Girls, can you see yourself falling in love with a shy guy?

[sonic241928]

Let's say he isn't boring/likes doing fun things, has a lot of interests, but isn't necessarily the life of the party.

Why or why not? Please explain.

Yes

No

It depends. (Explain?)

[Professor_Zoom]

Just from a guys point of view, you shouldn't even give a damn. You are who you are. One of my past girlfriends was hot. And I don't mean hot from my point of view. I mean hot as in she gives guys boners just by walking past them. You needed the jaws of life to open her mouth though. I thought that I was the quiet one. I found myself asking her if she was okay at parties because she was so quiet. We could be at her place and the whole day will go by with only a few words said. She was a complete homebody. But she was down for anything. It could be Friday night and I can say, "let's go to the beach right now, get a room, and spend all day tomorrow on the sand. Don't worry about packing. We'll buy shorts and a bikini for you while we're down there." She would say lets go. I've had more fun with her than with the outgoing girls. So don't worry about being shy. As long as you're not a total bore then you're fine.

[sonic241928]

Pretty cool story. But would you agree that it's somewhat easier for a shy girl than it would be for a shy guy? Guys are generally expected to be the leaders, like you were in that situation.

[Professor_Zoom]

Boring is boring. It doesn't matter if you are leading or following. Even if guys are generally expected to be the leaders, if the person you are leading doesn't want to do anything and is always like, "No I don't want to do that. I don't like doing that. Why would you want to do that," then where is the fun in that. It's a reversal of the role but it's still the same.

[papasmurf_]

With so many girls liking shy guys, you think it wouldn't be so hard to find a gf?

[sonic241928]

You would think!

[bobbi789]

I dated a shy guy once, and the only problem I had was that he never opened up. I couldn't get to know him because he wasn't talkative, and he didn't even tell me he liked me or anything. (Or when he told me one of his relatives died, he never brought it up again. I tried to get him to talk about it because I was really concerned, but I just couldn't.) When it ended, I basically felt like we had never dated. That was the main issue, so it's something to keep in mind if you're shy.

But, shy guys are fine! I still wouldn't mind having a shy boyfriend, just make sure you talk to her and let her know what's going on with you.

[aly-marie]

As long as he can get out of his shell enough to catch my attention. Many shy guys won't even introduce themselves to a girl they're interested in, and so she never really gives him a chance. I would say that's a shy person's biggest obstacle (it was a big problem for me too).

I'm sure I could possibly fall in love with a shy guy, but it would be a much more difficult relationship because I'm pretty shy too. I've only ever dated guys who are pretty outgoing and social because they were able to pull me out of my shell and get me to try new things. But if a shy guy can do that as well, it shouldn't be a problem.

[sonic241928]

I'm interested, what kind of things did the outgoing guys get you to try? You can message me if you wish.

[SeeFEyeyEssB]

If a man is shy because that is a part of who he is than I would gladly want to get to know him- as shyness is just a part of him that I'd accept.

But if he's shy because he's insecure that might hinder him from opening up around me, thereby nipping any relationship in the bud pretty quickly.

(Btw: I fell for a shy man once and he wound up talking SO much with me that I didn't percieve him as shy anymore (except I noticed he was still shy in social settings with other people- I guess he just had to get to know a person before he opened up with them). We had a great relationship for about a year. =)

[sonic241928]

Interesting story...many shy people are like that, myself included. Why did it end (if you want to share)?

How much would you require a shy guy to "open up" to you before a potential relationship is "nipped in the bud"?

[SeeFEyeyEssB]

I agree, many shy people are like that. I am not shy myself, but most of my friends are (opposites attract?). I actually love hanging out with you shy people because we compliment one another. Shy Guy was really cool, except he was terrified of the feelings he had for me (he'd never been in love before and was walready in his mid-late twenties). He just couldn't handle the intensity of emotion so he took off. I really loved the dude and I don't regeret any of it... but we don't talk anymore.

[usagichan]

It depends on what type of shyness he is, and if he's SO shy he never makes himself known to me. If a guy likes me but never approaches me or talks to me, I'm gonna assume he's not interested. If a guy is shy, but in the "I'm gonna stand in the corner and act bitter/like I'm better than everybody," then I'M not interested.

Lastly, my last ex described himself as shy... until you got a few drinks in him. Then he was super loud and super obnoxious. The contrast was too much for me. (Though there were other additional reasons it didn't work out.) It's okay to be shy, but don't use "shyness" as some sort of shield or excuse.

[Anonymous]

Definitely, the first guy I ever fell in love with was a shy guy. I like guys who have a quiet confidence, they`re sure of themselves but they don`t need to shout about it. I get turned off by guys who are too demonstrative of their confidence in themselves. Plus, shy guys tend to surprise you with how strong and determined they can be and they rarely feed you lines- which I really hate. Of course, the flip side is that sometimes I fall for a shy guy and I think he likes me too, but getting it out of him is like pulling teeth so sometimes I get discouraged and stop chasing. But in general, I can totally fall for shy guys.

