How to make my virgin boyfriend feel special?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of 4 months is still a virgin and he isn't ready yet for sex, we only went as far as to perform oral on each other.
I had 5 guys before him, 4 bfs and 1 guy who played me, i crushed on this guy and he used this to have sex with me while making promises to be exclusive.

My boyfriend knows about all of this and he puts a lot of effort into making me feel special and happy.

As far as now he didn't showed any signs of being jealous and insecure about my past. But i think he might dislike it that he wasn't my first. He is pretty confident but he puts very much value on sex and thats why he didn't had sex with anyone even if he had the chance to. So cause i am far from being a virgin i guess it bothers him.

So because he makes me feel incredibly special i want him to feel this way too. I want him to feel as my one and only and that all the guys before him dont matter to me and are nothing against him (which is true, he is 10000% husband material and god dammit is he good at oral sex now)

What is the best way to make him feel special?
I want him to never think about my past badly, i want him to feel like the absolute winner.

[Metaanio]

I don't know about how to make him feel special, but I don't think he worries about you having earlier experiences. Your past happened with boyfriends, people who you liked and trusted, and I think he tries to prove he won't use you or leave you.

Just act as you will do same, care about him, communicate with him, if something gets awkward, don't get mad but laugh at situation. I don't know does it make it feel any special, but at least positive, but I believe you already knew this.

And I'm virgin so I kind of used what I would want as reference on this, but I'm not him and you know your boyfriend better than I do.

[HateYourCellphone]

Be with him during the event. I don't mean physically be there. I mean be there with every fiber of you. Emotionally, mentally, physically. Be dominant and submissive. Allow yoirself to be 100% vulnerable with out reserve. And... make sure you are listening to his body if he isn't vocal and words if he is.

Also and very important. Only ever say no if you mean it. Any negativity in the bedroom (or any other room... or Not a room if that's where you are) is forever remembered by men. One no usually means he won't try that thing ever again.

[albanderveni]

You want him to be REALLY HAPPY?
1. Understand that Love isn't the same as Sex.
2. Will you definitively have your life with him? If you are less than 99.999999% sure about this than, pack your bags and don't waste his time...
3. Give him time, A LOT OF TIME!
Can you do it? 5 months, 2 years? marriage? If you can't wait for that, please don't destroy his hart, and yours...

by the way, I'm 20 YO boy and still virgin? YES, I'm serious...
And I can't explain how I would feel if I broke up with my girlfriend after having sex with her...
-I wouldn't kill her, but likely will live my life deep in depression.. :/

I'm sorry if I sound rude but that might be because I don't know English really good!
Thank you for taking time to read this! :D
All the best!

[NeallyNeal]

The truth is he will always question or wonder about your past experiences and enjoyment... not the guys... maybe thier size..(no homo.. lol).. compared to his. Especially if he feels that his weiner is in a hallway.. lol.. keep it tight girl.. lol.. But seriuosly there is nothing you can do to make him feel more special other than treating him with love , respect, understanding and filling his needs.. physical and emmotional. I hope he will be mature about your past when you 2 argue and not through your past experiences back in your face in a hurtful way... good luck.. truly hopes this helps.

[Missterio]

even girls wonder about a guy's past, but if someone feels loved... it doesn't really matter in the end.

You are living in the now and not in the past.

Just love him as best as you can... and i dont mean just physically lol. Treat him well.

[MarkRet]

Just be patient with his sex technique (or lack of it). Let him cum inside you without a condom, and he'll experience paradise. He'll probably cum too fast, but don't laugh at him or put him down for it, and keep in mind, he'll probably be ready for round two in about 10 or 15 minutes. After that, you can both just enjoy whatever happens with each other.

[ggggsss]

I think that you should take inportance to sex until he is comfortable and talk to him and tell him that its not how he does it that you dony care about that, that the only thing that you care about is thay its him who os doing it and not other one. I think that will push a bit hi self steem

[YourTinman]

I was a virgin, once.

