Is he figuring himself out so he can be ready for a relationship or am I being played with?

[Anonymous]

So been 'seeing' this guy for about 2 months now. We tell each other everything and are very intense with each other. He tells me how beautiful, amazing, wonderful I am, sings love songs too me, but has also told me he is not ready for another relationship after his ex (12 months ago). we have had sex once but when I tried to act casual about it he got a little offended and said he felt like it didn't mean anything to me. I asked him to not say some of the things he says to me cause they make me think this is heading somewhere its not cause he has already told me he is not ready for another relationship. but he replied I didn't say this wouldn't be anything, just not right now, but I don't want you waiting for me. What does that mean? what should I do, I feel like a yo yo being pulled close and then thrown down.

[Anonymous]

When I saw sex a red flag popped up in my head. Scratch that, a whole army of people in red capes waving red flags popped up in my mind.

He told you he's not ready for a relationship, yet he's ready to be entangled in implications of an actual relationship by having sex? Drop that boy like a bad habit.

He may tell you everything (how would you know that unless you're a mind reader or a human polygraph?), how beautiful you are, how amazing and wonderful you are and sing till his lungs burst...but that doesn't mean a single thing. Because he already spelled it out for you: He doesn't want a relationship, he wants all of the eases (booty) of a relationship without being in one. He wants physicality, not a real emotional connection.

He's distancing himself from you by telling you not to wait for him.

Basically, he means: I want sex, not a relationship with you, so don't get too clingy, but don't get me wrong, I like the sex.

Good luck.

[Asker]

Yeah I agree on most levels..... but that didn't bother me so much as I knew where I stood...... but then was confused when he got so hurt when I acted Casual about it all.

[Opinion Owner]

He probably got 'upset' and 'hurt' because he wanted to make himself look like the innocent bystander and you were the vindictive one out for sex.

[Asker]

Hhhmmmm didn't think of it like that. I would prefer not to be jaded in my images of men, but looks like I will have to consider it.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he is not ready for a relationship or still thinking about his X.

Yoyo feeling is not good. I would talk to him to try to resolve or move on to save yourself.

When he ready after having space, I then would consider.

[Superslimshady1]

He is really confussed he is basicly saying that he doesn't want a relation ship right now But at the same time he does. Hope this help take a look at mine asap thnxa