[nickel]

I think shy and awkward boys are the cutest. I want to go and cuddle them and kiss them in the sweetest way possible. But since I am shy I cannot seem to make the first move, so I need someone who is brave enough to make a move once I have shown my interest.

[sonic241928]

That's awesome, that you like shy guys. But what kind of move would you want him to make, specifically?

[SCU2013]

i say no. because I am very wild and outgoing and I want someone that can be the same. now I absolutly believe opposites attract but I would just get bored if I was with a guy that wanted to sit at home all day because he's to shy to go out and meet other people

[randomgirl13]

Same here I completely agree

[SCU2013]

Thanks. lol I thought I was the only one hahaha most everyone on here has said they love shy guys

[sonic241928]

What if he's willing to go out and meet new people, not afraid to do fun or interesting things, but he just doesn't talk much?

[SCU2013]

Itd still probably be no. obviosly I would want a guy to have a conversation with me and other people

[biannnnnnn]

Yes! I can see myself fallin in love with a shy guy, because I'm shy. And they seem sweeter then the outgoing guys. I feel like since a shy guy is quiet he would be less likely to cheat. and it also seems like the shy guy would respect me more then an outgoing guy. But as long as he respects my body,mind,and spirit everything is GREAT! And shy guys are cute. Like I just wanna hug them. so why do you ask this question? are you shy? hehe just wondering. :)

[BeautifulxDisaster]

My boyfriend is very shy. I found it cute and rather intriguing. I was determined to find out more about him, it was almost a personal challenge I gave myself. Through perseverance, I found my one true love. We're even expecting our first child in a few months!

[alexis7]

a shy guy is not a bad thing! being too shy is bad though. like if I have to be the one to approach him, text him all the time, keep the conversation going, make all the moves, then I would get annoyed. also, guys who are too outgoing and loud are usually really annoying.

[hockeyrulesforever]

I have liked a shy guys for 5 years now and I still can't stop liking him... I love shy guys and the fact that they are not partiers. I like it when I talk to him because he is honest, mature, and smart. He doesn't try to do stupid things to fit in or impress people. He is himself and that's why I like him.

[dunc17]

For me, it depends on how confident they are in themselves. I like shy guys but I hate having to initiate things. If they don't show interest because they're too shy, it's really hard to keep with them because we have NOO idea what they're thinking! But if they could show signs of interest, I'd could definitly fall for a shy guy. I think I just prefer outgoing guys because I like to have someonee I can hold a conversation with.

[kiki8374]

I like shy guys. They can understand that it's OK to not have to spend every moment of the day talking or trying to impress other people. I also feel they are more honest because what they do say they are more likely to mean. On the other hand, as I am shy too, sometimes there can be awkward silences but I think shy people when they are with the right people (gfs/bfs/friends) they can be the sweetest, funniest people.

[thrash07]

For me, it would depend. I've never actually dated a shy guy before, so it's not a definite no, but I really like the outgoing type. I'm shy when I first meet someone, so it's good to have someone who can get me to open up.

[ambermarie]

the thing is you ain't gonna fall in love untill you get to know the person :D

im pretty shy and my boyfriends outgoing and at this point I feel more comfortable around him than anyone on this planet, and he feels the same toward me.

[icanbme]

the one thing that bothers me about shy guys is when I'm talking to him about whatever and someone else walks up and they go all quiet like we were talking about something we shouldn't be.

[Pancakes]

I voted no just because I'm a shy girl. How on earth would we ever communicate. I need someone outgoing.

[sonic241928]

What if the guy was shy at first, but as he got to know you, he grew more comfortable and talkative around you? Do you think a shy guy would understand you better than an outgoing guy?

[Pancakes]

It would be a veeeeery gradual process. I don't really think that being shy or outgoing would have to do much with whether they understand me or not.

[Yeahhbro]

That is the biggest lie ever. Because of that was true I would have a girlfriend. Second of all, girls expect to be approached, and well if you are shy that ain't happening!

[peace-love-couture]

Considering I am shy,I do tend to like shy guys.

All of the guys I've liked were shy.Not anti-social,just shy.

[Neckty]

I often fall for shy guys because I'm the total opposite and basically need someone to keep me grounded

[Basketball_Babe]

For me shy guys are better because I am so energetic. Being with them sorta evens me out.

[Amoss2012]

I met my boyfriend when he was surrounded by all our loud and outgoing friends, I'd say the fact he said little was why I wanted to get to know him more. I couldn't be happier :D

[saphirasilverwings]

Absolutely. My boyfriend is shy and it's no problem at all!