If my girlfriend offers me a "hall pass" is it a trap?

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My girlfriend caught me looking at other girls and she the jealous type so we had a quick little fight and she offered me a week long hall pass instead of going on a break. We've both seen the movie and she thinks this might help our relationship but I'm a bit skeptical.

redeyemindtricks · Accepted Answer

You know what you do with bluffs, right?
You call them.

You should take up the offer (... nominally, at least). And then you should use it to tease the living *fuck* out of her.
• Comment randomly on women you see together (hm, mb I should use my "hall pass" with her?)
• Even better, involve HER in the discussion ahah. ("Y'know, I just can't rlly decide. Can you help me pick out a woman?" <3

Or, best of all, invite her to do the legwork for ya -- and frame it as for HER benefit.
"So yeah, that woman, she's pretty hot. But, she needs to know this would just be a play thing, and we all know how much it would sound like bullshit if I just roll up there like, 'yh ma gurl's fine with me playin' around a bit'. So bby... how about you break that ice? Tell her it's ma birthday!"

Hehe.

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And oh, the fun times you could have flipping this dynamic around on HER, should you ever "catch" her in any sort of mild flirtation with some cute boy.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Forget it being a trap. Why would you want to continue a relationship with somebody who says it's okay? Plus you clear just said that she is the jealous type, and you must like jealous girls then. I wouldn't stick around for somebody like her. Plus, anybody who tells you that, obviously wants to break up with you. Yes, it's a trap. But now don't be surprised if you never took it and she cheats on you. Don't stay in a relationship like this. Nothing but drama will come out of it.

samhradh_leannan · Accepted Answer

Unless you both want a true open relationship, it's probably a trap. Even if your girlfriend thinks she's okay with you using the pass, she may feel differently if you actually use it. In a healthy relationship, you shouldn't need a hall pass, anyway. Ask her why she wants to give you the pass, and see if you can get to the bottom of the problem.

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

That is a total trap. If she's the jealous type, knowing you went through with it just reaffirms to her that she isn't important to you enough for you to not want to just fuck around. She'll use it as an excuse to break up with you.

NotInTheBox · Accepted Answer

I haven't seen the movie but I can guess what its about

I'm guessing the plot is

girl offers guy hall pass to hook up with girls for x amount of time and at the end of it he realizes he only wants her. How romantic.

She did offer it, but she's the jealous type. But first are you SURE she wasn't joking. She wasn't saying it sarcastically. If she was and you act on that you can toast your relationship goodbye.

If it was serious it could be a test. It sounds like a test. If you value this relationship I would not do this.

There's a curb your enthusiasm (great show) where Cheryl offers Larry David one free hookup (as a tenth anniversary gift). But that's a. fiction b. less insecurity. And even so I'm not sure how well that works out.

I would not act on it unless you want an excuse to be with somebody else- in which case forget hall pass, forget break just break up

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Getting the picture?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

YOU BET YOUR ASS it's a trap!!!

This_is_my_username · Answer

Lmfao it's a trap. Especially if she's the jealous type. If you take the offer you'll be screwed because she'll think that she's not enough for you and you get off on looking at other women and she'll leave you! Or worse hang it on your head till whenever.

Girly1710 · Answer

Probably what she wants is for you to both end up choosing not to sleep with other people and renew your commitment to each other like what happened in the movie.

That's what I would want but I'd never give my boyfriend a hall pass to begin with.

Anonymous · Answer

In your case it sounds like a trap.
Depending on the girl it isn't always: my girlfriend gave me a pass to hook up with girls while I was away in Europe for a while (obviously I did so a lot and it was the bomb) and when I got back it was totally fine.
But yeah, in your case, it's a trap man.

MadeInAmerica · Answer

It's a trap. But if you are thinking about it, it means you really don't care about her and the break up she will surely follow with after the week is over will be for the best anyway.

SaltAndLime · Answer

No woman who is happy in her relation wants their guy to pick another female. What she wants is you to pick her while you are given the choice of anyone.

rsstanford · Answer

If anyone is the relationship offers a hall pass then that means they want to fuck someone else. Or they already have or they just want to use it against you to fuck someone else. It's still a trap.

Anonymous · Answer

she is playing mind games with you and you are no mind reader. if you dont want to play teenage games, dont be concerned that if its a ''trap'' she told you to go look for other women, and you are free to do so as she said. so go, have fun. See how she reacts

HonestGirlAlways · Answer

If you take it she's gonna understand that as a sign that her and your relationship is not enough for you, so don't. Just tell her she's all you need or break up with her already.

SteppingOnRoses · Answer

The question here isn't if it is a trap or not The question here is do you want to take it? And if so, why would you?

madhatters4 · Answer

i don't know if it's a trap. she could fully intend on letting you have it, but hall passes rarely work out as a benefit to a relationship

EvilAngel114 · Answer

It's most certainly a trap. Choose your next move wisely.

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

It's a trap

Ganbygail12 · Answer

She is totally trying to see how you react and make her decision based on your actions... Be carful!

Rissyanne · Answer

Of course it's a trap. Why would you want to do it anyway?

Justinaveragedude · Answer

Nuff said

scooogy · Answer

Already the fact that you realized that it might be a trap is what she intended you to think like. At least she wants you to come to the point where you realize that she's the one and only for you.

Anonymous · Answer

It means she's already done it with someone else...

Words_and_Wisdom · Answer

If a girl is that insecure I wouldn't date her to be honest.

DizzyAster · Answer

Definitely a trap. Jealous types don't offer that shit!!!

Anony123--__-- · Answer

What's a hall pass in terms of relationships

Ellie_copter · Answer

Its a Trap. Don't go along with that.

DP0122 · Answer

I wouldn't do that shit no matter what.

jpick00 · Answer

She's the jealous type. It's a trap

Malikai96 · Answer

Its 100% a trap.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably considering how women are.

DonkeyRick69 · Answer

It's a trap.

Mrchino · Answer

Trap!!!

emerald77 · Answer

Take it.

catelyntje · Answer

It's a trap

Waffles731 · Answer

its a trap

Anonymous · Answer

it is a trap

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