You want him to feel special, like he's the only man in the world for you?

Treat him as you've treated no other. Despite what some of these boys say on here, he's probably mature enough to know that you ate who you are because of all of your life experiences, even those that might be uncomfortable to dwell on. It sounds like he doesn't, by the way.

So give HIM a rose. Send HIM a card. Leave HIM a love note. He WILL feel special.

[Hassaniscool]

When you lost your v card

[YourTinman]

15 or 16

[YourTinman]

And im way over 19

[Foxywizard]

I think you shouldn't make a competition between him and your past. Your past is your past, fine. He's very noble, so now focus on each other, that's what matters. Plus I think, as regards love, thst sometimes people confuse exclusivity with deep and true feelings. If the latter are there, there's nothing to be afraid of.

[Anon-ymous1]

He ain't a virgin. Boys aren't virgins, we just have a first time. Not like girls. Anyway, just let him have you. He'll like it no matter what, probably. But yeah, he definitely cares that you aren't a virgin; I wouldn't bring it up to him, if I were you.

[Canadaman99]

vir·gin

ˈvərjən/

noun

1.

a person who has never had sexual intercourse.

synonyms:chaste woman/man, celibate; More

2.

a person who is naive, innocent, or inexperienced, especially in a particular context.

"a political virgin"

adjective

1.

being, relating to, or appropriate for a virgin.

"his virgin bride"

synonyms:chaste, virginal, celibate, abstinent; More

2.

not yet touched, used, or exploited.

[Canadaman99]

Wtf are you on about, guys can't be virgins?

[Anon-ymous1]

@Kolton "his virgin bride"

There you go bud.

[Canadaman99]

You say this like it proves your point that guys aren't virgins...

[Anon-ymous1]

@Kolton We're not.

[Canadaman99]

Except by the very definition of the word you have to be at some point

[Canadaman99]

Again:
vir·gin

ˈvərjən/

noun

1.

a person who has never had sexual intercourse.

synonyms:chaste woman/man, celibate; More

2.

a person who is naive, innocent, or inexperienced, especially in a particular context.

"a political virgin"

adjective

1.

being, relating to, or appropriate for a virgin.

"his virgin bride"

synonyms:chaste, virginal, celibate, abstinent; More

2.

not yet touched, used, or exploited.

[Anon-ymous1]

@Kolton Nah. It's more complicated than that.

[Canadaman99]

Explain?

[Canadaman99]

How can it possibly be more complicated than the literal definition of the word.
A person who hasn't had sexual intercourse=virgin

[Anon-ymous1]

@Kolton Is there anything physical on or about a guy that would let you know he had never had sex before? Or would you simply have to take his word for it?

[Canadaman99]

Lmao the inability to prove it doesn't make it impossible for men to be virgins, in fact the woman can't prove it 100% as it can be a false flag to base a womens virginity off of physical signs

[Canadaman99]

Also a toddler is incapable of having sex but is a male. Is it not a virgin?

[Anon-ymous1]

@Kolton Sigh. Think what you like man.

[Canadaman99]

Its not thinking. Its literally fact. Both in a scientifical and in a literary sense.

[Canadaman99]

Scientific*, not sure why my phone made it scientifical lol

[JackofSpades]

He sounds like he is saving himself for his one and only soulmate. (Pretty cool if you ask me) What you want to do with a man like this is find some way to prove to him you are in this for the long haul. What that is exactly only you can answer. But whatever you do DO NOT FUCK THIS GUY AND THEN LEAVE HIM. You will likely break him beyond repair.

[Tdieseler]

Simple... fuck him. i mean... thats all it will take. Until then? all this shit is just speculation. Virgin guy... wow... you know, i can live with that, but "he isn't ready for sex"... now im stumped.

