So for a bit I've been wanting to tell this guy that really likes me that I don't feel the same way but I've been waiting for an opportune moment. Anyway yesterday he asked if I wanted to meet up with him so I thought it was my opportunity to tell him. Now I was as nice about a rejection as I could have been, I tried to be reasonable and explain to him that I really liked him and his company but I didn't want to give off too much of the wrong impression. I mean maybe I was wrong to tell him this but I think it's a lot better to be honest now than keep leading him and having to reject him further down the line or just ending up in a relationship I'm uncomfortable with. Anyway when I told him he responded really bluntly with fine. I tried to have some correspondence with him and act as if nothing had changed because I've been treating him like a friend all the time anyway so I thought I'd just carry it on. I tried to check he was ok and ask him to share he thoughts with me because I honestly wanted to be his friend and for him to understand my decision. Anyway he was being rather immature and wasn't really reciprocating my efforts so I thought I'd leave him, because I too would've been upset and might have wanted some alone time. Anyway since he seems to have really gained a mean streak. He's been telling all my friends I'm a total bitch and is trying to turn everyone against me. Then he blocked everyone from his snapchat story but me and wrote a message saying fuck you. Anyway now I'm really upset because I want to be friends with him and even if he doesn't want to do that I at least would like us to be civil. I really don't want to be making enemies and I feel like I'm being portrayed as be bad guy here... am I in the wrong? Should I try and solve this or just leave him to it if he's going to be so immature about matters?
I've told a guy I don't like him romantically and he's taken it really badly what should I do?
You don't do anything except move on. He has to deal with the problem. If he doesn't want to be friends, you can't force him, and neither can he force you to date him. 9/10x he wants a sexual relationship. If he isn't willing t start out as friends first to get to truly know each other as well as who you are, what you both believe in and in to, etc. Let him go. He called you a B? Drop his butt! I've been there, done that, and I highly suggest you just focus on your studies and leave his crazy butt alone. His behavior is no excuse. It's not your fault! You hear me? Don't do what I did and allowed myself to suffer for nearly 8 years of my life over something I thought was MY FAULT. It's not. He is NOT good for you. And anybody who has a problem with it, you let them know you're not dating somebody who treats you like garbage. He's fake. And you don't date fake. They want to know, show them proof on your phone directly. Just don't gossip or spread rumors like he is. They'll know who he really is. A fake. Then leave him be. He's going to end up miserable. And it will be all his fault. Guys like him don't change easily. Trust me when I say.
I would have asked you to be nice with him If I didn't get to know that he started being mean to you and doing things which were not supposed to be done by a sober guy. Now that he isn't in the mood to understand your feelings, don't be overly nice to him. Try to refrain yourself from going close to him. Act normal. But if he tries to cross his limits by speaking ill against you then clear things to him right there. Be bold. You are not doing anything wrong. Your intentions were to show him your views and to safe him from further damage. He isn't in the right state of mind right now.
Leave him. Don't desire such friends. You will find better ones.
You just have to ignore him completely, you already made your choice and he can do is deal with it.
He doesn't deserve any favors from you. Especially after reacting the way he did. You don't have to spite him or anything and can be as cordial as you want but give him any room and he'll step all over you and call you a bitch while he's at it.
Honestly you dodged a big bullet and you did it the best you could considering his feelings and all, just make sure to stick by your decision and all that. Stay strong like they say.
Just leave him to it.. if he was being immature that's not a man that's a boy. You could of done the wrong thing and faked loved him but you didn't you did what was right! Let him have his temper tantrum and if he's mature he will take it like a man and not a boy :')
You cannot be friends with him, it's not an option. He's probably just lashing out because he feels like you led him on already, and If you try to be friends with him your just continuing to lead him on. Just stop talking to him completely and he'll get over it
Its not your fault. Its not his fault either. I know the feeling that he's feeling currently and he's not angry with you at all. He's upset with himself and is letting it out on you through others as a way to cope. Its a really hard situation for someone to be in, but know its not an attack on you personally and you've done nothing wrong. He needs time to process it and maybe then you could be friends. His reaction is abit immature but that can be due to innexperience so i can understand it. I hope it turns out well.
He was hurt pretty badly and will take some time to recover it seems. Don't push it. If he starts coming around and stops being angry, then you can try to console him some. That will make you feel better. Part of me is saying you should put your arm around him and say you are sorry for hurting his feelings but you don't have a romantic interest right now. It is really hard though because you should not be a victim.
Well sis, here's the real answer: There's nothing you can do.
You hurt him, even though you didn't mean to. You didn't do anything wrong, it's just that rejection really hurts people, and that's what he's feeling. You can't do anything but give him time, and if he comes around, then he comes around, and if he doesn't, he doesn't. It's out of your hands now. He isn't going to react a certain way just because you want him to, just like you wouldn't if the tables were turned.
@slatyb Yes... I know. And that hurt him. As you can see, I also wrote "even though you didn't mean to." Rejection, even if it's done well, still hurts.
You just friend-zoned his ass so the nicer you're to him the meaner he'll treat you, just don't talk to him anymore he already showed you how immature and selfish he is, not even worth worrying about his feelings, so yeah, ignore him.
just give him time. it's a blow to his ego that will take some time to recover from. just give him time. i imagine in time he may come back around... unless he was only friendly with you as a means to a romantic relationship with you
Come on. cutie. Don't care about someone who don't care about your feelings. He is trying to trap you. That's clear. Don't think about it at all. Concentrate on career and studies.
Nothing you can do... Breaking up sucks Period... It is not your responsibility to make him feel better.. he will be ok... Truly, we all have to get through it, to learn how to go through it again later
I was that guy. You can't do anything about it, belive me. You are not guilty for that. Just observe him as his ego which he identify as himselfs burns. Observe the fire, but do not attach to it.
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