You should give him gifts in return to show your appreciation if you feel bugged by it, and just reassure him that he doesn't have to pay for you to be appreciated.
Should I speak up and tell him how I feel... or should I sit back and feel upset? I was so guilty I paid for both of us. Unfortunately... when he told me not to--it made me feel even guiltier!!
Well we can't have you feeling bad.. So you need to explain to him that you feel guilty with him always paying for things and that you would like to start to split it ooor you can shut off those feelings and enjoy the situation.. But i understand on a personal level what your going through so if you want to PM we can discuss this further
I'm a superb artist... and I love writing stuff... maybe I can write a note about how much I appreciate him and love him. :) I could draw him something too, people at a restaurant? Lol.
Well when i was younger i was that sweet Mr Nice Guy.. After years of abuse and then a marriage that ended with me losing everything that iv worked my life for.. i said fuck it im tired of being the slave in the relationship just to risk losing it all because she feels like im away at work to much.. So fuck it ill try my best to enjoy life as much as i can
Yeah... but I'm not abusive to him and I don't need his money. I'd be fine paying for myself occasionally. Though, since he's so traditional, I doubt he would let me. I should be more grateful that he cares... :(
I just wish my Dad didn't make me feel, growing up, that I should always be independent. I guess my Daddy issues are also ruining my thoughts about who pays/who doesn't... :)
:) I love cooking... but he's picky and he's not into vegetables (unless they are invisible in the pasta sauce)... lol and I'm not into cooking meat. I'm going to use a blender next time. I don't know... it just upsets me that he doesn't like what I love to make...
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Lol! 80k is not gold digger material. He doesn't make enough for you to call yourself that.
Lol he makes 14$ an hour... To be a gold digger you gota date someone who's rich.
Hahaha nope your just an average chick. Gold diggers mess with dudes who are millionaires or billionaires and just are with them cuz of their money.
No, of course not. Being with someone who has money does not equal being a gold digger whereas being with someone because they have money does.
You should give him gifts in return to show your appreciation if you feel bugged by it, and just reassure him that he doesn't have to pay for you to be appreciated.
No, because you love him too ! You were with him before his job!
A gold digger is someone who intentionally seeks out men with lots of money who they'd never date otherwise just so they can be taken care of...
Yes but dont feel bad iv done it also except i dont feel guilt about it..
Should I speak up and tell him how I feel... or should I sit back and feel upset? I was so guilty I paid for both of us. Unfortunately... when he told me not to--it made me feel even guiltier!!
Well we can't have you feeling bad.. So you need to explain to him that you feel guilty with him always paying for things and that you would like to start to split it ooor you can shut off those feelings and enjoy the situation.. But i understand on a personal level what your going through so if you want to PM we can discuss this further
I'm a superb artist... and I love writing stuff... maybe I can write a note about how much I appreciate him and love him. :) I could draw him something too, people at a restaurant? Lol.
Good! thats actually a very cute idea and it will make him smile..
:) Why don't you feel guilty about being this way? :/
Well when i was younger i was that sweet Mr Nice Guy.. After years of abuse and then a marriage that ended with me losing everything that iv worked my life for.. i said fuck it im tired of being the slave in the relationship just to risk losing it all because she feels like im away at work to much.. So fuck it ill try my best to enjoy life as much as i can
Hmm.
you know what i mean tho?
Yeah... but I'm not abusive to him and I don't need his money. I'd be fine paying for myself occasionally. Though, since he's so traditional, I doubt he would let me. I should be more grateful that he cares... :(
So change =P
I just wish my Dad didn't make me feel, growing up, that I should always be independent. I guess my Daddy issues are also ruining my thoughts about who pays/who doesn't... :)
:( I need a new way of thinking :(
Hey you know dont be to hard on yourself change takes time but at least you have the desire to do better with this man..
Sounds like a decent guy to me. Many would've have figured they didn't need you when they started making money and hauled ass.
No Your Not You Love him For Him not his Money a Gold Digger only loves someone for their money
Just tell him you want to pay seperately. It should be easy as that.
I could occasionally, but he might still get weird about it :(
no, because you feel guilty; I never feel guilty when someone spend money on me I like it.
you're not a gold digger
I voted A. Start buying him dinner, clothes etc.
I forgot to add that I buy us ice cream... and I DID buy him dinner!!! He's TELLING me NOT to worry about him buying us food... though...
I actually bought him some stuff before he got a job!!
No reason to stop. When I go to my very generous bf's house I bring candles or dinner to cook or drinks.
:) I love cooking... but he's picky and he's not into vegetables (unless they are invisible in the pasta sauce)... lol and I'm not into cooking meat. I'm going to use a blender next time. I don't know... it just upsets me that he doesn't like what I love to make...
Yes you should be ashamed!!!
Shame...
Shame
Shame
Shame
You're funny. Maybe he can punish me LOL.
If you're hot, I will like to punish you...
Everyone should pay his/her own money
No lol you are not a gold digger.
nah. you're not.
Wut is money?
Yea you're
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