I feel like I'm invisible to guys

Question

Almost every time I go out guys are always hitting on my friends and not me. The only exception seems to be the sleazy guys who'll hit on anything with a pulse.  I feel like I blend into the wall paper or something because my friends are always getting hit on and I'm somewhere watching them get hit on.  How do I change this and get guys to notice me?  This isn't like a recent thing either this has always been the case.  It'd just be nice to feel like I'm at least desirable to someone.

audrinamarie · Accepted Answer

I know exactally how you feel! This use to happen to me all the time. I noticed that once I stopped caring about my friends being hit on by all these guys, I became more confident, which attracted more guys. I still have my moments where I get a little jealous of my friends have wonderful long relationships, but I get over it.(: Oh! Also after I stopped caring about my friends constantly being hit on, I realized that I DONT WANT THOSE TYPES OF GUYS! I noticed that the guys just wanted one thing, and one thing only.

Now, how do you dress compared to your friends? If they show as much as they can, and you keep more covered up then guys are going to go for your friends. I'm not saying to go and wear slutty clothes, but a little cleavage is okay.(:

Just stay confident!

bobblehead · Accepted Answer

dont listen to the boobage stuff.

Disgusting. You know to be honest I had this issue for a while. So I do know how you feel. My friend is gorgeous. I've been told I'm gorgeous too. I have my doubts like anybody else. But the thing is around her I feel so bland. Because I adore her. So I probably think all the boys chat her up but they chat us up.

AND to add aswell. I was also involved in a situation with a guy that put off the I'm not interested vibe. and I think guys can sense stuff like that.

AND another point. What I've learned is that once you stop looking. They flock to you. No lie. I got thi guy away and wanted to ahe a girls night and I met an amazing guy. so what you gona do. haha

Juliana77 · Accepted Answer

haha you really sounds like me, you are not alone lol well, maybe its just the way you behave (shy?), your facial expression (more serious?), they are talkative, and you not that much? they dress in a different way? ...it could be many things... you should identify the problem, and then work on whatever you think is that is blocking guys to approach you...

BlackSuperman · Accepted Answer

I see this a lot- in real life, and in social networking groups... look at it this way, at least ur not putting up with some sorry-ass knucklehead who just wants sex... but nonetheless, it'd be nice to get noticed. Be grateful that you're kinda under th radar for now.Now's the time to do what you do best... whatever it is, do it... don't worry about these boneheads.. would you trade places with those gals who are having all kinda trouble because they opened their legs to some sucker who 'pumped and dumped', left em like a chump?

sinful1620 · Accepted Answer

As much as girls like to think they're better at reading nonverbal cues, guys are extremely good at picking out the girls who are stuck up and bitchy. If you're repeatedly being passed over, that'd be why... well, either that or you're 200 pounds overweight or have some massive deformity, but that's another issue.

lildivagurl09 · Answer

smile smile smile... guys are attracted to girls that look like they are having a good time and enjoying themselves. Also, guys are scared to approach a group of girls when there are like 5 of them. It's intimidating because they are scared of rejection and if they get rejected infront of 5 girls then theyll be mortified. So just keep a smile on your face and look approachable

Memoryfalls · Answer

I could be you - just ignore all the guys hitting on your friends, be independant, play it cool and just have fun, this should work...not always but usually.

If your friends just overpower you with their presence you just have to accept that you're sending off a different vibe than them. If you accept that and yourself, guys will be more attracted to you.

Hope that helps!

Anonymous · Answer

be confident and do something to make yourself feel attractive (start working out if you don't already, get your hairdone, get a cute outfit). don't sit on the sidelines waiting for a guy to come up to you, have fun and party and they will be drawn to you

okay I saw your pic...just wondering...what type of guys are hitting your friends and what type of guy do you want?

bjs09 · Answer

Stop watching them and go talk to some guys. Be confident, no one wants to hit on the girl in the corner pouting because her friends are out there talking to guys. Just be yourself, be confident and get some d***. I believe in you!

anonymousdude2 · Answer

You could be fat, ugly, or a bitch.  Or 2 or 3 of the above.  Therefore guys will avoid you.  Just being honest.

BPMon · Answer

Don't trouble yourself about that too much. It's usually the guys who are too shy to approach you. There's not really much that you can do, if the guys are introverts, but you can always dress attractive to get the bold guys.

katherineisrofl · Answer

Just wanna say, I'm the exact same size as you as in boobage height and weight. *highfive* but I don't know I don't think appearance has much to do with it. Maybe smile more :D

Basto · Answer

I don't think there's something wrong with you ! even without knowing you ! It's just the case of everyday, they just pretend to be coool and funny with other girls while they are not, this is ridiculous, just be confident of yourself, it will make them feels something's is special about u, and it will be better :)

Birchy915 · Answer

Maybe they don't think that you are that sort of girl? try going out naked, I'm sure people will hit on you then :D

Anonymous · Answer

I would like to know what you look like...lol.   Maybe you aren't noticing guys checking you out as well as some other girls.  Jealousy seems like a big problem.

Anonymous · Answer

I hate when that happens ://

I have the same problem sometimes too. Except it's always the same friend, and she's three years younger than me, and I'm 15. So it's totally a bummer, because it's obvious she has a prettier face. She still has the body of a kid. This guy a year older than me asked her for her number and I felt so awkward.

I don't really have an answer to your question.., I just thought I could sympathize ( I think that's the word I'm looking for.

sunshine2 · Answer

i want to see your picture... the photobucket link doesn't work! :) pleeaseee.

paulio2498 · Answer

show some boobage. this could help.

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