Moving in with anyone that ins't immediate family is actually a big deal that take a LOT of trust of trust commitment. Even living with best friends can be an emotional roller-coaster, or a highway to Hell. You;ll never truly know someone until you've tried living with them.
So, YES, he's very serious about you.
Ignore that one anon dude who thinks that this is just about money, because he's obliviously never had to evict a roommate that stopped paying. Once someone is on the lease, they can get away with living rent free for at least 6 weeks minimum. The process alone takes 30 days, and that's after having to wait on the filing to go through before you can even start, which can take up to 30 days alone.
Whether or not he is serious depends on many things. He might hate being alone, you might be handy for washing, ironing, housework, cooking, it might be that he wants more sex and more regular sex, do not assume that moving in with you means he loves you or he will be faithful. A lot of the women who come to me for relationship insight and predictions are living with their boyfriends, yet their boyfriends disappear on them, cheat on them, lie to them, mess them around, they just want her to be there at their beck and call or because she is useful. Only YOU know if your boyfriend loves you or not.
You better be prepared for this cause he basically wants you in his life and wants you as his wife. Anyone and everyone knows ( or at least I think they do) that when you start living with with your partner its pretty serious now. Cause only people that are married sleep and live with each other. Married or not. Its looked at as a serious relationship
Maybe yes. Maybe no. Things could be serious which would be great for you both to be able to share space together. I’m not saying this is your case, but I’ve seen girls get used because the guy just needed a place to stay. Only you can judge the status of your relationship
Hopefully it does mean he is serious and wants to take your relationship to the next level. But there can be many reasons to move in together. It could be that he likes the company and doesn’t want to be alone. Or maybe the sex is amazing and he wants it all the time. It could be to cut down on costs and for you two to share the bills. Maybe he just wants to be with you and doesn’t see an end to the relationship but has no desire to get married. The best thing to do would be to ask why he wants you to move in and see if you like his response. You’ll know if it’s genuine or not. I hope you get the response you want and everything works out.
some people use the "Move together thing" as a test rather than wanting to spend more time with you. and there's also practical people who really just need help with overall bills. but it does mean that he likes you enough to be around you constantly. rejoice.
Not necessarily. Just look at his actions. Will you guys be splitting bills, if so that may be the reason. He could need help with bills. If you guys are not splitting bills and he's looking to take care of you, I don't know he may be serious. It's not like he's ask for your hand in marriage. If you move in, and live as being married without the actual marriage, he probably won't or will take a really long time. Just weigh your options throughly and think about what you'd do in your worst care scenarios.
If he needed her to just split the bills he could get a roommate and not give up his personal space doing it. And if he does have her split the bills doesn't mean he's not serious about his love for her. A man doesn't have to financially take care of you to prove his love. You take care of each other.
This is my opinion not a debate. I will say, It's much easier to get your girl to move in than to get a roommate who isn't your girl. Also that is not all I said. It's many factors to look at. I think it could mean he wants to be serious but I also don't necessarily think that. Some guys will outright tell you some won't. Some will let you move in but still be going to the next woman's house to have sex. Don't try to come for me..
But telling her that he may be serious if he doesn't make her split the bill and takes care of her is bad advise. Why not say if he makes you split the bill but yet takes care of you then he may be serious. The way you put it makes it sound like him financially taking care of her is more likely that he's serious. And there's a reason why there are reply buttons. You may not like what I said but I want to make sure this girl doesn't throw her relationship down the toilet because he ask her to help with bills. And it's not hard to find a roomate. Plus you say it's not a debate yet you debated my reply. So clearly it is. But thanks for clearing it up.
To the original poster. My advice is not bad advice because it is different from others. It is practical and reasonable. I don't recall telling you to throw your relationship away. Just to clarify I don't want you to or think you should do that. I do think that you should not take him as wanting to move in together as a sign he is serious, necessarily. The fact of the matter is that I don't know him or you. It could mean that depending on his personality. There are plenty of factors to consider. I suggest you weigh them all and do what is best for you. I wish you the best.
Not exactly. I know many guys who would want to move in with any girl they find hot if it's convienent for them. Doesn't mean the guy sees that girl as their future wife or as the person of their dreams. My boyfriend liked the idea of us moving in together but he tole me a month later he didn't love me anymore. We still stayed together and he still liked the idea of us moving in together. He was going through trust issues because of his parents divorce that had just happened. But he told me he didn't see me as the one. Yea I don't know why I stayed with him. But I wouldn't move in with someone unless we are married. Even my professer told me she would not want her son moving in with a girl because it's hard to live with someone. Studies showed that guys were more open to that idea than girls for some reason.
Moving in means he just wants to use you for sex as often as he can.
I don't know if you have a goal of being serious, but he'll come to see you as a leisure thing rather than a soul mate if you let things happen that way.
As the saying goes, "No man buys the cow if he can get the milk for free."
Yes. It's a step couples eventually take when they are serious about each other. He obviously sees a future for you both , and wants to build a life together long-term
Unless you make good money and he could gain something other than love with you living with him. I'd say most of the time a guy is serious when he gives up his freedom and personal space to share it with a woman.
It means he wants you to live with him. But if you want to be married with children, then I suggest that you set a time limit on this. One year and either he is willing to marry you or it's time to move on.
So you don't think being together for two years means he's serious? I hate pointing out obvious, you're together for two years and now he wants to live together... You really have to ask a bunch if strangers about this?
I wouldn't want to live with someone I don't want to see often. That's just torture then and too much awkwardness. I would only offer to live with someone I want to see often.
Not necessarily but it also depends on the context of the situation. Maybe he is or maybe he needs help affording the cost of living and you’re the perfect candidate to live with. The economy these days is brutal.
In my opinion it's just a good sign. It doesn't mean he's totally serious but he's definitely getting there. Just be glad that most likely he ain't cheating or seeing someone behind your back.
I have no idea how he thinks, or what the situation is. But 2 years is about right anyway. So long as you are a team. If he wants to watch football and have you make the nachos and yells, "Get me a beer," you may want to reconsider. But I get the sense that you are having doubts about the authenticity of his feelings for you. This requires psychology. Too many people just settle for anything, just to avoid being lonely. Codependency is a good term to check out.
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Don't move in permanently, until you've done sort of a trial run first.. take some of your things with you, like your bathroom stuff, and spend some days over. If you like how he is in the morning and all that, then you can start talking about moving in permanently
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