i haven't even dated a korean girl in a commited realtionship. jsut a few dates with a few girls... i let my girls do whatever they want...
Quit picking on I M LEGEND! He's cool. I haven't seen him act like a controlling person.
Yea. He sounds controlling. Try talking to him and seeing if he can understand and let it go if not then you have no choice but to break up, but not on bad terms. Sometimes things don't work out in relationships and you really just got to let go.
Screw him, how is that bad he needs to get a grip. SMH
Everybody wears short here in the warm weather. Ask him would he rather you die of a heat stroke or wear clothing that's socially acceptable?
He said I will not die period... :( He even said if I don't trust him then just wear jeans for a few days to see if I'm still alive or not, then I would have an answer for myself...
Don't waste time with backwards people that won't change.
Agree!
I know but love is blind I really do love him it's hard picturing myself not seeing him everyday...
Did anybody else think of Jin from Lost? Like first season?
He sounds condescending and I doubt he can change is mindset or adapt to a more progressive one. It might be best to break up.
why are you with him? his parents have some money? don't you need some bigger penis? I mean in reality, you need money, sex and life. so dump him and get a better boy friend perhaps white guy with money and black guys with dick. I have seen many women like that in my life so what's the drama you are doing it. you are hypocrite
I don't need his money ironically. And surprisingly the Korean small penis stereotype does not apply to him :/
women want social status. white men only bring her. all that fucking celebrities marry to white guys. none of them even see other race as a choice. example jenniffer lopez loved p daddy but she dumped him. that;s what you are complaining about. he can't get what you want. you want to climb up your social status. but you have to know all the black girls are in line giving 10 times of abortion to white guys and white girls are all naked for them. they are from some eastern European countries and all flocking to white guys. you are not match. but be real, if you want go get it no complains. why not? all the girls are trying.
also black men have HUGE DICK. you won't believe it and it really feel good by the way. You will love it. all women are size queen anyway. the bigger the better for your lose vagina.
All of my exes are whites... We never have any stupid argument like this but we broke up because they cheat... Yes, at the moment I'm with this Korean guy, I love him and everything.
bull shit. loving him? anyway, white guys lie. that's what they are. if you can't tolerate, then you can't be with them. by the way, white women scream like a pig until they get everything that they want so you can copy them. please put all the white women in jail or something. I am not talking bout girls though. they can wait til they get married. you think you know everything? huh. I know more.
you sounds like a black women anyway. all the black girls got abortion since they are 11. watch out they only do it to screw around white men. they are thieves and they often sleep with white women. what a thievery union. hahhahh only thing that missing piece is hispanic men who deliver them a drugs. text them, they come right away with that greessy smile on their face.
No I'm not black. You don't know everything girl. You sound bitter honestly.
And no I don't worship white guys like you do. You seem to think they're the best. Haha you're wrong. So wrong. White guys are plain as shit I need some mixed here. You think you know everything? I know more than you. White guys chase me and I don't even give a shit no more since I have a boyfriend. I'm mixed white and Asian they find me so exotic. Too bad for them I demand higher than you girl. You can chase them all you want.
no matter what they say, white boys, Asian girls, and black men are the best in the world.
white men chase anything. that's what they do. i only chase them because I do not want to be chased. I am smart!
marry to white guy and fool around with white guys and then use yellow guys to wash your feet and then black men will service you a towel. hahahah I mean.. what a fucked up dream. think of that if you can keep up your faith not. I can't even do that. I am half up for money and half up for relationship there is nothing that I can do to change. that's what I am good at and that's what I am going to get it no matter what people say and that's my destiny and there is nothing that can lie in order to satisfy my needs. destiny. and please beat that euro trash girls and bring them back to where ever they are from in NYC. they are super annoyiing and good for NOTHING!!!
if I can get some white boy i would forget about EVERYTHING but then he is too young and naive plus.. cuddly guys seem to die out too young.
also chasing down someone you like is not a shame. why not girls can do that too. who care the shit about what others would think? I would rather be humiliated than lose my opportunity fuck that! I chase white men that I want so what the fuck? they feel good about themselves sometimes so i pretend chasing them also. girls chasing boys is more common among white world. I have seen it so many girls doing it and it looks like opposite of Asian world. in Asian, men always chase women. don't feel ashamed of you or you can wait until you get old and ugly waiting til he chase you.
women chase their BABY!!! that's the nature!!!
omg he's Korean? well that explains it luh. the whether in Korea and people in Korea are conservative. couples are not allowed to kiss in public the older generations will scold them.
EXACTLY WTFFFF!!! He doesn't hold my frickin hand in public we walk around like fucking stranger!!!
Its practically because of his culture, thats why he is that conservative
But he is in the US not Korea, how can I get him to understand that he's in America and Korean rules do not apply here. Nobody gives a fuck about Korean rules here it doesn't matter if he's a Korean nobody gives a shit. Aghhh.
If he's like other Koreans I hear he probably won't bend
sometimes the background of people stays with them wherever they go and the act the exact same all the time, he was brought up that way so its just something that he is used to i guess...
Exactly, its your heritage and what you know to be the right way of life... and then too, what he's been exposed to and what you have seem to be different and is so with most people and most couples
But this is what I'm used to. He expects me to get used to what he's used to but why don't he get used to what I'm used to?
yeah i get what you mean :/ its a tough situation, its something that you two need to sit down and discuss together and agree to... but he does need to know that he can't control you over the clothes you wear... i get what you're going at :)
Its not completely his fault that's just the culture he was raised in give him more time to change if he doesn't then leave.
I gave him one year already. Nothing changes. He've been here for 2 years by the way.
Dumping time
It's the culture, I assume that he wasn't raised in the US.
I'm conservative, but have no problem with clothes like that.
Breakup with him if there I anything I can't stand its conservative guys.. Urghhhh...
U have to deal with his calature being way different than ours. Girls are covered up over there & don't flaunt there bodys at all.
It's not like I'm wearing a bikini. The point is it's SUPER HOT I will die from the heat!
Ya I know what U mean , I'd love to see U in A Bikini thow !!!
"This is the US"
Newsflash lady the US is one of the most Christian nations in the world.
lololololol we're talking about conservative level here.