It is usually not, and never solely, the woman that causes a violent reaction from a man. Either they've been drinking, they've been raised to believe it's okay under certain circumstances, their temper/ego is controlling their actions, they are a little messed up in the head, they are taking out their own hurt (stress, pain, anger) on the woman because they don't know how to deal with it (most likely), they're total aholes (also most likely), or some other assortment of reasons. In most scenarios where the man gives some excuse that the woman caused it it is more like she's the straw that broke the camel's back. There were tons of aggravating/stressful things messing with his emotions already, and she was the unlucky one who accidentally set him off. Men who do this kind of thing usually have problems with their temper and can't or won't rationally deal with work or home related issues. It can sometimes stem from them receiving the same treatment from a bully or even their own parents. Sometimes the woman can be a large contributer to the pile up of junk he decides he should punish her for, but in large her actions were probably pretty insignificant, and he just ran out of places to stuff his other anger.
It honestly depends on the situation... Women can perpetuate it by staying and not calling the police. Some women try to get their man to hit them. Some women decide to date a dangerous or aggressive individual...
But there is no doubt the men are bad.
boys, men... are always taught this one thing " boys never cry..." but not this..."never make girls cry" why can't people understand.. that girls, women... are human beings too... just cuz we have become their girlfriends, wives etc. etc. doesn't mean they get to exercise their physical power on us...
just one thing... girls..
we all will have to become strong against this...
if your man hits you... or if anyone hits you... don't stay... just cuz you are scared... even if it means risking your life, cuz this can happen to anyone else to... so why let it happen to others we'll end it so that others don't have to face it. we are strong.
@shan_shan there are women who instigate. And there are some men who use their woman's behavior as an excuse to be aggressive. But not every circumstance of abuse is caused by the woman herself. People should just know better to walk away when things are getting ugly.
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u You can't help how you feel but you can help how you react.
No matter how angry you get just don't hit.
listen, at the end of the day no matter how provoked someone is, everyone has control over their own actions! there's no argument against this. HOWEVER, I will say that it pisses me off when women get physical with a man and then if he even just grabs her or puts hands on her to get her to stop hitting him, she acts like it's wrong. because, you know, "men can't hit women" smfh some people are so hypocritical it truly blows my mind
Is it possible? In rare occasions, probably. Normally however, no. It is not.
Think about this for a second:
Say a cop mistakes me for a suspect and shoots me with a tazer. I didn't bring it on my self; it was the cop's fault.
Now, here is a different scenario: Say I walk up to a cop car and greet the officer standing near it. I say, "Good afternoon officer. Nice weather we're having today! By the way, look what I can do!" I then take out my multi-tool and slash his tires just for fun. In that situation, I'd be lucky just to get tasered if I weren't beaten, maced or shot, and justifiably so.
Anyone man or woman should take responsibility for their own emotions and have the maturity to be able to control themselves. If they are under the influence of drugs or alcohol, they are no less culpable because they should know their limits of control or not risk partaking.
The abused party also needs to have enough self respect to leave if necessary. But it likely wouldn't come to that if my first point was realized.
No. Just flat out no.
Every relationship has situations where the two people annoy or anger each other, at some time. Men who cannot control themselves when that happens and resort to abusive behavior are to blame. Women do sometimes do abusive things too, it's not just men, but the abuser is ALWAYS to blame.
Some deal with anger with violence. It is their choice (though usually subconsciously) to react that way, but their behavior is motivated by certain reactions. So both are involved in the creation of the action, but the attacker is in ultimate control.
I don’t know about statistics but that was the case at my house growing up. My mom would hit and throw things at my dad and he’d have to fight back physically in self defense. Sometimes he’d hit her first because he knew that would calm her ass down before she attacked him. My momma was crazy but thanks to God she got over it and they’re still together over 30 years.
Mixture of the two. Toxic relationships between toxic people result in these kind of things. Or jack shit man who has no respect for women beats them for commanding position so to say. Some women I won't lie have it coming due to some of them running their mouth and not leaving well enough alone especially when the man drops it. But, this street goes 2 ways. Number of factors honestly
That's some victim-blaming mentality. Violent treatment of non-violent offenders is squarely the fault of the attacker. They're messed up psychologically.
This question makes no sense, and yes you are absolutely right to precise that physical abuse will never be okay, in any circumstances, be it man or woman. But asking if the woman is the reason, or the man is the reason... I mean, the reason ain't gonna be the giraffe.
I never had a girlfriend but I had an abusive mother that was constantly beating my issues in my face. Issues, by the way, that I trusted her with, that she is now using to to hurt me psychologically because I spoke out about her crap. If I didn't have to worry about the consequences of beating up a woman I'd very well have done it, she deserved it.
Women have this horrible characteristic about them where they think that because they have a vagina, they’re above the rules and the playing field isn’t equal. They think their vagina affords them the right to be able to provoke a guy physically or any other way and that she’ll just have this protective bubble around her protecting her from any retaliation. I wish nobody physically assaulted anyone, but everybody has their line and if a woman pushes a man pas his line, she should be able to get beaten just like a man would. After all, women need equality, don’t they?
Yes. Females are born sociopathic. They INTENTIONALLY go full cray-cray when arguing and they turn every little thing into a war. A woman tries to get her guy as angry as she can, and not often do women wish to actually have a productive discussion.
Yes, there are plenty of guys and girls out there who resort to violence too early. But girls often escalate the hostility of the conflict.
Neither female and male should assault each other. If a girl is hitting a dude, she should expect to get hit back; dude has a right to defend himself.
No it is usually passed down from there parents. Women sometimes become irrational in thinking, it is similiar to the nightingale effect or. A kidnap victim caring for the kid-napped. But no one deserves to be beat, unless there trying to harm you.
Nope not at all. Its the guys fault. By that logic you could blame rape victims because they caused a reaction in the rapist
No. No matter how much a woman provokes a guy, that does not justify him to beat her. Men who beat women have serious anger issues and think that it is justifiable to vent their anger on their wife/girlfriend.
No, but they do enable or let this type of behavior pass by because of “love”...
No. It's the man who is a B**** for hitting a woman. I will just leave her ass behind if she is the kind to anger me much.
I'm sure it's true in some cases, but those situations are rare.
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