My friends with benefits wants to meet my parents?

[Anonymous]

So I've been hooking up with this guy for about two months. It was pretty clear that it wasn't going to be a relationship because he's moving to France and I'm moving to another state. While I do enjoy the sex and hanging out with him I'm not sure I would have slept with him if I thought he wanted a relationship. I am still getting over an abusive relationship and didn't want anything serious. Today he asked if he could meet my parents which kind of freaked me out. He started talking about changing his plans and moving to WA with me instead of France even though he hates Seattle. I'm not sure what to do... I do care about him and don't want to hurt him but he's clearly seeing this relationship much differently than I do.

What should I do/say? He leaves in a month... should I just let it ride until then?

[Bananna]

N! Tell him the truth whatever he has lined up in France takes time... setting up the address etc etc whatever reason he has there he still would have to cancel them within 2 wk. So you gotta do it within 2 wks from now so he has time to to call them and cancel or continue his plan. If you don't want him that way... tell him go out to the park Not a restaurant so you can actually talk comfortably but not in a room were you can provoke sex. Tell him I want THIS, THIS AND THIS. If he wants something else you don't want... then say ok it's over... everything over it was gunna end anyway but don't ruin someone else's happiness. Like for me. I hate my ex. But I never wished him bad luck or made a road block for him in life because karma will bite you back and lastly it's just inhumane to wanna ruin someone else's plans because of miscommunication etc. So just talk to me calmly :)

[Alohaloli]

He could meet them only as a friend of yours. In a more casual way like if you all go to a music festival and you plan to run into each other or a swap meet. Or if it your birthday and you have a mixed gathering of friends and family.

[Jxpxtxr]

Have a conversation with him and make things clear - I ended a friends with benefits relationship I had with the help of long distance but if you can't wait for that to happen I'd say have a talk with him now.

[Realistic07]

Well before I can answer your question I need to ask a few myself. Now I et you got threw a though relationship with and abusive man that really sucks and I'm sorry it happened to you but clearly this guy is the same as your ex. So knowing what you do guy your having sex with why is it you don't want more with him and if you could have more what would you want?

[Fearless_banana]

Yep that's your boyfriend.. not friends with benefits

[42ndstreet]

Uhm.

Any guy that encourages you to meet his family is likely interested in more than just a “Friends with Benefits” arrangement. From where we stand he’s into you. It’s important for you to have this conversation with yourself and truly ask yourself how you feel about this man.

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[Anonymous]

Just because he wants to meet your parents does not mean he wants a relationship. Actions speak louder than words. I know there are rare cases where a friends with benefits becomes a relationship but relationships do not start on the basis of just sex.

Guard your heart
If he wanted something serious then he would have made you his girlfriend to begin with

[Azara]

H e can't make her his girl friend. That's something they would have to decide together. She has to want to be a girl friend in the first place. She said she did not want a relationship. They are moving to different place. Except notches thinking if changing his plans.

[LittleMissCuriousity]

The same thing happened with my last friends with benefits. My recommendation is to break it off, unless you feel comfortable reminding him what the arrangement was supposed to be.

[Afro-dite9]

Just reading that question... I'm LMFAO girl YOU ARE FU*KED big time! He isn't going anywhere, might as well intro him as your future husband as well.

[queen_in_the_streets]

Remind him off what y'all had agreed on in the beginning.

[Deft_maiden]

Why does he has an impression that the topic is on the table?

[Ginnyweasley97]

He wants to be more than FWBs make it clear you don't have feelings for him if that's how you feel.

[Intraluminal]

Be clear with him about what you want. He's missing your subtle messages. Be clear.

[datgirl]

Tell him if you really don't like him. But I say don't lose a good guy like him he clearly appreciates you as more than just a fuck buddy.

[Offthelist]

End it asap. Dont drag it out

[abundantlyrich]

Its up to you, you slept with him

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he might want more than benefits

[Kels1987]

just be honest with him