[Missterio]

well some guys are like this, believe it or not mr. "alpha" male lol

[Missterio]

and yes if i sound blunt it is intended lol...

not to be rude. just the world isn't always as cynnical as you want to see it ;P

[Tdieseler]

@Missterio someone has been snooping all in my porridge huh... and yea, i know guys like that, why? cuz i get a kick out of teasing the SHIT out of them. Finding new ways to tease em horribly and deliver it in clever ways tickles me so much it makes my leg shake :)

[Missterio]

lol i imagined a dog just now :P

[Tdieseler]

@Missterio that was the image i was trying to make. thats how happy i feel when i want to tease the living shit out of some virgin.

[Missterio]

lol virgins are cool 8)

[Tdieseler]

@Missterio maybe on your planet... on mine... they irk the shit out of me. When its female, i see "worthlessness" and when its male... i see "moron"... either way, they irritate me. Why? no experience... just speculation.

[Missterio]

no... the answer is, i believe, because you can't understand them. but fine :P

see ya around.

[Tdieseler]

@Missterio huh? i can't understand them? umm... I WAS A VIRGIN TOO!!!

[Missterio]

can't understand why a virgin would want to wait more than he has to, is what i mean.

i may be wrong though. but it is my insight.

[Tdieseler]

@Missterio yes... yes!!! you get it...
i can't understand females either... I've always said that those "for marriage" female virgins are probably worthless as shit and have nothing else to offer so they clutch on to that virginity tight because its the only thing they think will make em seem worthy or some shit... and they put a price on it... "till marriage"... lol.
when i first heard that shit... i went "okay, so i'll marry you, fuck you, then divorce you"... then what? lol... evil right? i know. but it makes me laugh.
stupid cunts.
Virgins piss me off... and the for marriage ones... ugh... this is only a minuscule version of how much they irritate me.

[hornejack]

I too am a virgin, and I guess I think my first time should be with someone I really care about. But I'm very shy and find it hard to connect with people

[aditbharadwaj]

Gemma is that you asking about our situation... :o
(joke aside)
Jusr make him feel special as in just don't force him into intercourse that's will ruin the mood u guys are already into oral soo it won't mind plus do a tons of foreplay that push a man to explore longer foreplays makes things go faster after.. Do make him feel that he is ur 1dt too he won't think about past then.. Good luck

[aditbharadwaj]

Iam not saying u should fake it but explore things so that his thoughts don't wander off good luck

[ZachTheBananaMan]

Well he is most likely either wanting to start a family or he is waiting to make a move. You have to show him you are wife material. Tell him that you love him face to face. Look into his eyes while you do it. That way he will know you want to be with him. I can't speak for every guy out there but I love it when a girl asks for my shoulder to cry on. It shows me that a girl trusts me enough to let out her emotions onto me.

[Anonymous]

21 year old virgin here. Low key just let it happen once it gets to that point, I think he'll want the full experience of lovemaking to flush him from all other thoughts, to only think of you at that moment with those umm... passionate thrusts. Just set the mood in the room at some point with dimmed lights, or maybe it can happen in the shower, or after a nice dinner (but don't make him too full).

[DrewMckenzie]

Take him out and do something that day that he really loves then come home and again do what he loves then excuse ur self to leave for a bit set up the bedroom and cover his eyes and lead him in and be sexy and alureing

[AlwaysBelieving]

Do NOT, I repeat, do NOT pressure him into vaginal sex. Just let him cum (pun intended) to you. Give him lots of attention and understand that it won't happen until he is ready.

[Guanfei]

Let me tell you. You don't need to know that. Because i'm pretty sure he already feel blessed to be with you.
It looks like your past bothers you more than him. That you think it bothers him while he may not really care.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You're boyfriend received oral sex. He isn't a virgin anymore.

[Asker]

Well yes but i just meant he hadn't had sex.

[johnboymuscles]

How do you both give oral and nit naturally progress to sex. Blow him then lay back. Gaze at him and tell him to put it inside

[Anonymous]

Please don't fuck that kind and innocent guy through her destroyed pussy it's really hard to be alike him

[Lumberman53]

Make him go further but don't go so quick you make him too uncomfortable with you