Guys want a submissive girlfriend. Do you find this statement to be true about most guys?

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I've never been able to understand most other guys tastes in girls. In this case it's how so many guys date submissive women. I've always preferred a stronger more independent women and don't understand the appeal of a girl like that.

I was wondering if I was the only one who thought this was happening a lot, and was hoping someone could try to explain to me why.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i think people have different definitions of submissive. to me submissive means that I let the guy take control a little bit. doesn't mean I can't have an opinion but I just let him feel like a man, I don't wear the pants. I kind of like being submissive even though I am a very opinionated girl. and from what I find men don't like overly controlling women.

i am dating an older guy and I am definitely submissive in the relationship but as long as he doesn't hurt me and treat me like a piece of crap I don't care. I am a bit old fashioned like that. he listens to my opinions and doesn't invalidate them. I just let him pick where we go for dates even though sometimes he asks me, I don't argue with him just to "get my way", I don't nag or try to control him. I treat him with respect and listen to his opinions and if I don't agree I state it in a polite way. I think a lot of times people confuse submissive with weak. to me it means not being overly argumentative or stubborn. I am drawn to a strong man though.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I see it happening also. I'm not very submissive, though. Nor is my boyfriend. If you want to see two alphas in a relationship, look at mine. I think for myself, do things on my own, don't need him for me to be happy. Granted, he certainly helps me be happy, but if he left, I wouldn't be dead forever like lots of girls. We butt heads a lot and argue sometimes. I tell him exactly what's on my mind and if he doesn't like it, he'll either say something or leave. I'm the dominant one among my friends, also. Both male and female. I'm not bossy or anything, but you can tell there's a great deal more respect toward me from my male friends than they have toward the other girls. Mostly because I can handle myself and the other girls just back down. I guess guys like submissive girls because they make them "feel like a man" and the relationship goes smoother if one is submissive and the other is in charge. I tried being submissive once...I ended up breaking the guy's nose. Oops.

crookthings · Accepted Answer

I don't think I've ever dated a super dominant, decisive guy, let alone a guy who wants me to want him to make MY decisions, and that's out of four pretty serious relationships. Then again, I've never been attracted to aggression :P

I (and the guys I date) might be a minority, I don't know.

DodgersGM · Accepted Answer

I like submissive in the bedroom and pretty damn close to fifty-fifty everywhere else. There's some people that enjoy the dominant-submissive dynamic to bleed into other areas of their relationship, and that's not really for me; I'm more the type that likes making decisions as a couple.

Of course, there will be times where I can take more of a leadership type role (that's phrased a little oddly, but I think you guys will get what I mean) in the relationship and I certainly wouldn't shy away from that. I just don't want to have to make every single little decision all the time; that sounds tiring and unfulfilling for me.

foolycooly1001 · Accepted Answer

An independent woman can be submissive in a relationship.  I think a lot of men want(at least I do) a woman who is independent but will be accommodating to me.  I don't want her to act like I'm giving her orders, but it's nice to know that she is there for me and will help me anyway I need(within reason).  I also prefer a submissive woman in the bedroom, but I want her to be outspoken enough to tell me what she wants me to do for her.

7gnat · Answer

I date a stronger and strong willed type of woman. I suppose it is because of how my mother was. I cannot explain why some guys date submissive women but I could guess. Maybe it is to make themselves feel more powerful. Personally I do not care who dates who. I just date who I like and whom I am attracted to.

2248576 · Answer

Men hate to be womanhandled by a woman because it hurts their masculinity which is why they want a submissive woman. Men hate tough bad girls. They want good girls who will make them feel better and won't hurt their feelings. Men hate being abused and humiliated by women but women will continue to abuse and humiliate men to feel more empowered.

Anonymous · Answer

not true. I had a submissive girlfriend who was actually a ticking timebomb waiting to explode (passive agressive). After she cheated on me, she blamed me for everything and brought up every little thing in the past. She never communicated or complained because she kept it all inside.

Submissive = passive aggressive = stay the f*** away

Anonymous · Answer

It drives my boyfriend nuts (and not in the good way) that I don't have an opinion on where we eat when we go out. Most of the menial decisions like meals and day-to-day activities he makes. Life decisions like whether or not we have sex, where we'll be in so many years, what kind of life we'll live...those decisions are the ones I make.

visual · Answer

A woman can still be strong, able to support herself, and willing to submit. Everyone submits, such is life. Are you just saying you want her opinion to be as strong as yours? I'm kind of confused.

AmberChick · Answer

Considering you like dominant woman you must be a submissive guy and those women go for you, don't they? The submissive women usually go for the dominant guy.

Zaphod · Answer

I guess it's for men who like to be in control, they wouldn't really want their girl to stand up to them.  and I guess they'd also like the girl to give into things easily. I'm not the submissive type. ha ha :L

haleyb · Answer

In my experience, no. Most guys either want a girl who's somewhat dominant (in decision making at least) or who is at least independent. Then again, I don't really surround myself with girls who would be submissive :)

Jay-Man · Answer

You would love to have a latina for a girlfriend. Strong, yet feminine. Outspoken, yet respectful. Loving, yet not afraid to kick your arse. Exotic, yet homely. Weak women are for weak men, the warrior princess wants a warrior king.

Twincapersred · Answer

I'm not sure how many guy like out and out submission ie all the decision making most I find like it equal  But I think most men like a lightly more if not completely submissive girl in bed

okenel · Answer

ive actually noticed the complete opposite to what you think and that is guys do* like more independent, outgoing, assertive girls. I've noticed this ever since I was little. I think guys get bored of quiet girls

jacquesvol · Answer

"Guys want a submissive girlfriend." WRONG! SOME guys want a submissive girlfriend.  I don't know if they're 10% or 25 or 33% or 51% or 66.6% of the guys. Do you know it?

why-makoto-kun · Answer

This is the stereotype. I think it definitely goes for controlling guys.

Anonymous · Answer

If the guy is one of those controling macho guys who need to be in charge. But normal ones? No.  I'm really assertive in my relationship as is my boyfriend.

Libra89 · Answer

well guys like girls who are easy-going and not forceful or pushy or bossy lol.

RedThread · Answer

You and me both bro.. I never understood it either.

Anonymous · Answer

Girls want guys who want submissive girlfriends.

Anonymous · Answer

No. guys these days seem to like to be mothered.

Anonymous · Answer

Not true, I prefer dominant girlfriends.

Anonymous · Answer

yes

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