If you "friendzone" someone what are your reasons?

[AlongCameAlice]

apart from the obvious like not being attracted to them, if you don't count looks, what are some other things that mean you wouldn't see them as a potential partner?

[hayzlenut420libra]

Its because literally i feel no spark... Because i try not to focus on miniscule things like looks.. But if i go through the evening and we get along great and everything goes awesome. But in the end the fact that i just can't feel that spark... That connection you have when your in a relationship.. Well i chalk it up to being friends... there's been a couple that although despite my obvious attempts to not take it any further she makes those sexual advances.. Like the ass thrust into my genital region slight rubbing my cock with her ass or other such advance to show interest.. Well im a pleaser so i please but tell them after because i feel like im like every other ass hole just out there for the sex and will do or say anything to get it... Makes me hate myself for it so i have to level with her

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

I have a scoring system. She has to get 100 points or more to get out of the friend zone.

- I'm attracted to her +50
- She makes me feel good +10
- I have fun around her +5
- She's smart +5
- She's confident +5
- My friends like her +5
- My family likes her +5
- She has a good career +5
- She's my wife +100

[gwail]

When I was younger I would friend zone out of shyness. Like I wanted to date you but when you made a move I clamed up.

But these days I would friend zone someone u genuinely like your personality but don't find you sexually attractive. but I usually don't hang out with guys as friends if they are interested in me. So he would have to be hiding it well.

[Anonymous]

I will only friendzone IF I only think of you as a friend. There was one case though where I didn't follow my usual rules- a boy i liked confessed to me and i was going to accept but i then realized that we'd been friends for so long and it could ruin our friendship.

[jessie8889]

They act like my dam brother lol. I mean a lot of reasons why a guy gets put in the friend zone. Number one for me is he waited to long and now I dont want to lose that friendship if things don’t work.

[Eyes_On_Me]

Hmm... there are some factors. If she keeps talking about her ex or just got out of a relationship, I wouldn't want to date her because that means I'm the second choice. If someone is frequently unpleasant to be around or makes me feel bad often, then that's another reason for friendzoning.

[luvstoned4him]

Means I dont want to get involved with the person, I dont like them like that or I am not looking for a relationship.

[Kellibarbie]

Usually i end up being too friendly and it gets awkward but i have a gay guy who i like to confide in

[xCherryKizz]

Usually i friendzone when theyre not attractive to me or when they act like a creep and stalk me on the internet

[Kitten967]

I "friendzone" everyone, I prefer to be friends first then possibly date them.

[pandaunivers]

How everyone should date ^

[miamimike]

Wow, well that's one way to date. And I guess it's good?

Well for girls anyway. Not for just average looking guys. All I've ever been is "friendzoned". And guys don't usually get out of the friendzone once they are put there.

But all of my experiences with girls have just been bad. So yeah if a girl won't go out with me then I won't just hang out with her. I mean what's the point? She already said no, and getting to know her will just make me like her more.

So yeah that's just my perspective. But I've never met anyone that understood my point of view.

[pandaunivers]

The key to be friends with girls (who aren't assholes), then make moves if you want. Don't go straight to "wanna go out? No? I'll ask later."

[miamimike]

I don't ask girls to go out more then once. Ask once, don't force it or be creepy.

And no being friends with a girl you want to date doesn't work. She assumes that since you didn't make a move then you do want to just be friends.

And then you suddenly ask her out and she gets pissed that yet another guy"just wants to sleep with her".

I understand, because I've had this conversation many times before, that you cannot understand why I am saying this.

But I am a generally unattractive guy. So no I can't just take my time and find out if I really like her. Most likely she likes someone else already. So just ask her out get rejected and move on.

I'm not charming or funny I'm just vanilla, average. So yeah, I have it much harder then the rest of you guys when it comes to dating. But there's always someone who has it worse so I should just be happy.

[pandaunivers]

At least you have a positive outlook. Keep trying and you'll eventually find her given general probability.

[miamimike]

You sound sarcastic. Can't really tell since it's all text. But yeah, and where I live, no I won't be finding a date. There's no one I can ask out around me unless I find a bar. And that just doesn't sound appealing.

My only options are online, and I can promise you that will never work. Online is even more superficial then real life.

I just have to move if I'm even going to bother with this dating crap. And that will take a long time before I can move.

[pandaunivers]

The positive outlook was sarcastic, but the latter is quite literally true.

[miamimike]

It's true for you. Wow dude, you really don't understand what I'm saying.

Both my personality and my looks repel girls. I'm trying to change my personality since I have no choice. No one likes me when I am just me.

But a lifetime of being told to fuck off. Sometimes politely sometimes not. Has definitely led me to get negative when it comes to dating.

You would be too if you never ever even got one single date. No matter who you ask out or how little they know you.

The "numbers" game doesn't help when there is no one around that you can ask out.

But like I said, you have no clue what it's like to know from experience. That no one wants to date you.

[pandaunivers]

I know more than you think on having no one want to date you. No one wanted to touch me with a 10 foot pole until I walked into class with a 6 pack 2 years ago. I learned to focus on myself. Life is not dating. I don't know what it's like to have a terrible personality, unless mine sucks 🤷

[miamimike]

Tada. It's all about the looks. So all that keep trying stuff was kind of bs.
And my personality isn't terrible. Just average nothing special.
But really, wtf was with all that keep trying stuff. You know that doesn't work. Nothing changed until you worked out a LOT. And dieted.

[pandaunivers]

Haha, my point was I kept trying in both dating AND life. Keep trying, don't give up, period. If you give up on yourself and keep trying to date people, you're going nowhere.

[miamimike]

What? That's not what you said at all. Well maybe that's what you meant.

But when you said keep trying it really looked like you were saying keep trying to ask girls out.

And that's a waste of time. It'd be nice if people could just like you for who you are but that's not reality. So yeah you're right we need to just keep changing and trying to change until it finally works.

All this, be happy with yourself stuff is just bs. It's really be happy with yourself as long as we like you.

[Kuraj]

I don't friendzone people, I simply reject them.
Typically it is because I either don't find them attractive or I find them to be hoes.

[Insanyx12]

If they like getting hurt emotionally it physically I don't like hurting someone who is like a masochist it makes me sick to my stomach to think people find paining pleasing sexually or non-sexually

[chadi3269]

She could be not my type or just no enough connection between us

[JJBullfrog]

Friendzoning is a very horrible and heartless thing to do! You might as well as set your house on fire with your parents still inside.

[Anonymous]

There’s many reasons that could apply to different people. One thing could turn me off from one person whereas another turns me off from someone else.

[TallGuy96]

I'm the one usually that ends up in the friend zone, the girl in the pic likes the guy more than just a friend... he's bestfriend-zoned LOL

[alypoo]

Could be that you're just not yet ready to have a partner. Due to some experiences that youve previously had

[Anonymous]

If they don't share my religious beliefs, but I still like them (otherwise I wouldn't be friends with them).

[Aguamarina]

The only reason would be he's not attractive enough.

[fathead88]

the relationship is too right to mess up. you are highly attracted to her personality, but some reason not sexually. he is waiting till he is ready.

[singleand20]

Scared of being a relationship

[Banana-Girl]

No romantic feelings for them

[misticblood]

I don't friend zone people

[AlongCameAlice]

so you fancy all girls?

[misticblood]

Maybe

[StanleighK]

No real desire to be with them

[HamAndCheese]

Different personality types.