I think it’s a personal preference, everyone has one but at the same time I do think that there are some instances where men want specific submissive characteristics because they have a particular failing in that area themselves. Having a partner be submissive in those areas means they aren’t challenged to do better or change because she accepts what is in that position.
I think there are definitely types of men who are naturally dominant, and earn that position and respect through their hard work, natural ability and leadership qualities and that it feels safe to trust in him.
However the amount of men who think they embody those qualities is nowhere near the amount of men who actually display them, and those are the ones I worry would find someone to submit to them and utterly fail her
I feel like those people are - in much larger part (90% of them) - afraid of strong people in general and aren't ready to face the possibility of being challenged by a 'weaker sex'...
For the rest 10% it's a true fetish - they always want to be dominant and have a submissive partner.
Honestly speaking - I avoid men and women who want someone specifically and only submissive or dominant in their relationships... just because it feels (rightfully so) that they have some deep rooted personal issues they're trying to cure with such a specific relationship dynamic.
I don't thinks it's bad. I think a lot women may have a problem with it cause when they hear the word submissive they think it's being a doormat or being taken advantage of. Submissive doesn't necessary mean that, it just means you take step back in order to let your man lead the way sometimes. Cause that's what a man is suppose to do, he's suppose to protect, provide, build, and lead and there's nothing wrong with that as long as you don't let it go to your head.
You already know my answer Adonis... It’s biological to want a submissive woman. Masculine energy is dominant against feminine energy, if you want a more submissive woman then you’re normal. Now, it should be noted what the word “submissive” actually means because many will automatically jump to the word “slave” to define it. I believe a submissive woman trusts her man to lead and take control while also providing support. A woman who is submissive relinquishes herself to her man because she trusts him. I’ve been with a woman like this before and she was everything but weak. By the way, it’s natural for feminine energy to follow masculine energy hence why men don’t respond well to women leaders
Are we talking sexually submissive or non-sexually (in the general relationship?)
Yes and no. It is completely acceptable but I wouldn't call it natural any more than wanting a dominant girlfriend. People are simply different, so putting one preference over another by calling it natural seems misplaced to me. My general attitude in life is "whatever floats your boat" and so I don't think it's wrong or objectionable to want a submissive girlfriend. It's just what you like. No woman is forced to be with you if she doesn't tick like that.
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u There is a great diversity in our species. There are guys who want to dominate a girl and there are girls who want to be submissive. If they find each other and they can make each other happy, who are we to say that is wrong?
It's highly questionable. I think most guys who say that just want the advantage of more power in the relationship. If he finds a sucker that's willing to be a submissive then great, but I know I'd never want to be.
I think it depends on what level they are talking about.
A little dominance is very attractive in a man. A little submission is attractive in a woman. It's biological. Woman nurtures man protects. But a woman also can get as if not more angry... to protect her offspring.
Not at all. I want such a girlfriend too. Tho submissiveness for me mostly just means being submissive in bed. She can do mostly whatever she wants outside of it. In a general relationship, I'd want us both to make decisions with perhaps me taking the brunt of the hard decision making and her being my right-hand woman.
No it's fine. Like you said most guys want a sub girl anyway. It's biology. As long as your not treating her like a personal slave then all is good
I think if a guy seeks out a submissive girl that says something about his insecurities. If a guy Is a naturally dominant person, the girl he ends up with is going to be submissive by default. Largely because many women just prefer a dominant guy.
Mm no It's not. But I avoid guys who exclusively like submissive girls. Sometimes they mistakenly think I am one of them too, because I tend to be polite and nice person and when they see I am not submissive at all they get confused.
The thing I dislike about men who exclusively date submissive women is that they want their wives to stay at home, be with kids all the time, act all innocent and things like that. They are mostly conservative and less open minded. From my experience.
I have posted on this kind of thing before, but I think anybody who wants a girlfriend who's submissive in ALL things has insecurity issues.
Don't get me wrong, I like my girlfriends to be submissive in the bedroom (and I also like a fight about that on my hands, too), but not in public, and not in the rest of our life outside the bedroom. I like a challenge, and I think most guys who aren't lacking in self esteem would agree with this.
Well, it depends on what they mean. Do they want a girlfriend who is just a blind following sex toy they get to order around? I don't think that's very good.
Or do they want a fully capable, self-assured woman who enjoys submission in a negotiated power exchange?
What's funniest to me is some of these guys say "men are not trying to hold women down" and "there's no such thing as sexism any more in Western countries" but then tell you women are all meant to be subservient to men in some fashion.
Either way, submissive I ain't.
It's not a bad wish. However the guy must keep in mind one thing. Just because the woman is submissive it doesn't mean that he should treat her badly or walk all over her. The guy should treat her well, should treat her good, the guy should respect and understand her submissiveness.
lol first of all
expecting something is okkay, but it should not be a necessary condition for being in relationship with the person.
so it's acceptable
you can say that it's natural for a girl to be submissive
expecting/wanting is not bad. it's okkay if it's not a necessary condition.
many girls are not submissive, they're bold and dynamic. It's their nature.
if you don't like anybody's nature, then don't think of making her your girlfriend...
No. Women want dominant men and men want submissive women. It's been like that for a bazillion years - you can't undo that.
If a woman does not want to submit to her man then she should go it on her own.
If a woman dominates a man she will eventually lose all respect for him, and come to loathe him over time.
It just doesn't work.
The FI keeps trying to say that everyone is the same. Equal say is one thing, but the genders are simply just not the same.
I am very assertive in real life. Being a skinny, short arse, I have to be. But in the bedroom, I turn very sub. Nothing wrong with that at all.
it's like saying "i want a confident gf". there's nothing wrong with it. it's your personality preference. as long as you don't want to disrespect her n make her your slave its all fine.
I think its perfectly acceptable to have a preference. I was searching for a Dominant woman when I met my girlfriend. I don't think most people search for a Dominant or a submissive partner but I think its fine if people do
I think it's very natural, and even I'm okay with them. Women who hate guys for liking subs are just ones who like to be in control yet think you're bad for wanting to be in control. Block 'em out and keep wanting what you want.
Dude what real man wants a woman that wants to fight or have control over the wheel? A straight up sissy and submissive punk.
I desire a submissive woman because I want to lead the relationship or marriage as a man suppose to.
And besides submissive woman are super sexy. I'm not talking about a doormat kinda woman, but rather a woman that lets a man be a man.
No, it's not a bad thing. That's your preference. Only you know what kind of relationship works for you and makes you happy. Everyone has their own preferences , and that's their prerogative , coz it's their life. It's right and normal if that's your personal preference
not sure what all guys mean by submissive but i think all of us.. or at least most of us wants a partner that wou;d do things for us and listen to our needs. This doesn't mean that submmissive girlfriend should do every single thing that man asks her for, because this will become eventually boring and predictable
and guys wamts to be the bosses bevause ""men ego"" so that would explain some things
it's weird to me. like women only come in two forms. submissive or dominant.
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