girlfriend wants me to go on a double date with her friend that I hate. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, she was supposed to have a girls night with this girl. Now her friend wants to have a double date with her new "boyfriend", I don't want to go. This girl sucks, she is selfish, has stolen from me, and even tried to get my girlfriend to leave me. She doesn't take care of her son, and is just an overall terrible person. My girlfriend even stopped hanging out with her for a long time. The only reason my girlfriend hangs out with her is because she doesn't have any other friends. I have given this girl so many chances, and she has ruined all of them.

I told my girlfriend I don't want to go, and she should just have a girls night with her. But now she is mad and saying if I don't go she won't go to an event this weekend that we already planned with my mom. My girlfriend backs out of shit all the time, and now she is giving me shit about it. She missed my mom's bday just a while ago cause she didn't "feel like going", shouldn't I be able to do the same?

I feel like I don't owe her friend anything. I really don't want to waste my Friday night with them. I feel like it is selfish to make me hang out with this girl considering our past interactions. Her friend doesn't even like me, she treats me like a third wheel when we do hang out.

Should I just go? Stick with my "no". Or maybe even dump my girlfriend for always bailing on me, and then getting mad when I do the same? It really pisses me off that she is using this time with my mom against me.

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Also, we have been dating for almost 2 years. We live together for the last year or so. I am 29, she is 27.

[Boredandconfused]

there's gotta be a little compromise and a little sacrifice in a relationship. If she's not willing to suck it up and do things she doesn't exactly "want" to do with you then I don't see what you should have to in return. Especially when it comes to family. If my boyfriend bailed on something family oriented because he just didn't feel like going, I'd be pretty upset. Although my family lives 3500 km away from me so it's a big deal when I do get to see them. Gotta pick your battles. If she's worth it you'll go, if she's not you'll cut ties.

[noisette91]

look at you, you're so mad you're actually hinking about dumping her.. that'ss telling. Don't go, she's trying to force you into doing things you don't wanna do avec though she doesn't act the same way. I suggest you tell her that not only you're not going, but you don't like being pushed around and her threatening and bailing on you is making you feel very annoyed, and that in other words.. you two have a problem. Then tell her to enjoy her time out with her "friend" while you think about what her petty behaviour means to you two.

[Crazyinlove2003]

I think she is being petty as HELL using your mom against you in a odd way. But also agree you don't have to like her friend. I would suggest going and trying to ignore friend maybe try to get to know the dude? Situation sucks :(

[cheapshotbob]

well i would not go for dumping her i would at least tell her if if she can't except the fact you dont like the girl and that she can't be at your family things. she knows where the door is because your not gonna be around someone who is gonna ruin any plans you had for the night later on. which is what will happen if you end up going on this double date.

[HGStebbins]

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[JoeCensored]

Say no and let her back out. Tell her not to invite you to hang out with this girl again.

[LordBlakeh]

Just go and have a nice relaxing drink, the evening will pass before you know it.

[bcromartie]

Just go.