My boyfriend is obsessed with math?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is a successful statistician working for a transit company where he writes procedures and algorithms for planning out optimal bus schedules and bus routes and whatnot. He is filthy rich, 27, super hot and super smart.

The problem is that he is obsessed with math and his job and he doesn't even care about me. I have never been this attracted to a guy before because he's so driven and passionate and smart but it's starting to become a bit too much for me.

He's way smarter than me and I constantly feel dumb around him. He also doesn't really care about having sex with me and he gets looks EVERYWHERE we go. I don't think he even realizes that every girl wants his dick and bad. I just don't feel like I can get connected to him because I know that if we break up he can easily find a replacement. I just want to feel like a man is a bit vulnerable to me, it just makes me feel more secure.

He has straight up admitted to me that he does not care about dating and relationships and love and that he will never marry me or anyone. Initially I thought I could change him but I'm starting to realize that he's actually serious

I just don't get how someone doesn't need or want love in his life and how he's so happy doing what he's doing? Should I leave him?

[KnightCastor]

Well, if you're hoping for marriage and a future... You won't get it with this man. Unless you are willing to waste a lot of your time and effort staying with him in the hopes that he will change his mind.

There are PLENTY of people out there who don't put any value in marriage, love, dating and relationships.. including myself. It's something I was never particularly interested in and it's just not my ultimate goal in life. He would probably be happier being alone and just having a casual sex partner, or the occasional person to talk to.

[Anonymous]

I'm obsessed with math too, I love doing big equations and memorizing formulas. Crossing my fingers to get into honors math. Anywho, people like him just want to focus on what their passionate right now, and that's cool. Maybe finding someone else who's not looking to pursue their career just yet.

[Astoriana]

Yes, because you will never be supportive of him. He deserves better.

He's been honest with you from the beginning. You thought you could change him. People do not change unless they want to. He very clearly doesn't want to. Do not waste your energy trying to extract blood from a stone.

[sangwoo]

👏👏👏

[Tron5678]

He is too busy with his maths and probably only cares about himself and Maths. You should sit down with him and talk to him about your problem and don't be scared because more you keep it yourself the worse it gets and if there is no change just leave him. Also, I suspect he is on some dopamine stimulant ( drugs)

[Asad1ONE1]

Wow could be true. Impossible that a guy isn't intimately or romantically connected enough to his girlfriend. Could be dopamine. A low libido allows you to focus on other things.

[Asker]

@Asad1ONE1 Nope he's extremely good in bed. Isn't afraid to try things that most guys (tbh) didn't have the balls to try. That's probably why I'm so addicted to him. He has all sorts of fetishes and kinks and isn't embarrassed to experiment with (on) me

[Asker]

It's just that he legit doesn't feel the need to get romantic and I'm starting to feel that it's because he knows full well that he has all the options in the world

[Tron5678]

So tell does he get annoyed if someone proves him wrong in maths or any incident if ever occured?

[Asker]

I don't know. I'm a paralegal student so I don't know anything about math

[Asad1ONE1]

Good in bed but "doesn't feel the need". Weird.

[NerdInDenial]

This is who he is. He loves his job and his job is his life. If you do not like it, then leave. You cannot change people who do not want to be changed. Love leads to irrational actions; thus, he wants to avoid it.

[Atreyu]

irrational actions lmao

[KnightCastor]

@Atreyu I said the same thing.."irrational" actions?😂

[Asker]

@KnightCastor LOL I saw that too

[Atreyu]

wait so... he doesn't particularly care about sex, won't marry you and doesn't seem to care about you.
why are you even with him?

[Asker]

Because he's so stable, he's so committed to his work and it's so sexy

[Atreyu]

lots of men are stable.

basically this is the equivalent of being attracted to a television character. you need to come back to reality

[UnknownPersona]

Hell of a guy, he understood the value of happiness, how happiness exist within us, and he understood that dreams and passions are too important for ones happiness. Personally, i think that most people don't know how to love, either way they are too dependent or obsessive about it. I think that he must focus on what he wants to accomplish for his dreams etc... but he should have some time for you as you are his partner, and you should be supportive to him and he should do the same thing. Now if you're feeling empty or anything else because of that, i'll tell you, you're just being selfish cause you would be unable to complete yourself, whether by having dreams or anything else. If you find that somehow the relationships isn't balanced, you should talk to him. But no one need LOVE when LOVE is within us. When you can love yourself, you don't look for love anymore.

[Anonymous]

Show him this:
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If he doesn't bone you, money back guaranteed! 😧👌💦

[KnightCastor]

LMFAO!!!😂😂😂😂👍

[WarlandWriter]

You don't sound very happy in this relationship.
Try and talk to him about it (again). If he is not willing to change anything, he is not the right person for you to be in a relationship with.

[TheUglyMonk]

You're not looking for the same things in life, you want a relationship and he wants to follow his passion. He loves math and it'll always be his priority.
Have a final chat with him before you try to leave him and see if he'll agree to spare more time for you if not then it's your call whether you want to stick with him or not.

[jacquesvol]

Well, sounds like my son but as HS school teacher in Europe , his income is lower, even with a ph dr in math and physics. But he always had a girlfriend or wife. since his 17.
He has two lovely daughters now.

[xButterflyKisses87x]

Leave him, its obvious your not happy in the relationship

[sangwoo]

He's aromatic. Dont try to push something like this on him. If he isn't what your looking for then see other people.

[sangwoo]

sorry, i meant he might be aromatic. some people just literally dont care for romance.

[This_is_my_username]

If you're not happy leave him. It doesn't feel like you're compatible and he's not interested. And you feel down around him. It's a recipe for disaster.

[Justinaveragedude]

The devil speaks in arithmetic and equations! Run! Run like the wind!!
Run to the hills! Run for your life! (Music reference)

Yeah, math has fried his brain. Go find someone less numerically based and find love.

[sadgirl2002]

Dress up as a calculator so he'll pay more attention to you

[Asker]

Lol wtf

[Asad1ONE1]

“does not care about dating and relationships and love”? How is he considered your BF?

[SwolDishWasher]

This is better than the pink anon whos boyfriend is obsessed with her tits.

[gamercookie]

Obsessions makes relationship harder. I know that cause i have video game obssession and it ruined my life all the time.

[BeautifulPromisesx]

So why is he with you?

[Asker]

I have no fucking clue. I literally think he doesn't care and I am just entertaining him

[BeautifulPromisesx]

Girl listen.. You're a queen.. A what? A mothereffin QUEEN. You deserve nothing but the best. This man might be hot, smart and everything but if he doesn't love you nor does he ever plan on locking you down, don't you think you deserve better? Walk away and you'll find the man of your dreams who will be better than him. I promise. Look at my username, would I lie to you? Beautiful promises. If you want you can eat ice cream and cry with me. I like ice cream.

[Asker]

Honestly, I don't to be brainwashed by that "I'm a queen" bullshit. I don't feel like it's helping women in any way. I believed that I deserved the best so I got the best and I'm just unhappy now

[Asker]

I def appreciate you trying to help out though

[BeautifulPromisesx]

Fine more ice cream for me.

[Asker]

Haha

[Ephemera1]

Look at her username. She wouldn't lie to you. I say do something spontaneous, catch him off guard, and put homeboy in his place. Have a beautiful promises day.

[metalsucks2]

Maths

[SupMates]

He sounds dull. Math is a dull subject.